Repentance?

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Christians say they are saved and have Christ in there life until hard times come or decisions they make are what they want not what God wants.

Ask a Christian how do you repent of a sin? Stop sinning, turn to Gods way, they will say. Well I think that is an easy answer and the correct one.
This is what I don't understand!! Christians that get divorced for unbiblical reasons and marry some one else.
There are things in the bible that you can divorce for but I'm talking unbiblical reasons.
You ask that Christian how do you repent of an adulterous marriage? Well just ask God for forgiveness and repent and your ok. and stay married.

Know ask that same Christian the same question about gay marriage? The answer u get is they have to stop being married and not be married to another man. Why because the bible says its wrong and its sin so they have to seperate, repent and ask forgiveness and live a straight life.
Why does repentance and forgiveness in one case let you still live in sin? (Adulterous marriage)
They other says you have to stop and separate.
Divorce is wrong, adulterous marriage is wrong, gay marriage is wrong.
Why do christians have different standards for this?
Grace doesn't teach a Christian to desire to do that so then If a person has a DESIRE to live like that,are they saved?
 
Feb 28, 2016
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All I ask was why is one sin ok and not the other? Is that simple enuff
Maybe I should have said some Christians that way it didn t include all.
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we are all individuals to our Saviour, and the different ways that we all pick and choose to live
our lives, He allows, but at some point in our lives, if we are called and elected and chosen,
He teaches us how to 'give-up' our own 'will' and how to follow Him and His ways:' this doesn't
happen to everyone in their 'life-time', thus all of the confusion' - study your Bible from the
front to the back, and all of your questions will be answered,..try and learn about the 2nd Resurrection...
 

14RR

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Works for me.

Marriage is sanctified by the Lord, right? So, the assumption walking into it is that it is something the Lord has given the couple.

Heterosexual couple, so even if someone commits adultery, they are not set free of the marriage. The act of adultery does not demand end-of-marriage. Even Jesus said that divorce was acceptable in that situation because of the hardness of man's heart. Not because that's what the Lord demands.

So what happens after adultery? Does the adulterer repent? (Note title of thread, and this was always about repentance. And, just so you know, that is why I kept not getting what you wanted to know.) If she/he does, then the Lord will forgive. If the spouse is born-again too, (which should be a given for a sanctified marriage, but isn't always), then there should be, ultimately, forgiveness too. And that ain't easy and doesn't happen over night, unless the Lord does a miracle.

But then something big was broken in that marriage. Trust. Trust has to be earned back. And, if it is over in the spouse's mind, there is no way of staying married. Both have to agree to stay together and no one can force anyone into staying together. So, with a heterosexual marriage, even adultery isn't just one issue. It's two issues -- the adultery itself and the trust. But, again, ultimately God sanctifies the marriage.

What is different between a heterosexual marriage and a homosexual marriage? God said clearly homosexuality is sin. He's never ever going to sanctify a homosexual marriage. It's not a real marriage, even if the government considers it one. It's not a real marriage, because God says it isn't.

And, you eluded to, in your OP, that all homosexuals have to do is abstain from sex. I disagree. Jesus said that even lusting is sin, so sin isn't merely action, but thought. Romans 1 says God gives sinners over to homosexuality because of the hardness of their hearts. God actually hardens their hearts more. So, what I would counsel a homosexual, once the person is born again would be to pray for the Lords help in softening their heart again, and good Christian counseling to learn how to live as a heterosexual. It is doable. I know of a ministry that helps people with all kinds of sexual sins, including homosexuality. (And including pornography and adultery, because, at least they get sexual sin is just that -- sin. It doesn't matter exactly which sexual sin is happening, it matters on how to stop it from happening for our sake and our love of the Lord.)

Sin is never okay.
Even Jesus said that divorce was acceptable in that situation because of the hardness of man's heart. Not because that's what the Lord demands.

Where did jesus say that?
Moses said it and Jesus corrected it
Mathew 19: 7-9
7 they say unto him, why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcment, and put her away?
8 he said unto them, Moses because the hardness of your heart suffered you to put away your wives but from the beginning it was not so. (Here is where Jesus corrects Moses) 9 and I say unto you, whosoever shall put away his wife except it be for fornication and shall marry another committeth adultery and whoso married her which is put away doth commit adultery.
 

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#44
Christians say they are saved and have Christ in there life until hard times come or decisions they make are what they want not what God wants.

Ask a Christian how do you repent of a sin? Stop sinning, turn to Gods way, they will say. Well I think that is an easy answer and the correct one.
This is what I don't understand!! Christians that get divorced for unbiblical reasons and marry some one else.
There are things in the bible that you can divorce for but I'm talking unbiblical reasons.
You ask that Christian how do you repent of an adulterous marriage? Well just ask God for forgiveness and repent and your ok. and stay married.

Know ask that same Christian the same question about gay marriage? The answer u get is they have to stop being married and not be married to another man. Why because the bible says its wrong and its sin so they have to seperate, repent and ask forgiveness and live a straight life.
Why does repentance and forgiveness in one case let you still live in sin? (Adulterous marriage)
They other says you have to stop and separate.
Divorce is wrong, adulterous marriage is wrong, gay marriage is wrong.
Why do christians have different standards for this?
It is called becoming lukewarm and making church life easier.
Remember a little leaven leavens the whole lump.
You see it all the time - the watering down of Biblical truth
and the righteousness required by God to make modern
Christian life more palatable.
Bums on seats is the bottom line !!!
 

mailmandan

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Ask a Christian how do you repent of a sin? Stop sinning, turn to Gods way, they will say.
The Greek word for "repent" is "metanoia" (noun) and "matanoeo" (verb) you see as defined in the Strongs #3340, 3341: to think differently or afterwards, reconsider. After thought, change of mind. Repentance basically means a "change of mind" and the context must determine what is involved in this change of mind. Where salvation is in view, repentance actually precedes saving faith in Christ and is not a totally separate act from faith. It is actually the same coin with two sides. Repentance is on one side (what you change your mind about) and faith in Christ is on the positive side, the new direction of this change of mind.

*Repentance and faith are two sides of the same experience of receiving Christ (Acts 20:21).

Many people misunderstand the term "repentance" to mean "turning from sin" as if this means sinless perfection. This is not the Biblical definition of repentance. In the Bible, the word "repent" means to "change your mind." The Bible also tells us that true repentance will result in a change of actions. Acts 26:20 declares, "I preached that they should repent and turn to God and prove their repentance by their deeds." This is the fruit of repentance (Matthew 3:8), not the essence of repentance (change of mind). I've heard certain people say, "if you want to be saved, repent of your sins, turn from your sins." If turning from your sins means to stop sinning, then people can only be saved if they stop sinning. And it is unlikely that anyone has ever been saved, since we don't know anyone who is sinless, without fault or defect, flawless, absolutely perfect 100% of the time.
 

Waggles

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And notice that it's the same two subjects, adultery and homosexuality.

Last time I checked, there wasn't a vocal minority of people demanding that Christians accept adultery as a valid lifestyle choice. Funny how those who point out the hypocrisy of some Christians conveniently forget that.
I think you need to take your sunnies off.
A lot of churches tolerate divorce and remarriage and partnerships
well outside the Biblical teachings.
A great many mainstream churches no longer uphold and defend the
word of God as authorative and literal.


I was at a Lutheran wedding where the couple had chosen verses for
their ceremony - Ephesians 5:21-25 - to be read out.
So the pastor interrupts the ceremony and gives a little theological
treatise on his unbelief and how these scriptures like many others
(homosexuality?) were written a long time ago when people had very
old fashioned ideas on such subjects; and how we of today have moved on.

Tolerance of sins that would otherwise empty church buildings is very
evident in mainstream Christianity. Some churches aren't even all that
keen on repentance from sins - so passé.

Hypocrisy does rule.
 

Chester

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#47
Christians say they are saved and have Christ in there life until hard times come or decisions they make are what they want not what God wants.

Ask a Christian how do you repent of a sin? Stop sinning, turn to Gods way, they will say. Well I think that is an easy answer and the correct one.
This is what I don't understand!! Christians that get divorced for unbiblical reasons and marry some one else.
There are things in the bible that you can divorce for but I'm talking unbiblical reasons.
You ask that Christian how do you repent of an adulterous marriage? Well just ask God for forgiveness and repent and your ok. and stay married.

Know ask that same Christian the same question about gay marriage? The answer u get is they have to stop being married and not be married to another man. Why because the bible says its wrong and its sin so they have to seperate, repent and ask forgiveness and live a straight life.
Why does repentance and forgiveness in one case let you still live in sin? (Adulterous marriage)
They other says you have to stop and separate.
Divorce is wrong, adulterous marriage is wrong, gay marriage is wrong.
Why do christians have different standards for this?
Not sure why this is difficult: It is sin to continue in a gay marriage and it is sin to continue on in an adulterous marriage.

Of course God can and will forgive when we believe in Him, but that does not minimize or change that it is sin to continue sinning!
 
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I don't know your past sins and never brought them up you did.
What is the deffination of repent?
How do you repent form drinking to much?stop drinking.
How do you repent from being gay? Stop being gay.
You are looking at the outside. It's understandable. You're human and the outside is all you see of someone. You judge by the outside, the actions of someone.

But the problem doesn't come from the outside actions. It comes from inside.

The sin happens before the outward action. Take murder for instance. It happens inwardly and then proceeds to the outside. BUT, it doesn't always proceed to the outside. Anger in my heart at you without cause is murder. And impure thoughts about someone other than your spouse is adultery. Using porn is adultery. Fantasizing about someone else is adultery. It doesn't proceed to the outside, but the sin has still been committed. A LOT more adultery goes on than we see. But God sees.

You may have never outwardly committed adultery and you may have never outwardly murdered, but can you say you are not a murderer?

And so, to condemn someone for adultery when you are a murderer is not the way to go. The way to go is to personally deal with the inside of your own cup first. To admit to your own murder. To be honest in your heart with God about what is in your own heart. In fact, you can't do anything else. You can just be honest with Him and look to Him to change your heart and renew your mind and the way it thinks and what it thinks. He will have to do something. All you can do is agree with Him that you are a murderer. YOU can't change your heart. He has to.
 

Waggles

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Thankyou Mailmandan
You make a good doctrinal point here
of which I am guilty in muddling repentance and its fruit
with the idea of contrition and Godly sorrow.


But when he saw many of the Pharisees and Sadducees come to his baptism,
he said unto them, O generation of vipers, who hath warned you to flee from
the wrath to come?
Bring forth therefore fruits meet for repentance:
Matthew 3:7-8


(BBE) Let your change of heart be seen in your works:
(ERV) Change your hearts! And show by the way you live that
you have changed.
(GNB) Do those things that will show that you have turned from your sins.

Contrition and being of a contrite spirit is different - more to do with
our daily confessing of our faults and wrongdoings - being sorrowful
and seeking forgiveness from God our Father and our Lord.

I need to think and study on this. Thankyou
 
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the devils believe and continue to sin and blaspehme our Saviour'; how are some different
from them if they proclaim Christ as their Saviour, yet continue in their 'old ways'???
 

mailmandan

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the devils believe and continue to sin and blaspehme our Saviour'; how are some different
from them if they proclaim Christ as their Saviour, yet continue in their 'old ways'???
In James 2:19, we see that the demons believe "mental assent" that "there is one God" but they do not believe/entrust their spiritual well being to Christ; have faith/reliance upon Christ for salvation. They do not believe on the Lord Jesus Christ (Acts 16:31) and are not saved. Their trust and reliance is in Satan, as demonstrated by their rebellion in heaven and continuous evil works, which is not repentance unto life (Acts 11:17-18). Continuing in your old ways is not the fruit of repentance.
 

Shamah

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