HOW TO SAY NO TO SEX?

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Careen

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1 Make a firm decision ahead of time...before you wind up in a pressure-filled moment.Decide well in advance that you aren't going to have sex until you are married .Otherwise, you might get caught up in the moment.

2 Avoid boredom. Make sure you plan what you are going to do when you are out on dates so you aren't left asking the question, '' What should we do now?"

3 Go out on groups. When you are around other people, you're less likely to do things you'll regret later.

4 Put real love first. When someone starts a sentence by saying, "If you love me, you'll..." then finish it by saying,"you'll respect me and not ask me to do something that's wrong for me."

5 Get support. It's easier to make big decisions when someone is there to support your convictions.The best supporter you have is MESSIAH, and He will always give you the strength and wisdom to say , "NO!"
 
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Indeed. :) It definitely starts now...before you're there, as you said. Set your boundaries up now and prepare yourself to know where you stand, what you believe and why, so you can give an answer before you end up somewhere you shouldn't be.

I once heard it said, "If you're already in the backseat of the car, fornication did not 'just happened'. You already planned to do it, which is why you were in the backseat in the first place."

If you know your boundaries, you will be firm in them. Anyone that attempts to get you to push your boundaries back even a little bit is someone that you need to flee from.
 
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alehandra

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im agree 100 %, every woman is precious in God's eyes..
 
Cobus

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Careen, I taught my daughters this....
God has a present that He gave you to give to ONE person, you CANNOT give it to two or more persons. It is an ONE TIME present.... If a man wants you to give HIM that present, just ask yourself.... IS THIS THE MAN GOD WANTS ME TO GIVE MY VIRGINITY TOO? Well the man already gave the answer by WANTING YOUR PRESENT.... NO!!!!

If the man wants to be married BEFORE you give him your present he MIGHT be the one....

Keep your present for the RIGHT man.... God will show you the right man and the right WAY TO GIVE...
 
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WordGaurdian

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Hi Careen. Its good to be innocent of evil.

The things you say will work up to a point. But I want to share with you a concept that will help you the rest of the way, because there might come a time after school that life DO get very lonely. So I am going to put it in as easy terms as possible.

Stick to truth. Whatever you do. Tell the truth. If you have someone in your life that wants to date. Ask the same of him. That he always speak truthfully. Truth and true Love is the weapon we use against Lust. However very few people understand true love totally. Only only understood for the first time at the age of 30. But truth is something that is easy. Whatever you do, you must be able to tell to everybody. If you are married and you tell your parents you had sexual intercourse, they wouldn't think strange of it. So always try to keep away from lies.

The second method is having knowledge of what happens to you during sexual intercourse on a spiritual level. If you have intercourse with someone the Bible teaches us that you become one flesh. The Bible didn't lie, your flesh connects to that of your partner on a very deep level so that your soul literally binds with that person. The purpose for this binding is so that the two people can adapt better towards each other, but more than that can literally "sense" each other and receive blessing and authority from each other. Through this binding a woman will receive authority from off her husband. And the husband in turn will receive blessings from the wife. However if you have more than one husband the authority, blessings and curses is shared. Hence the authority becomes null and void for one cannot have two masters, but the curses that comes with it is shared freely. Now if that person again have intercourse with someone else, you receive both that other persons curses as well as those he had intercourse with. And this process continuous for the duration that you are linked and to every person you are linked to.

Literally meaning you make one big mess of something beautiful made by God. Keep that in mind before you want to step over the line. Someone who is easy to give himself to you...is also easy to give himself to others.
 
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Ariel82

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this would be a good post for the teens to read.
 
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john832

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Careen said:
1 Make a firm decision ahead of time...before you wind up in a pressure-filled moment.Decide well in advance that you aren't going to have sex until you are married .Otherwise, you might get caught up in the moment.

2 Avoid boredom. Make sure you plan what you are going to do when you are out on dates so you aren't left asking the question, '' What should we do now?"

3 Go out on groups. When you are around other people, you're less likely to do things you'll regret later.

4 Put real love first. When someone starts a sentence by saying, "If you love me, you'll..." then finish it by saying,"you'll respect me and not ask me to do something that's wrong for me."

5 Get support. It's easier to make big decisions when someone is there to support your convictions.The best supporter you have is MESSIAH, and He will always give you the strength and wisdom to say , "NO!"
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Very good.
 
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