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I believe revelator is both correct and wrong. I have never made a judgment as harsh as to say you’re going to hell. That judgment is reserved only for God and is forbidden. However I don’t believe that is in revelator’s heart. He is trying to warn people to stop sinning. Once I was convinced on a point and later learned I was wrong. My training was not complete.
God hates divorce and adultery is sin that can end in death. I always believed a woman could not remarry until her husband died because she is bound to him. I always wondered this doesn’t seem fair different rule for woman than man. End of subject. But just now for the first time I saw this word. But if the unbeliever leaves, let him do so. A believing man or woman is not bound in such circumstances; God has called us to live in peace. Be sure I compared this translation to about 40 different translations and everyone says man or woman or sister or brother. They all express the same idea.
None the less I have been witness to “The lord told me it is ok to commit adultery because my wife is sick”. People rationalize because they believe grace covers over all sins. But they deliberately refuse to acknowledge many scriptures that say deliberate willful sin is not forgivable.
Someone said You do not go to hell for committing adultery, you go to hell for rejecting Christ. Do you really believe if you sin rejecting Jesus commands you have not rejected Jesus. Jesus said if you love me you will obey my commands. He also said you reject my law even your prayers are detestable and again he said you reject my law I will reject your children.
We are not saved by the law but the law is our teacher. Without it you do not know what sin is so how can you overcome. Much more importantly without the law you do not know how to love. Don’t you know the law is called 7 times “Gods covenant of Love.” If you truly love your neighbor as yourself, you have fulfilled (obeyed every point) the law.
Revelator I suggest you take not of revelation where it says let the wicked continue to be wicked. Let the righteous continue to be righteous. Sorry this is poor paraphrase but this idea expressed. No man has perfect knowledge. Let us bear with one another like iron sharpens iron as we struggle to MT5:48 be perfect therefore as your heavenly father is perfect.
Blessings all
God hates divorce and adultery is sin that can end in death. I always believed a woman could not remarry until her husband died because she is bound to him. I always wondered this doesn’t seem fair different rule for woman than man. End of subject. But just now for the first time I saw this word. But if the unbeliever leaves, let him do so. A believing man or woman is not bound in such circumstances; God has called us to live in peace. Be sure I compared this translation to about 40 different translations and everyone says man or woman or sister or brother. They all express the same idea.
None the less I have been witness to “The lord told me it is ok to commit adultery because my wife is sick”. People rationalize because they believe grace covers over all sins. But they deliberately refuse to acknowledge many scriptures that say deliberate willful sin is not forgivable.
Someone said You do not go to hell for committing adultery, you go to hell for rejecting Christ. Do you really believe if you sin rejecting Jesus commands you have not rejected Jesus. Jesus said if you love me you will obey my commands. He also said you reject my law even your prayers are detestable and again he said you reject my law I will reject your children.
We are not saved by the law but the law is our teacher. Without it you do not know what sin is so how can you overcome. Much more importantly without the law you do not know how to love. Don’t you know the law is called 7 times “Gods covenant of Love.” If you truly love your neighbor as yourself, you have fulfilled (obeyed every point) the law.
Revelator I suggest you take not of revelation where it says let the wicked continue to be wicked. Let the righteous continue to be righteous. Sorry this is poor paraphrase but this idea expressed. No man has perfect knowledge. Let us bear with one another like iron sharpens iron as we struggle to MT5:48 be perfect therefore as your heavenly father is perfect.
Blessings all
Yes in Mark and Luke says it plainly, but it doesn't say it all. That is why we have to interpret Mark, Luke, Matthew and 1 Corinthians 7 all together and not each one by itself. In 1 Corinthians 7 Paul mentions if one divorce because of infidelity they are unbound from it. If they are unbound, IMO means totally free. If they can't even remarry, then they are still partly bound.
What a shame it would be, to have a single mom with kids with a (step) father figure it the house (especially a godly man). Satan is busy trying to destroy the family unit, let's not be an advocate for Satan, and make worse. ok? It is better to have father and mother both in the home while raising children.
What a shame it would be, to have a single mom with kids with a (step) father figure it the house (especially a godly man). Satan is busy trying to destroy the family unit, let's not be an advocate for Satan, and make worse. ok? It is better to have father and mother both in the home while raising children.
IMO, you don't understand that verse...What I think it is saying is this, If you willfully reject faith in Christ for the forgiveness of sins then there is no sacrifice (an earthly one, the old covenant system). the context is talking the old law vs. Christ. Paul said in Romans where sin abounds so does grace, but we are NOT to abuse this grace, it is there for the ignorant and weak.
I think couples in first marriages should exhaust every measure of reconciliation, but after that if it still doesn't work out, ask God for forgiveness and move on.
I think couples in first marriages should exhaust every measure of reconciliation, but after that if it still doesn't work out, ask God for forgiveness and move on.
I don't think I totally agree with you in the red area and I will tell you why I think that....
Besides the adultery thing... I personally have knowingly sinned and knew it was a sin at the time kind of like in your face God sin. Because at that moment it was what I wanted to do and this could be any sin not just adultery. But I have truly been repentant and have asked God to forgive me of known and unknown sins that I have committed and I believe that God has forgiven me. Up until I was 56 I really did not understand salvation and how it worked as in the free gift acceptance area and was more of I must do something to clean up to be good enough area.
Since 56 I have tried to be more aware of the Known sins those I want to do anyway and am in the process of staying in contact with God so I can hear His voice giving me instructions as to when to stop and not go further. I'd like to say I am 100% successful, but not so. That is where His forgiveness comes in when I stumble and I so appreciate the fact He gives me His hand picks me up and helps me dust off to start again. God bless you in your walk with Jesus.
Besides the adultery thing... I personally have knowingly sinned and knew it was a sin at the time kind of like in your face God sin. Because at that moment it was what I wanted to do and this could be any sin not just adultery. But I have truly been repentant and have asked God to forgive me of known and unknown sins that I have committed and I believe that God has forgiven me. Up until I was 56 I really did not understand salvation and how it worked as in the free gift acceptance area and was more of I must do something to clean up to be good enough area.
Since 56 I have tried to be more aware of the Known sins those I want to do anyway and am in the process of staying in contact with God so I can hear His voice giving me instructions as to when to stop and not go further. I'd like to say I am 100% successful, but not so. That is where His forgiveness comes in when I stumble and I so appreciate the fact He gives me His hand picks me up and helps me dust off to start again. God bless you in your walk with Jesus.
J
Good point, and of course not. This would make your worst case scenario of the situation, adultery, an unpardonable sin. Sin being sin, this would make salvation impossible for somebody having an unloving, unGodly thought, also, like lustful or hateful thoughts being as adultery and murder. (Legalistic people, especially all the mean, hateful ones out there, seem to have no idea how the Christian standard is much higher than the law, in the first place.) All would be damned. And only Jesus Christ fulfilled the requirements of the law, nobody qualified to throw stones. It is only faith in the Lord Jesus and His blood that can pay for our sin and save us from our fallen state, none of us holy to God's standard of perfect holiness, nor will ever be in the flesh. Read Romans 7.
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Yes, but the scripture you give is only one sided again and also you still have to understand the masculine nature of the culture that wrote the bible.
If she has sexual relations she becomes an adulteress, but the same is true with a man, if he as sexual relations outside his marriage he is an adulterer.
In the old testament it said he is then to take her as his second wife, the NT says you should be the husband to one wife.
Jesus clearly says divorce is acceptable if the reason is sexual immorality. The translation of fornication in some bibles is a miss-translation. The reason you can see that is because fornication is sexual acts before marriage, adultery is sexual acts of a married individual to a person they are not married to.
If a husband cheats on his wife he is guilty of adultery, and his wife has the right to divorce him.
If she has sexual relations she becomes an adulteress, but the same is true with a man, if he as sexual relations outside his marriage he is an adulterer.
In the old testament it said he is then to take her as his second wife, the NT says you should be the husband to one wife.
Jesus clearly says divorce is acceptable if the reason is sexual immorality. The translation of fornication in some bibles is a miss-translation. The reason you can see that is because fornication is sexual acts before marriage, adultery is sexual acts of a married individual to a person they are not married to.
If a husband cheats on his wife he is guilty of adultery, and his wife has the right to divorce him.
Not only was the culture 'masculine' but many laws God gave are patriarchal. Even the New Testament has patriarchal commands.
Some laws effect men and some effect women, and they aren't treated exactly the same in the Law because they aren't the same. There are laws related to a woman's period that men didn't have to follow, for example. Men fought in the military and women did not. Husbands could cancel wives vows, but not vice versa. A man paid a bride price for a virgin bride, but she did not pay one for her husband.
A man could give (as a concession due the hardness of their hearts) a writing of divorcement, but if a woman gave a man a writing of divorcement, it was not legal.
I can see an argument from that from the writings of Jesus. But I suspect the Jews did not see it that way because we don't see that taught in the Old Testament. If a married woman slept with another man, she could be stoned as an adulteress. If a married man slept with a virgin, he wasn't stoned for adultery. He had to pay a bride price and take the virgin to wife if the father-in-law would have her. The passage about a woman's marital rights to food, clothing, and sexual relations is in the context of a man taking a concubine as a second wife.
I can't find any scripture that says that a woman may divorce her husband. Can you show me one?
Some laws effect men and some effect women, and they aren't treated exactly the same in the Law because they aren't the same. There are laws related to a woman's period that men didn't have to follow, for example. Men fought in the military and women did not. Husbands could cancel wives vows, but not vice versa. A man paid a bride price for a virgin bride, but she did not pay one for her husband.
A man could give (as a concession due the hardness of their hearts) a writing of divorcement, but if a woman gave a man a writing of divorcement, it was not legal.
I can see an argument from that from the writings of Jesus. But I suspect the Jews did not see it that way because we don't see that taught in the Old Testament. If a married woman slept with another man, she could be stoned as an adulteress. If a married man slept with a virgin, he wasn't stoned for adultery. He had to pay a bride price and take the virgin to wife if the father-in-law would have her. The passage about a woman's marital rights to food, clothing, and sexual relations is in the context of a man taking a concubine as a second wife.
I can't find any scripture that says that a woman may divorce her husband. Can you show me one?
There are certain conditions to that...
Deu 24:1 When a man hath taken a wife, and married her, and it come to pass that she find no favour in his eyes, because he hath found some uncleanness in her: then let him write her a bill of divorcement, and give it in her hand, and send her out of his house.
Deu 24:2 And when she is departed out of his house, she may go and be another man's wife.
Deu 24:3 And if the latter husband hate her, and write her a bill of divorcement, and giveth it in her hand, and sendeth her out of his house; or if the latter husband die, which took her to be his wife;
Deu 24:4 Her former husband, which sent her away, may not take her again to be his wife, after that she is defiled; for that is abomination before the LORD: and thou shalt not cause the land to sin, which the LORD thy God giveth thee for an inheritance.
Deu 24:1 When a man hath taken a wife, and married her, and it come to pass that she find no favour in his eyes, because he hath found some uncleanness in her: then let him write her a bill of divorcement, and give it in her hand, and send her out of his house.
Deu 24:2 And when she is departed out of his house, she may go and be another man's wife.
Deu 24:3 And if the latter husband hate her, and write her a bill of divorcement, and giveth it in her hand, and sendeth her out of his house; or if the latter husband die, which took her to be his wife;
Deu 24:4 Her former husband, which sent her away, may not take her again to be his wife, after that she is defiled; for that is abomination before the LORD: and thou shalt not cause the land to sin, which the LORD thy God giveth thee for an inheritance.
Ah, but Moses put that in there because of the hardness of peoples' hearts. Jesus clarifies the issue quite well:
Matthew 19:1-12
1 And it came to pass, that when Jesus had finished these sayings, he departed from Galilee, and came into the coasts of Judaea beyond Jordan;
[SUP]2 [/SUP]And great multitudes followed him; and he healed them there.
[SUP]3 [/SUP]The Pharisees also came unto him, tempting him, and saying unto him, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife for every cause?
[SUP]4 [/SUP]And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female,
[SUP]5 [/SUP]And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh?
[SUP]6 [/SUP]Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.
[SUP]7 [/SUP]They say unto him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away?
[SUP]8 [/SUP]He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so.
[SUP]9 [/SUP]And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.
[SUP]10 [/SUP]His disciples say unto him, If the case of the man be so with his wife, it is not good to marry.
[SUP]11 [/SUP]But he said unto them, All men cannot receive this saying, save they to whom it is given.
[SUP]12 [/SUP]For there are some eunuchs, which were so born from their mother's womb: and there are some eunuchs, which were made eunuchs of men: and there be eunuchs, which have made themselves eunuchs for the kingdom of heaven's sake. He that is able to receive it, let him receive it.
Matthew 19:1-12
1 And it came to pass, that when Jesus had finished these sayings, he departed from Galilee, and came into the coasts of Judaea beyond Jordan;
[SUP]2 [/SUP]And great multitudes followed him; and he healed them there.
[SUP]3 [/SUP]The Pharisees also came unto him, tempting him, and saying unto him, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife for every cause?
[SUP]4 [/SUP]And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female,
[SUP]5 [/SUP]And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh?
[SUP]6 [/SUP]Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.
[SUP]7 [/SUP]They say unto him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away?
[SUP]8 [/SUP]He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so.
[SUP]9 [/SUP]And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.
[SUP]10 [/SUP]His disciples say unto him, If the case of the man be so with his wife, it is not good to marry.
[SUP]11 [/SUP]But he said unto them, All men cannot receive this saying, save they to whom it is given.
[SUP]12 [/SUP]For there are some eunuchs, which were so born from their mother's womb: and there are some eunuchs, which were made eunuchs of men: and there be eunuchs, which have made themselves eunuchs for the kingdom of heaven's sake. He that is able to receive it, let him receive it.
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My spouse put me away, when he asked for a divorce and cheated on me twice in the last 9 years all the while a Sunday school teacher. For those of you on here that want to quote scriptures as to why it would be adultery even for me to remarry(of which I have no plans of doing right now) after our divorce is final in a few months, to you I say, quote all you like but I know in my heart that God never meant for us to be alone and I know the peace he gave me when I prayed about this very thing. I am not seeing anyone as a matter of fact I hardly leave my apartment since I work from home and never have the opportunity to meet anyone. But if I did I would not feel guilty or condemned in the least.
What me and my children have gone through over the years, the verbal abuse, the loneliness, never hearing I love you, never having that intimacy, never having the support or affection a husband and father should give, I'm sure God was not pleased with him to say the least . I'm not saying I am perfect but I did give my children all the things that children should be given growing up. I know many people who have experienced similar situations and went through a divorce and prayed that God would bring the right person into their lives and guess what? He did! All of them are still together to this day, serving the Lord and very much in love as the day they met. They don't live with condemnation from God.
When I married my husband he was not a Christian. We were unequally yoked but I prayed continually that God would save him and he did. I do not know what happened. I know he had a problem with pornography for a while and I left him for 6 months early on in our marriage before he was saved because of it and his verbal abuse was crossing over to physical and that's why I left. I've given him more than enough chances. During the 6 months I left, he cheated on me with 2 other women. I gave him another chance when he begged me to come back. Add that to the other 2 women in the last 9 years and that equals 4 women total (well at least that I know of). I don't believe in my heart that God would begrudge me a little happiness for once in my life.
I'm 46, and is it so wrong for me to want someone to love me, hold me, be affectionate and intimate with me? In all the 24 years that I was married I never had that except the intimacy. That seemed to be the only thing he wanted from me besides being his maid, cook and bottle washer. Well up until 9 years ago after that I even lost the intimacy. So tell me again how wrong it is to want to be loved and cherished by someone? Tell me how God would find this as adultery on my part. Sorry he cheated, committed adultery several times as a Christian and he asked me for a divorce, told me he hated me on our anniversary this year and in the same breath said he loved the 27 year old girl. (funny thing is her and her (minister) husband hightailed it out of state just a month ago. Now he's drinking himself to death over his lost love.
Tell me again how you think God would want me to wait around for this man to get his life together? Sorry not happening. He killed any love I ever had for him. As a matter of fact he is dead in my eyes because the man I use to love no longer exist. I mourned that man 9 years ago and have been waiting for the proverbial shoe to drop ever since, and drop it did! He mocked me when I didn't worship the way he did, would belittle me in front of others. Tell me again how it's wrong for me to want happiness. My goodness, how many others have experienced the same type of relationships and continue to do so. Many commit suicide. I refuse to take that route. Instead I look to the author and finisher of my faith, my one and only Hope to find the real person that God intended for me, because I do believe that God has someone for each of us that He has chosen for us. I took that choice out of God's hand by marrying someone he did not send to me. I pray daily for God to bring someone into my life when the time is right who He wants me to be with. Someone who I will have things in common with, who will love, cherish, support, encourage, and spend time with me.
I refuse to believe that God is as heartless as some try to make him out to be. They use his word to prove a point without doing a full study in the Hebrew and greek. Line upon line, precept upon precept. If me remarrying someone is a sin and unforgivable then so is over eating, thinking unholy thoughts about the opposite sex, speeding, etc....Sin is sin if you want to look at it that way meaning everything I just mentioned would be unforgivable. And that my friends is not what the word of God teaches! Christ fulfilled all the laws and completed them upon the cross. When he looks at me, He doesn't see my sinful nature, He sees himself! That's what He went to the Cross for. To cover our sins because He knew we could never do it. He paid the debt in full for all past sins, present sins and future sins! Praise be to God, I don't and will never live under condemnation from God again so why should I accept it from mere man? The Book of Romans says it all.....That doesn't mean it's ok to sin but that our sin is covered if we do stumble.
What me and my children have gone through over the years, the verbal abuse, the loneliness, never hearing I love you, never having that intimacy, never having the support or affection a husband and father should give, I'm sure God was not pleased with him to say the least . I'm not saying I am perfect but I did give my children all the things that children should be given growing up. I know many people who have experienced similar situations and went through a divorce and prayed that God would bring the right person into their lives and guess what? He did! All of them are still together to this day, serving the Lord and very much in love as the day they met. They don't live with condemnation from God.
When I married my husband he was not a Christian. We were unequally yoked but I prayed continually that God would save him and he did. I do not know what happened. I know he had a problem with pornography for a while and I left him for 6 months early on in our marriage before he was saved because of it and his verbal abuse was crossing over to physical and that's why I left. I've given him more than enough chances. During the 6 months I left, he cheated on me with 2 other women. I gave him another chance when he begged me to come back. Add that to the other 2 women in the last 9 years and that equals 4 women total (well at least that I know of). I don't believe in my heart that God would begrudge me a little happiness for once in my life.
I'm 46, and is it so wrong for me to want someone to love me, hold me, be affectionate and intimate with me? In all the 24 years that I was married I never had that except the intimacy. That seemed to be the only thing he wanted from me besides being his maid, cook and bottle washer. Well up until 9 years ago after that I even lost the intimacy. So tell me again how wrong it is to want to be loved and cherished by someone? Tell me how God would find this as adultery on my part. Sorry he cheated, committed adultery several times as a Christian and he asked me for a divorce, told me he hated me on our anniversary this year and in the same breath said he loved the 27 year old girl. (funny thing is her and her (minister) husband hightailed it out of state just a month ago. Now he's drinking himself to death over his lost love.
Tell me again how you think God would want me to wait around for this man to get his life together? Sorry not happening. He killed any love I ever had for him. As a matter of fact he is dead in my eyes because the man I use to love no longer exist. I mourned that man 9 years ago and have been waiting for the proverbial shoe to drop ever since, and drop it did! He mocked me when I didn't worship the way he did, would belittle me in front of others. Tell me again how it's wrong for me to want happiness. My goodness, how many others have experienced the same type of relationships and continue to do so. Many commit suicide. I refuse to take that route. Instead I look to the author and finisher of my faith, my one and only Hope to find the real person that God intended for me, because I do believe that God has someone for each of us that He has chosen for us. I took that choice out of God's hand by marrying someone he did not send to me. I pray daily for God to bring someone into my life when the time is right who He wants me to be with. Someone who I will have things in common with, who will love, cherish, support, encourage, and spend time with me.
I refuse to believe that God is as heartless as some try to make him out to be. They use his word to prove a point without doing a full study in the Hebrew and greek. Line upon line, precept upon precept. If me remarrying someone is a sin and unforgivable then so is over eating, thinking unholy thoughts about the opposite sex, speeding, etc....Sin is sin if you want to look at it that way meaning everything I just mentioned would be unforgivable. And that my friends is not what the word of God teaches! Christ fulfilled all the laws and completed them upon the cross. When he looks at me, He doesn't see my sinful nature, He sees himself! That's what He went to the Cross for. To cover our sins because He knew we could never do it. He paid the debt in full for all past sins, present sins and future sins! Praise be to God, I don't and will never live under condemnation from God again so why should I accept it from mere man? The Book of Romans says it all.....That doesn't mean it's ok to sin but that our sin is covered if we do stumble.
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I want to point out a couple things in this post. A bad marriage does not give you freedom to remarry and the blood of Jesus does forgive adultry of remarriage. Yet if you stay in that marriage where is the repentence, because it was not a marriage God honored in the first place. So when does sin become ok to God? If you rob a bank and repent do you keep the money or return it? If you steal a car do you keep it or return it? If you truely repented you get it out of you possesion to its rightful owner because it was not yours to begin with. Many refer to the woman at the well having five husbands but forget what Jesus told her after that. He said and the one you have now is not yours.
For everyone who does not understand read these scriptures Matthew 5:31-32, Matthew 19:1-9, Mark 10:1-12, Roman 7:2-3 (the context of this passage is talking about how the law is dead and we are no longer underit. comparing it to marriage. So as long as the husbane is alive (the Law) the wife is bound to him), Luke 16:17-18 and 1 Cor 7-10-11. If this is not clear enough then there is nothing anyone can tell you whoever you are. Now I do believe that if the marriage ends in adultry the innocent one is now free to remarry but the guilty one is to remain unmarried. The only other reason the bible gives for divorce is if the unbeliever wants to leave you let them leave but that does not mean you get to remarry either. So if there is abuse you can leave it's smart to leave but you cannot remarry.
J
Is money the equivalent of a living, human soul, a spouse? You see a moral equivalence between dirty paper and a living soul? Would you be returning the spouse to a previous owner? Some double adultery, then? Or maybe we're just discarding the spouse? Maybe just throw them on the street? Likewise, is a human soul spouse a car, to be returned to a previous owner? Perhaps to be sold, on a used human lot? Then what, you'll feel all warm and sanctimonious?
John 7:24 Judge not according to the appearance, but judge righteous judgment.
Biblical Reasons To Divorce For Abuse
Battered spouses seeking biblical reasons to divorce for abuse will find scriptures to support a decision to end an unsavory relationship. When marriages turn sour because of one partner's tendency to inflict physical, mental, emotional, or sexual harm, the Bible offers some sound advice. While God hates divorce, or "putting away," He does not condone staying in an abusive union. In Ephesians, Chapter 5, husbands are commanded to love their wives and cherish them as their own flesh; and wives are charged to reverence the husband. No where in the Holy Word of God is there justification to beat or berate a spouse; and a battered man or woman has a right to dissolve a marriage that causes undue distress or harm.
"Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave Himself for it; That He might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of the water by the word, That He might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth it, even as the Lord the church" (Ephesians 5:25-29). Biblical reasons to divorce for abuse may apply when a husband fails to treat the wife with loving care. Just as Christ sanctifies and nourishes the Body of Christ, which is His Bride; exercising care to keep her unspotted and free from blemish; so should a man exercise care not to inflict blemishes and bruises on a beloved wife. Men are to love their wives, cleansing and pampering the female just as they would care for their own bodies. "Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband" (Ephesians 5:33).
I Corinthians, Chapter 7 addresses believers married to non-believers who also may be in abusive relationships. Biblical reasons to divorce for abuseinclude non-believers who are not "pleased to dwell" with a saved spouse. In many cases, non-Christians become violently opposed to a believer's lifestyle; some resort to physical or emotional battering to try and control the spouse who desires to serve God. The more a husband or wife who desires to follow Christ strives to attend church or become involved in fellowship with other believers, the more abusive a non-believing spouse can become.
The problem is that couples who are unequally yoked because of faith or a lack thereof are diametrically opposed. A Christian man or woman has professed a saving knowledge of Jesus Christ and has a desire to walk out a personal salvation through regular church attendance, prayer, worship, and holy living. Conversely, an unsaved mate not only serves the impulses of an unregenerated fleshly nature; but also can be used as a tool of Satan to torment the believer. Because of the intimate union of married life, believers are often forced to choose between the wishes and whims of an unsaved spouse versus those of the Savior. A battle of the wills can sometimes lead to domestic violence, including name calling, cursing, hitting, or a the very worse, sexual enslavement. All of these are biblical reasons to divorce for abuse. No one should stay in a home where their life or emotional well being is threatened. Help is available through the church or social service agencies offering counseling or temporary shelter for battered spouses, especially women with children.
If an unsaved spouse abandons a Christian mate, scriptures give biblical reasons to divorce for abuse and provide a way of escape for the believer: "But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace" (I Corinthians 7:15). A Christian spouse, therefore, has the right to divorce a mate who abandons the marriage, especially when physical, mental or emotional mistreatment is involved. God's purpose for marriage is not to allow His children to live in fear of their lives or safety, or to become a whipping post for an abusive spouse. Biblical reasons to divorce for abuse are clearly stated in the Holy Word of God. A believer who lives with an unsaved mate should exemplify a holy lifestyle; but there is no guarantee that a non-believing spouse will become a born-again Christian. "For what knowest thou, O wife, whether thou shalt save thy husband? Or how knowest thou, O man, whether thou shalt save thy wife?" (I Corinthians 7:16).
While the institution of marriage was designed to create a lifelong bond between one man and one woman, God never intended marriage to be bondage. Husbands or wives who find themselves in intolerable situations or are victims of repeated domestic violence, including emotional, mental or physical abuse, should not tolerate mistreatment. Biblical reasons to divorce for abuse can be found in the Holy Scriptures which allows Christian spouses to dissolve the union. In some cases, believers who are married to non-believers are also free to divorce if abandoned by a husband or wife. However, scripture prohibits remarriage after marital dissolution, except if the cause of the breakup was fornication or adultery. Biblical reasons to divorce for abuse are justifiable, but couples in crisis should seek marriage or relationship counseling from qualified professionals or clergy. Abusive spouses may need to attend behavior modification courses to reveal the root cause of a desire to inflict injury to a loved one. With the help of professional or spiritual adviser and prayer, God will lead those who are hurting to an equitable solution for both parties.
Battered spouses seeking biblical reasons to divorce for abuse will find scriptures to support a decision to end an unsavory relationship. When marriages turn sour because of one partner's tendency to inflict physical, mental, emotional, or sexual harm, the Bible offers some sound advice. While God hates divorce, or "putting away," He does not condone staying in an abusive union. In Ephesians, Chapter 5, husbands are commanded to love their wives and cherish them as their own flesh; and wives are charged to reverence the husband. No where in the Holy Word of God is there justification to beat or berate a spouse; and a battered man or woman has a right to dissolve a marriage that causes undue distress or harm.
"Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave Himself for it; That He might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of the water by the word, That He might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth it, even as the Lord the church" (Ephesians 5:25-29). Biblical reasons to divorce for abuse may apply when a husband fails to treat the wife with loving care. Just as Christ sanctifies and nourishes the Body of Christ, which is His Bride; exercising care to keep her unspotted and free from blemish; so should a man exercise care not to inflict blemishes and bruises on a beloved wife. Men are to love their wives, cleansing and pampering the female just as they would care for their own bodies. "Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband" (Ephesians 5:33).
I Corinthians, Chapter 7 addresses believers married to non-believers who also may be in abusive relationships. Biblical reasons to divorce for abuseinclude non-believers who are not "pleased to dwell" with a saved spouse. In many cases, non-Christians become violently opposed to a believer's lifestyle; some resort to physical or emotional battering to try and control the spouse who desires to serve God. The more a husband or wife who desires to follow Christ strives to attend church or become involved in fellowship with other believers, the more abusive a non-believing spouse can become.
The problem is that couples who are unequally yoked because of faith or a lack thereof are diametrically opposed. A Christian man or woman has professed a saving knowledge of Jesus Christ and has a desire to walk out a personal salvation through regular church attendance, prayer, worship, and holy living. Conversely, an unsaved mate not only serves the impulses of an unregenerated fleshly nature; but also can be used as a tool of Satan to torment the believer. Because of the intimate union of married life, believers are often forced to choose between the wishes and whims of an unsaved spouse versus those of the Savior. A battle of the wills can sometimes lead to domestic violence, including name calling, cursing, hitting, or a the very worse, sexual enslavement. All of these are biblical reasons to divorce for abuse. No one should stay in a home where their life or emotional well being is threatened. Help is available through the church or social service agencies offering counseling or temporary shelter for battered spouses, especially women with children.
If an unsaved spouse abandons a Christian mate, scriptures give biblical reasons to divorce for abuse and provide a way of escape for the believer: "But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace" (I Corinthians 7:15). A Christian spouse, therefore, has the right to divorce a mate who abandons the marriage, especially when physical, mental or emotional mistreatment is involved. God's purpose for marriage is not to allow His children to live in fear of their lives or safety, or to become a whipping post for an abusive spouse. Biblical reasons to divorce for abuse are clearly stated in the Holy Word of God. A believer who lives with an unsaved mate should exemplify a holy lifestyle; but there is no guarantee that a non-believing spouse will become a born-again Christian. "For what knowest thou, O wife, whether thou shalt save thy husband? Or how knowest thou, O man, whether thou shalt save thy wife?" (I Corinthians 7:16).
While the institution of marriage was designed to create a lifelong bond between one man and one woman, God never intended marriage to be bondage. Husbands or wives who find themselves in intolerable situations or are victims of repeated domestic violence, including emotional, mental or physical abuse, should not tolerate mistreatment. Biblical reasons to divorce for abuse can be found in the Holy Scriptures which allows Christian spouses to dissolve the union. In some cases, believers who are married to non-believers are also free to divorce if abandoned by a husband or wife. However, scripture prohibits remarriage after marital dissolution, except if the cause of the breakup was fornication or adultery. Biblical reasons to divorce for abuse are justifiable, but couples in crisis should seek marriage or relationship counseling from qualified professionals or clergy. Abusive spouses may need to attend behavior modification courses to reveal the root cause of a desire to inflict injury to a loved one. With the help of professional or spiritual adviser and prayer, God will lead those who are hurting to an equitable solution for both parties.