I was watching a video yesterday, and there was a lovely tidbit that may help to answer this question, if I understood you well...
Why are we called to walk worthily? (if Jesus does all the walking for us)
An analogy was drawn up ...When God spoke to Moses in the bush ... what was interesting about that was that the bush was not consumed by God's fire.
Like the bush, neither are we consumed by Him. We are with Him, He is with us, we are a new creation in Him ... but our identity is not consumed.
God created each of us a little differently from one another ... we have different interests, different talents etc ... and God enjoys these things about us. He asked Adam to name the animals because He was curious what Adam would name them.
Even when we are reborn, we are not robots ... God wants us to exercise being righteous in HIM, while maintaining our "selves" that He created.
The free will He gave us was never revoked, not even after we were reborn ...
I asked Him once to please exercise His own will through me (that way I would not have to worry about being obedient - He would do it for me) - but I'm pretty sure he responded that that was not an option - that I was moreover urged to do His will with my own will. [\B]
Wonder if this all makes sense to anyone ...