Marriage

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It's Importance

  • Imperfection in marriage inhibits spiritual blessings (I Peter 3:7; Mal 2:11-16).
  • Imperfection in marriage grieves and quenches the Spirit (Ep 4:30; I Th 5:19).
  • Imperfection in marriage gives a place for the devil (Ep 4:27; I Co 7:5; I Pe 5:8).
  • We also hide the truth with poor marriages (Titus 2:4-5; I Timothy 5:14).

The WIFE . . .

  • Remembers God's purpose in her creation (Genesis 2:18; I Cor 11:9).
  • Remembers God's ordained role for her (Genesis 3:16; Eph 5:22-24).
  • Remembers that a meek and quiet spirit is of great price (I Peter 3:4).
  • Reverences her husband without shame as her lord (Eph 5:33; I Peter 3:6).
  • Loves her husband devotedly rather than become a domestic partner (Tit 2:4).
  • Works diligently and unselfishly to be the virtuous woman (Prov 31:10-31).

The ]HUSBAND . . .

  • Loves his wife as Christ the church to make her his prized bride (Ep 5:25-28).
  • Cherishes his wife with kind, tender, passionate, devoted affection (Eph 5:29).
  • Nourishes his wife with opportunities and means to grow herself (Eph 5:29).
  • Honours his wife as the weaker vessel and an heir of eternal life (I Peter 3:7).
  • Loves his wife compassionately and refuses to be bitter against her (Col 3:19).
  • Is always satisfied with her body and ravished with loving her (Prov 5:19).
 
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Every marriage is imperfect...not an excuse but an opportunity to always improve.
 
Joidevivre

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If a marriage was perfect, there would be no environment to develop the kind of Christian love mentioned in I Cor. 13. Like forgiveness, long suffering, endurance, patience, keeping no record of wrongs, etc.

My imperfect marriage did more for my spiritual growth than reading the bible for years.
 
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I noticed that you titled "It's importance" as a listing, but the four items under that listing has absolutely nothing to do with marriage being important! lol Where is your IMPORTANT listings? All we see is how unimportance and imperfect marriages and the after effects they cause. I would say that Marriage is important because GOD ordained it and performed the first simple marriage ceremony between a man and a woman when HE pronounced THEIR name as Adam! Adam Adam and Eve Adam, right? lol GOD will someday stand up, look over at His Son JESUS CHRIST sitting on His right hand and say "SON, Go get your Bride...today's your Wedding Day" and JESUS will split the Eastern Sky!
 
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sydlit

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Joidevivre said:
If a marriage was perfect, there would be no environment to develop the kind of Christian love mentioned in I Cor. 13. Like forgiveness, long suffering, endurance, patience, keeping no record of wrongs, etc.

My imperfect marriage did more for my spiritual growth than reading the bible for years.
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Wow, I love that list. I can do that list. It is what it's all about, especially forgiveness, endurance, and so much I like keeping no record of wrongs. These are things right out of the Gospel that God does for us. He forgives and casts our sins away never to be remembered, but if I may ask, and I don't mean to offend, but why is it with most women, so I hear, that they have this uncanny, almost elephant-like ability to remember, so much so that you hear all the time that in the middle of a dispute, a woman will go, 'june 17th, 1953, around two forty-seven in the afternoon, you said these pants make me look fat!? And this ability seems to be celebrated like a point of pride. And a warning to husbands. But doesn't this go against 'keeping no record of wrong'?Why is this bragged about like abadge of honor between women? I'm sure there's things husbands do that they shouldn't, but hopefully they're mistakes and forgiveness and reconciling and healing happens. But this remembering and holding on to records of wrongs seems so deliberate and destructive. Why is this laughed off with a shrug?
Other than that, someone marry me, I really want to experience sharing all those things on the list, and so much more of God's love.
 
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sydlit said:
Wow, I love that list. I can do that list. It is what it's all about, especially forgiveness, endurance, and so much I like keeping no record of wrongs. These are things right out of the Gospel that God does for us. He forgives and casts our sins away never to be remembered, but if I may ask, and I don't mean to offend, but why is it with most women, so I hear, that they have this uncanny, almost elephant-like ability to remember, so much so that you hear all the time that in the middle of a dispute, a woman will go, 'june 17th, 1953, around two forty-seven in the afternoon, you said these pants make me look fat!? And this ability seems to be celebrated like a point of pride. And a warning to husbands. But doesn't this go against 'keeping no record of wrong'?Why is this bragged about like abadge of honor between women? I'm sure there's things husbands do that they shouldn't, but hopefully they're mistakes and forgiveness and reconciling and healing happens. But this remembering and holding on to records of wrongs seems so deliberate and destructive. Why is this laughed off with a shrug?
Other than that, someone marry me, I really want to experience sharing all those things on the list, and so much more of God's love.
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Because if you're married your husband is your mirror and you really believe that it is true what he says. My ex always said I looked old and wrinkly. You can forgive it but that is what I believed. Not a very smart thing to say lol. Just say: they don't if you put em on your head. You don't have to worry about ever making a mistake about that. You're the pants specialist.
 
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I was wonder about this topic, did a search and found this great thread.

God is good. :)
 
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Joidevivre said:
If a marriage was perfect, there would be no environment to develop the kind of Christian love mentioned in I Cor. 13. Like forgiveness, long suffering, endurance, patience, keeping no record of wrongs, etc.

My imperfect marriage did more for my spiritual growth than reading the bible for years.
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This is an awesome response but we still need the Bible.
 
Dino246

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Mary96 said:
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The WIFE . . .

  • Remembers God's ordained role for her (Genesis 3:16; Eph 5:22-24)...
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Just a quick thought on this... be careful not to assume that Genesis 3 establishes "God's ordained role". That passage is about the consequences of sin. "But he shall rule over you" is not a statement of God's desire or intention, any more than "the ground shall produce thorns and thistles". :)
 
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Dino246 said:
Just a quick thought on this... be careful not to assume that Genesis 3 establishes "God's ordained role". That passage is about the consequences of sin. "But he shall rule over you" is not a statement of God's desire or intention, any more than "the ground shall produce thorns and thistles". :)
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Good point.
Many things seem to be misread and misused from scripture,
and sometimes, even though the bible says
something is 'like this or that',
there's an "unwritten 'sadly'" that's linked to it.

Of course, sometimes there's an "unwritten
'Praise the Lord'" in there, too.

i.e., 'And such were some of you:
but, (*Praise the Lord*) ye are washed,
but ye are sanctified, but ye are justified
in the name of the Lord Jesus,
and by the Spirit of our God.
________________1Cor.6:11___
(Just wanted to add some Good News, too)

I really do hope to marry 'the one' God has for me someday,
And I'm sure it's got to be a great blessing to be able to
dig into God's Word together with the one you love,
gleaning joys and mining treasures, and what a blessing
to be able to turn there for answers, for and with each other.

Thanks for the reminder, too, that His Word is given to us
to build each other up in love, not beat each other down,
but (*sadly*) it happens...I've been guilty of it myself.
I pray it never happens in marriage, and I think as long
as we're into the Word together,
we have a good chance of avoiding that problem. :)
 
Joidevivre

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Chuckt said:
This is an awesome response but we still need the Bible.
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That goes without saying. But an imperfect marriage gave me an environment to practice what is written. And grow.
 
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I disagree with your interpretation of Titus 2:4. In 1 Peter 3:7 it says the wife is a weaker partner, but a domestic partner all the same, and is worthy of respect from her husband. Furthermore it goes on to say that if a husband does not respect his wife, but mistreats her, that God will refuse to hear his prayers. So he could be like in the ocean with a shark approaching, and scream 'God save me!' And God will refuse to hear his cry. Or if he is in the doctors office waiting on cancer results, etc. No matter what the prayer, God will refuse to hear it if he mistreats his wife- whom God says to treat like he treats his own body, and to love her like Christ loved the church and was willing to give His life in order to save her.

When Sarah wanted to make a big family decision to send Ishmael away, God told Abraham to listen to his wife. Wives can make big decisions too.
 
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In Proverbs 31 the good wife bought and sold land- what a huge financial decision- that her husband had full confidence in her to make. Wives should not be treated as dogs or slaves. Yes they are to respect their husbands, but their husbands are to respect them also- like the husband in Proverbs 31, or like Christ Himself Who washed her feet. Some people take it way too far, and others not far enough, but the bible has plenty of examples showing how it should be.
 
Dan58

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Joidevivre said:
If a marriage was perfect, there would be no environment to develop the kind of Christian love mentioned in I Cor. 13. Like forgiveness, long suffering, endurance, patience, keeping no record of wrongs, etc.
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Any environment with people in it allows you an opportunity to develop all those characteristics too. :)
 
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Dan58 said:

Any environment with people in it allows you an opportunity to develop all those characteristics too. :)
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How do you reconcile that with ppl who supposedly are long term christians and yet do the opposite. Where you come for forgiveness, reconciliation, you get ignorance and rejection, where there should be love and no throwing in the face of past wrongs, you get disguised hatred and resentment, yet the person goes about there business as if there's nothing wrong with that. In the world, I can see that, but how do you reconcile that in the body of Christ? Doesn't there come a time when other members of the body need to step in...not to call a 'brush it under the rug forget it kind of false peace', but a genuine call to discuss and reason together, for the sake of the body, and bc that's how Jesus would want us to be?
 
Angela53510

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Sinless perfectionism, the family version!
 
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That is deeply disturbing sunlit.

Are you speaking rhetorically or from personal experience?

God doesn't want us to hold onto bitterness, hatred and resentment.

He tells us to forgive and not keep a record of others transgressions against us.

If someone is acting harmful by digging up past sins, then they need prayer and counseling because they are harming their own souls and not listening to Jesus teaching.

It definitely needs to be address not swept under the rug. However is there anyone mature enough in their walk with Christ to pray over and mediate between the two hurt parties?

I will God blesses the situation with people who can bring peace and godly wisdom into it.
 
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Insert "pray" between "will" and "God."
 
mailmandan

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Einstein had that one figured out. ;)

 
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