Is it worth it to save yourself until you’re married??

[Mary96]

My good friend sent me this article I saved myself for marriage and wish I hadn’t | Women24 now I usually do not get offended by things but this made me extremely mad.

It’s actually not as complicated as people like to make it. All you have to do is pick up a bible read what’s important to God, and than make a personal decision whether you’re going to choose to listen to what culture has to say or what God has to say about it. It’s really that simple. But sadly their are people that like to blur the lines on what God says because they want what they want when they want it.

It breaks my heart that young girls are taught that if you choose to save yourself for marriage that you are oppressed and you are against women. My own friends think that I am sexist just because I want to do want God said is right.

It is so beautiful that God designed marriage to be this intimate commitment between one man and one woman, and it was to last a lifetime. We should feel bless that God designed this amazing beautiful connection for us to have with another human being and do everything we possible can to honor God design for marriage.

 

[Jon4TheCross]

Yes it is good, and according to my experience awesome to be content with the one needful thing.

Luke 10:38-42New King James Version (NKJV)

Mary and Martha Worship and Serve
38*Now it happened as they went that He entered a certain village; and a certain woman named Martha welcomed Him into her house. 39*And she had a sister called Mary, who also sat at Jesus’[a] feet and heard His word. 40*But Martha was distracted with much serving, and she approached Him and said, “Lord, do You not care that my sister has left me to serve alone? Therefore tell her to help me.”

41*And Jesus answered and said to her, “Martha, Martha, you are worried and troubled about many things. 42*But one thing is needed, and Mary has chosen that good part, which will not be taken away from her.”

 

[Ukorin]

Church culture vs worldly culture vs...
personal desire for purity.

3 seperate things.

The article was written from a girl who was sucked into Churchy culture, and became identified with it (by others, and by herself),
but was not in it for her own convictions...
but simply for the identity that she had created, her pride in that identity, her fears due to that identity, and for the sake of those around her who believed in her identity.

 

[Ukorin]

The secondary issue was her (and most people) putting sex on a pedestal. It is not the most important thing in a person's life,
even if they are married.
It is a good thing,
but not the "best thing in life".
There are greater joys in life, and more fulfilling motivations... one being the very product of sex, which is children.
I do think people, both worldly and Christian, put far to much emphasis on this single act.

 

[4enlightment]

My good friend sent me this article I saved myself for marriage and wish I hadn’t | Women24 now I usually do not get offended by things but this made me extremely mad.

It’s actually not as complicated as people like to make it. All you have to do is pick up a bible read what’s important to God, and than make a personal decision whether you’re going to choose to listen to what culture has to say or what God has to say about it. It’s really that simple. But sadly their are people that like to blur the lines on what God says because they want what they want when they want it.

It breaks my heart that young girls are taught that if you choose to save yourself for marriage that you are oppressed and you are against women. My own friends think that I am sexist just because I want to do want God said is right.

It is so beautiful that God designed marriage to be this intimate commitment between one man and one woman, and it was to last a lifetime. We should feel bless that God designed this amazing beautiful connection for us to have with another human being and do everything we possible can to honor God design for marriage.

It would be nice to try to hold onto their virginity, but it shouldn't be a law or a way for a woman to be respected in God's eyesight. Many women has been raped or molested as a child, and which leave them having the feeling of being dirty and not worthy to be in the presence of God. So some has chosen to commit suicide and some has went down the wrong path. And so it shouldn't be treated as it is gold if someone was able to hold onto it, but use it as an exercise or to restrain from it, like a fast; but it shouldn't never be treated as something special, especially just for a man to break it.

Matthew 19:12 For there are eunuchs who were born that way, and there are eunuchs who have been made eunuchs by others—and there are those who choose to live like eunuchs for the sake of the kingdom of heaven. The one who can accept this should accept it.”

 

[Jeff_56]

it is law.
god's law.
for men as well as women.

in the days of noah, people just did whatever was right in their own sight, instead of obeying god's law.
in the days of noah, god destroyed everyone on the earth who did what was right in their own sight. only 8 were saved. just 8.

it is like that today.

of course, 'under grace' , someone could possibly go ahead and sin.
then someone has to die a gruesome painful humiliating death for them, if they're to be redeemed/ forgiven for their sin.

either that, or they die for their own sin.

so yes, remaining a virgin is extremely rare, and very special. god says so. if men say anything else, they're as always wrong.

 

[BradC]

My good friend sent me this article I saved myself for marriage and wish I hadn’t | Women24 now I usually do not get offended by things but this made me extremely mad.

It’s actually not as complicated as people like to make it. All you have to do is pick up a bible read what’s important to God, and than make a personal decision whether you’re going to choose to listen to what culture has to say or what God has to say about it. It’s really that simple. But sadly their are people that like to blur the lines on what God says because they want what they want when they want it.

It breaks my heart that young girls are taught that if you choose to save yourself for marriage that you are oppressed and you are against women. My own friends think that I am sexist just because I want to do want God said is right.

It is so beautiful that God designed marriage to be this intimate commitment between one man and one woman, and it was to last a lifetime. We should feel bless that God designed this amazing beautiful connection for us to have with another human being and do everything we possible can to honor God design for marriage.

You have good, sound and godly convictions, stick with them and don't change for they will always preserve and keep you on the right path in this life. So many of us have failed when we were young and wished we could have it back as a do over just because of all the trouble and heart ache is caused. Thank God we have redemption.

 

[kaylagrl]

This girl sounds very immature to me and understand nothing about what the Bible teaches.

Quote "I learned that as a girl, I had a responsibility to my future husband to remain pure for him. It was entirely possible that my future husband wouldn't remain pure for me, because he didn't have that same responsibility, according to the Bible."

Where does it say men aren't held to the same standard to save sex for marriage? They are!


Quote "I wore my virginity like a badge of honour. My church encouraged me to do so, saying my testimony would inspire other young girls to follow suit. If the topic ever came up in conversation, I was happy to let people know that I had taken a pledge of purity.It became my entire identity by the time I hit my teen years.

So apparently no one explained to her why virginity was important.The reason why she should wait.No wonder she's confused.


Quote "I didn't know what was considered sexual enough to condemn my future marriage and send me straight to Hell.
An unhealthy mixture of pride, fear, and guilt helped me keep my pledge until we got married.

Again no one took the time to explain boundaries to her and why they are there.


Quote " it controlled my identity for over a decade, landed me in therapy, and left me a stranger in my own skin. I was so completely ashamed of my body and my sexuality that it made having sex a demoralizing experience.

What?! Waiting for sex traumatized her that much?


Quote "When I have sex with my husband, I make sure it's because I have a sexual need and not because I feel I'm required to fulfill his desires."

Ummm he's fulfilling your desires.Kinda a mutual thing there.Called give and take.What if he doesn't want to fulfill her desires? Marriage is fulfilling each others desires.Apparently no one taught her this.

Quote "f I could go back, I would not wait. I would have sex with my then-boyfriend-now-husband ...

Soooo you'd be in the exact same place you are now.Married and having sex with your husband.How does having sex before marriage help?

Quote "It's your body; it belongs to you, not your church. "


Ummm no,its not not your body.It belongs to God,not the church.And he created sex to be used for the right time and reason.Dont rush God,you'll always regret it.This girl was terribly uninformed.Thats why we need to talk to young people,openly,so they know the why behind the dont do that.Otherwise they end up confused like this young lady.


Oh and btw as I began reading this jumped out at me...Let's take a look at who I was as a 10-year-old: I was in fourth grade. I played with Barbie dolls and had tea parties with imaginary friends....I still thought boys were icky and I had no idea I liked girls, too.
And surprise,surprise at the end it says she is "a married bisexual".So ya,I wouldn't be taking her advice on sexual topics.

 

[JesusistheChrist]

This girl sounds very immature to me and understand nothing about what the Bible teaches.

Quote "I learned that as a girl, I had a responsibility to my future husband to remain pure for him. It was entirely possible that my future husband wouldn't remain pure for me, because he didn't have that same responsibility, according to the Bible."

Where does it say men aren't held to the same standard to save sex for marriage? They are!


Quote "I wore my virginity like a badge of honour. My church encouraged me to do so, saying my testimony would inspire other young girls to follow suit. If the topic ever came up in conversation, I was happy to let people know that I had taken a pledge of purity.It became my entire identity by the time I hit my teen years.

So apparently no one explained to her why virginity was important.The reason why she should wait.No wonder she's confused.


Quote "I didn't know what was considered sexual enough to condemn my future marriage and send me straight to Hell.
An unhealthy mixture of pride, fear, and guilt helped me keep my pledge until we got married.

Again no one took the time to explain boundaries to her and why they are there.


Quote " it controlled my identity for over a decade, landed me in therapy, and left me a stranger in my own skin. I was so completely ashamed of my body and my sexuality that it made having sex a demoralizing experience.

What?! Waiting for sex traumatized her that much?


Quote "When I have sex with my husband, I make sure it's because I have a sexual need and not because I feel I'm required to fulfill his desires."

Ummm he's fulfilling your desires.Kinda a mutual thing there.Called give and take.What if he doesn't want to fulfill her desires? Marriage is fulfilling each others desires.Apparently no one taught her this.

Quote "f I could go back, I would not wait. I would have sex with my then-boyfriend-now-husband ...

Soooo you'd be in the exact same place you are now.Married and having sex with your husband.How does having sex before marriage help?

Quote "It's your body; it belongs to you, not your church. "


Ummm no,its not not your body.It belongs to God,not the church.And he created sex to be used for the right time and reason.Dont rush God,you'll always regret it.This girl was terribly uninformed.Thats why we need to talk to young people,openly,so they know the why behind the dont do that.Otherwise they end up confused like this young lady.


Oh and btw as I began reading this jumped out at me...Let's take a look at who I was as a 10-year-old: I was in fourth grade. I played with Barbie dolls and had tea parties with imaginary friends....I still thought boys were icky and I had no idea I liked girls, too.
And surprise,surprise at the end it says she is "a married bisexual".So ya,I wouldn't be taking her advice on sexual topics.

Amen...and boys still are "icky".

lol.

 

[Lynx]

Hey! We're not all icky!

Well... some of us aren't...

Okay, we are.

 

[notuptome]

What ever thy hand findeth to do, do all heartily as unto the Lord.

Please remember that there is never a time when it is right to do a wrong.

God pondereth the hearts of men.

For the cause of Christ
Roger

 

[Mary96]

What ever thy hand findeth to do, do all heartily as unto the Lord.

Please remember that there is never a time when it is right to do a wrong.

God pondereth the hearts of men.

For the cause of Christ
Roger

I like that

 

[kaylagrl]

Amen...and boys still are "icky".

lol.

Lol !! I'm married so I cant say that! But they still can be pretty icky.Like when its barbecue beans night Nough said.

 

[Test_F_i_2_Luv]

My good friend sent me this article I saved myself for marriage and wish I hadn’t | Women24 now I usually do not get offended by things but this made me extremely mad.

It’s actually not as complicated as people like to make it. All you have to do is pick up a bible read what’s important to God, and than make a personal decision whether you’re going to choose to listen to what culture has to say or what God has to say about it. It’s really that simple. But sadly their are people that like to blur the lines on what God says because they want what they want when they want it.

It breaks my heart that young girls are taught that if you choose to save yourself for marriage that you are oppressed and you are against women. My own friends think that I am sexist just because I want to do want God said is right.

It is so beautiful that God designed marriage to be this intimate commitment between one man and one woman, and it was to last a lifetime. We should feel bless that God designed this amazing beautiful connection for us to have with another human being and do everything we possible can to honor God design for marriage.

My own friends think that I am sexist just because I want to do want God said is right. Why would sexual purity and waiting until marriage be "sexist"?

As one who is double your age and still waiting, I find it to be a very sexy(yeah, I said it, SeXy!) and attractive quality for a woman to have.

I've rather had it with all the mockery of abstaining. I think it's about time to give abstinence the admiration/respect that fornication/promiscuity has gotten for far too long.

 

[tourist]

My own friends think that I am sexist just because I want to do want God said is right. Why would sexual purity and waiting until marriage be "sexist"?

As one who is double your age and still waiting, I find it to be a very sexy(yeah, I said it, SeXy!) and attractive quality for a woman to have.

I've rather had it with all the mockery of abstaining. I think it's about time to give abstinence the admiration/respect that fornication/promiscuity has gotten for far too long.

I don't believe that fornication and promiscuity is really respected as it is too common and that sort of life-style is accepted as the new normal. Abstinence is an admirable quality but unfortunately is a rare commodity.