I am angry my father

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Matt1626

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I was brought up in a very home were we went to church about twice a year my father was a drunk who smoked pot and couldn't hold down a job.

At thanks giving my 3 year old asked to pray and my father said no he would and my father didn't mention god at all then as I pass my sisters car I see she is reading ayn rand

i am furious and realize my sister and my father defiantly are far from god and it is really my fathers fault
 
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If anyone comes to me and does not hate his own father and mother and wife and children and brothers and sisters,
yes, and even his own life, he cannot be my disciple.
(Luke 14:26)

be thankful that the Lord has called you and given you ears to hear Him,
and given you eyes to see!
 
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And everyone who has left houses or brothers or sisters or father or mother or children or lands,
for my name’s sake,
will receive a hundredfold and will inherit eternal life.
(Matthew 19:29)
 
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No one can come to me unless the Father who sent me draws him
(John 6:44)


 
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Matt1626 said:
I was brought up in a very home were we went to church about twice a year my father was a drunk who smoked pot and couldn't hold down a job.

At thanks giving my 3 year old asked to pray and my father said no he would and my father didn't mention god at all then as I pass my sisters car I see she is reading ayn rand

i am furious and realize my sister and my father defiantly are far from god and it is really my fathers fault
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So maybe by you being Christ-like (loving without showing hatred), that your demeanor might rubbed-off on them by watching the works of God that working in your life, will convince them that their is a God. But make sure you don't display any evil works in your life or else His works will have had been done in vain. And so,Represent.
 
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And stretching out his hand toward his disciples, he said,
“Here are my mother and my brothers!"
(Matthew 12:49)
 
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After your father prayed perhaps you could have stepped up and prayed too or had your daughter add to the prayer. We normally all take turns praying.

You know your father and sister are unbelievers, the best thing to do is pray for them and show them how God has changed your life. You might also need to talk to your daughter about some of it if she asks. Perhaps even have her pray with you.

Only one of my brothers know Jesus as Lord and savior but we all still love one another.
 
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Its okay to be angry at your father, but you need to forgive him and give it all to God. Ask God to help. Don't hold onto your anger.




Ephesians 4
[SUP]26 [/SUP]“Be angry, and do not sin”:[SUP][b][/SUP] do not let the sun go down on your wrath, [SUP]27 [/SUP]nor give place to the devil.
 
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My dad was killed when I was three and I had 3 step dads growing up....
1. 1st one tried to run us over to get the Social Security
2. 2nd was a drunk and physically/mentally abused my brother and I
3. 3rd stole from me and threatened my brother and I with violence

Should I be mad at God for such a crappy life growing up?
Should I be mad at the three step dads I had and what they done?

I, in Christ have forgiven them, prayed for them and witnessed to all three....If we cannot forgive those who sin against us, how can we be forgiven......!
 
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Forgiving your dad and witnessing to him is the right move, and do it with love. Forgiving him doesn't mean your condoning to his lifestyle, it just means your not going to hold on to grudges from the past. Witness to him every time the time feels right to do so. As for your sister, if she's reading that book, probably means she doesn't know to much about it. She's not your enemy, she your sister that's searching out a philosophy of evil. Witness to them, show them the fruits of the Spirit that lives in you, especially the peace and joy, give them hugs and tell them you love them. Your on the right track being in Gods hands... God bless
 
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thanks for sharing!
we best choose to LOVE, yeah :)
did you read Matthew 13:3-9..? check Christ Made All things New, also! rough planet for some, but He Put Good Soil to you no matter what! you're Cool With Him now! Check! Matthew 11:27-28 ! <3
 
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Matt1626 said:
I am furious and realize my sister and my father defiantly are far from god and it is really my fathers fault
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I would rather say that it God’s fault since he did not manifest his spiritual presence to your family.

Trust the Lord and be a good Christian!
 
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In order to forgive someone truthfully from the heart, they must walk in that person shoes to see what they has been through, to understand how they became the way they are. Once they see the reason why, then they'll be able to have respect for them and be able to show them how to overcome it. I'd noticed that the mother hasn't been mentioned at all, maybe he has given up hope for that reason? And so I believe that his children will be going through the same thing that he has been through to see the truth rather than sitting back judging him.
 
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Matt1626 said:
I was brought up in a very home were we went to church about twice a year my father was a drunk who smoked pot and couldn't hold down a job.

At thanks giving my 3 year old asked to pray and my father said no he would and my father didn't mention god at all then as I pass my sisters car I see she is reading ayn rand

i am furious and realize my sister and my father defiantly are far from god and it is really my fathers fault
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Unless you are able to make God-like predictions you don't know this is true. Many people are raised as Christians and turn away. In reality you have no idea what the reasons are why your sister isn't a Christian or what would have changed her mind. You're just going off of an assumption, not a fact, and then getting angry over this assumption.
Also, maybe she will become saved, get close to God. Perhaps this is part of her journey and rather than assuming you know better, step back and let God be in charge.
But really, at the end of a day, each person is responsible for their Own lives. She has a choice. Many people not raised as religious become saved. There is no 'if it had happened this way there is a guarantee' option. People can choose to believe or not believe and it's no ones fault but that persons.
Really i'd suggest there's anger over more than just this. It's not a reasonable reaction you're having and implies underlying issues.
 
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Marian29

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I just feel sorry for the ones who don't know the Lord yet.
I'm really glad you've chosen the right way to go: Jesus Christ.
The Bible says there will be enemies close to them, inside of our own family!
Unfortunetly many Christians pass through this, and I also, have my experiences in my family.
I'm glad the Lord uses us to pray for who didn't met Him yet.
The same Lord uses people to work for Him, the devil also uses week people to work for him. We all know it is a battle. And fortunetly we all know also, the battle is ALWAYS won by God. You must be certain of this. If God promisses in the Bible to hold your right hand, you are already a victorious person.
 
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Pray for your father and sister! My parents were not saved, and after 32 years of praying for them, they both accepted Christ, my father only 5 months before he died of congestive heart failure,

My sister is still not saved and has a pervasive pattern of mocking me for my faith. She told me she doesn't believe Jesus was even an historical person. I continue to pray for her, as I know God is more than able to save her!

As for getting knocked around as a child, I think many of us have experienced that. I was able to forgive my parents and love them anyway, and I know it helped my witness to the work of Christ in my life!
 
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After you have prayed for your dad and family, don't look for what they are doing to see the evidences. Faith needs a voice here. Faith is the evidence of things unseen. Begin to thank God everyday that He is answering your prayer. Praise Him continually that He is present with your dad and and daughter. Praise, not doubt, moves the hand of God. Praise is the voice of faith.
 
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Matt1626 said:
At thanks giving my 3 year old asked to pray and my father said no he would and my father didn't mention god at all then as I pass my sisters car I see she is reading ayn rand

i am furious and realize my sister and my father defiantly are far from god and it is really my fathers fault
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Brother Matt1626,
Pray,forgive,.......learn and live
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