Christian Dating

[Tintin]

Bible give us more strictly instruction than kissing before marriage. KJV.Matthew5;28 But I say unto you, That whosoever lookeh at a women o lust after her has committed adultery with her in his heart. Real Christians obey Bible in every step in their life. They stay away from instructions of this World like dating. In some churches, young people ask pastors to find wifes for them.In this way, they believe that Father did for them in the perfect way.Its help them to live without sin before marriage and obtain their blessing from Father for future life in marriage.

First of all, that Bible verse is largely irrelevant, since lust is different from love. You can be in love with someone before you're married to them. You can desire someone in a godly way without lusting for them. This aversion to dating is silly. The important thing is to define what is meant by dating and work from there. And to expect a pastor to find a wife for you is a bit much, for many reasons. But pastors already has enough on their plate. They don't need even more work!

 

[Tintin]

It is alright to date a person,as long as it is not intimate,in a sexual way,which would include kissing,because that would be a source of temptation on their part,which God did not say you can steal a piece of bubblegum,but do not steal a car.If a couple is not married,they should have no intimate contact at all.

Could they hold hands would seem harmless to some people,but I believe they could not even hold hands,for that is not 2 people on a date,but that suggests more of an intimate nature between them.No intimacy whatever that is outside of 2 people only enjoying each others company,and conservation.Anything else beside that is them getting close to each other in a way they should not do.

But dating,within the boundaries of the Bible,whether the intention is wanting to get to know each other for possible marriage,or only wanting to hang around each other,would be okay,and you have to date someone,and hang around them,if you are wanting to know someone that you are interested in marrying,because you have to get to know them first.


So can you actually have a girlfriend,or boyfriend,at all,which it would seem like seeing there is no intimacy,that you could not say that,because then they are only friends,although close friends,but you could say you are engaged to the person.

It would appear that there is no such thing as a girlfriend,or boyfriend,to a Christian,because if there is no intimacy whatsoever,they would only be close friends at best,for they would only conduct themselves like friends,at best.

I do not know if the term girl,or boyfriend,in actuality,could apply.Is there such a thing,when at best they would only be friends,although they like to hang around that person,but I do not think they could label themselves that,for their conduct with that person,should be the same as all people they hang around with,nothing different.

I do not believe they can label themselves that,for to label themselves that would apply,that there is something different between them,than with other people,which if they are not married,their relationship should be the same with all people.

Um. It's up to you if you think kissing is going too far before marriage, but not even being able to hug each other or hold hands? That's patently ridiculous! Finally, if your relationship is the same as the one with all people you couldn't even have family and friends, let alone a boyfriend or girlfriend, which is kind of necessary to lead to marriage. If you're nothing more than friends, even close friends, you don't need to marry because there's no chemistry. I really don't see how a person would hope to get married if everyone is treated the same way.