1 Corinthians 13:[SUP]3 [/SUP]And though I bestow all my goods to feed the poor, and though I give my body to be burned, and have not charity, it profiteth me nothing.
Even though you think you have done everything to show concern of lack of love from your husband & you believed you have gone overboard in expressing your love as well as concern towards your husbands, if you do not have Christ's love, it is nothing.
[SUP]4 [/SUP]Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up,[SUP]5 [/SUP]Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil;[SUP]6 [/SUP]Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth;[SUP]7 [/SUP]Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things.[SUP]8 [/SUP]Charity never faileth:
There is a difference between "wanting" romantic love and "giving" Christ's love; romantic love expects something in return, thus it is not Christ's love which expects nothing in return.
We wish for a happily ever after marriage or a match made in Heaven, but there is no such thing other than us being the bride to the Bridegroom in Heaven. There is no other glory of true love to be seen in Heaven.
Luke 20:[SUP]34 [/SUP]And Jesus answering said unto them, The children of this world marry, and are given in marriage:[SUP]35 [/SUP]But they which shall be accounted worthy to obtain that world, and the resurrection from the dead, neither marry, nor are given in marriage:[SUP]36 [/SUP]Neither can they die any more: for they are equal unto the angels; and are the children of God, being the children of the resurrection.
So if you wish to enjoy your marriage, count your blessings of what you do have; and not make yourself discontent over what you do not have.
1 Timothy 6:[SUP]6 [/SUP]But godliness with contentment is great gain.[SUP]7 [/SUP]For we brought nothing into this world, and it is certain we can carry nothing out.[SUP]8 [/SUP]And having food and raiment let us be therewith content.
Philippians 4:[SUP]4 [/SUP]Rejoice in the Lord always: and again I say, Rejoice.[SUP]5 [/SUP]Let your moderation be known unto all men. The Lord is at hand.[SUP]6 [/SUP]Be careful for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God.[SUP]7 [/SUP]And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.[SUP]8 [/SUP]Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.[SUP]9 [/SUP]Those things, which ye have both learned, and received, and heard, and seen in me, do: and the God of peace shall be with you.
A suggestion would be to do the things he enjoy doing if you wish to spend more time with him, but do pray about this in trusting the Lord as your Good Shepherd to lead you in how to show His love towards your husband and to be content.
There are a lot of single virgin christians out there pining to give just plain love towards someone without the sex. So just imagine life being single if that will help you to be content with what you have in that you will always have opportunities to show true love towards your husband. There is no greater love than laying your life down for your friend.