Shoud I ask a girl out?

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BritishDave

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"Do not be yoked together with unbelievers." I was just talking to our pastor about this and apparently the context was of worshiping idols; we shouldn't worship other Gods along with unbelievers. In fact, Paul suggests in an earlier letter that we should have friendships with people who aren't Christians. "If one of the unbelievers invites you and you want to go, eat anything that is set before you without asking questions for conscience' sake."
 
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BritishDave said:
"Do not be yoked together with unbelievers." I was just talking to our pastor about this and apparently the context was of worshiping idols; we shouldn't worship other Gods along with unbelievers. In fact, Paul suggests in an earlier letter that we should have friendships with people who aren't Christians. "If one of the unbelievers invites you and you want to go, eat anything that is set before you without asking questions for conscience' sake."
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yes, but you're asking her to a dance. Not eloping to Vegas as another poster suggested..lol.. that's not being yoked to an unbeliever..it's a simple school dance, so stop making it so difficult and ask her already, before she decides to go with someone else..
 
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That was more addressed to Jason who's been going on about this verse :) I think it's too early to ask someone to a dance in early July when it's not even March yet, particularly when I don't know her very well
 
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BritishDave said:
That was more addressed to Jason who's been going on about this verse :) I think it's too early to ask someone to a dance in early July when it's not even March yet, particularly when I don't know her very well
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that's okay..just don't wait until the day before the dance, or you'll lose out on asking her. Get to know her a bit, ask her out to get a burger and fries or something. Go to a movie you both like. Find out what you have in common. :)
 
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Strange as it may seem asking someone out is more about you than them. If you see someone you like and want to know better you have to make the first step, risk rejection. It is like you saying "Hey, I believe you might like this, and I like you so let us try this together, if you want."
It is about honoring your own feelings, and not letting fear dominate. Once you learn the how you express yourself, how you come across etc. you can learn to put things in context. It is "dangerous", it can hurt, but it is better 100% to try, be rejected, and then to try again. It is how you get a connection.
 
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BritishDave said:
"Do not be yoked together with unbelievers." I was just talking to our pastor about this and apparently the context was of worshiping idols; we shouldn't worship other Gods along with unbelievers. In fact, Paul suggests in an earlier letter that we should have friendships with people who aren't Christians. "If one of the unbelievers invites you and you want to go, eat anything that is set before you without asking questions for conscience' sake."
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Please do not take this the wrong way, but instead of going to a man to interpret the Bible for you, please seek the Scriptures for yourself on the matter instead. This would even include myself. Do not accept at face value in anything that I have to say in regards to God's Word without checking the Scriptures for yourself. For I am not above the Word of God, and neither is your Pastor. For the Bereans were more noble because they seeked the Scriptures with an open mind on whether those things be so or not. For 2 Timothy 2:15 KJV says we are to study to show ourselves approved unto God. We are not to just blindly acccept what our Pastor says and or accept some teaching that sounds comforting to our carnal nature (without looking in the Word to see if it is actually true or not).

Luke 16:9 is the only verse I currently know of that makes it sound like you can have worldly friends. But this is usually ripped out of it's context by those believers who do not want to give up their worldly friendships, though. It has nothing to do with... "Hey, I wonder what Jesus really wants me to do to best serve Him?"

Read this article here for the context on Luke 16:9
 
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o.k. Jason, show me one verse that says being friends with a non-Christian is a sin.
 
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being yoked is being connected. going on a date, being a friend, hiring someone, etc... is not being yoked. a spouse, business partners, these are yokes. a date is not.
 
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Now, before anyone says it, there is one exception to the rule in having a connection with an unbeliever. This is if you are already married to an unbelieving woman and you later accept Jesus as your Savior. We are told that we are not to divorce them. However, this is obvious because God does not want us to break up familes (Where we have children, etc.). God does not want us to break the symbol or picture of what marriage represents (One man and one woman being joined together - Which is a representation of God and man being joined together). However, Paul never tells us we can marry an unbeliever, though. For we know that being married to an unbeliever is going to lead to lots of problems within the marriage. For there will no glue or connection between them. Their goals in life will be different. One person's goals will be spiritual and the other person's goals willl be carnal and worldly. One will be God focused and the other will be worldly focused. We know that married couples where one is believing and ther other is not is going to cause problems in some way. For the Scriptures say bad company corrupts good morals.
 
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Jason0047 said:
Now, before anyone says it, there is one exception to the rule in having a connection with an unbeliever. This is if you are already married to an unbelieving woman and you later accept Jesus as your Savior. We are told that we are not to divorce them. However, this is obvious because God does not want us to break up familes (Where we have children, etc.). God does not want us to break the symbol or picture of what marriage represents (One man and one woman being joined together - Which is a representation of God and man being joined together). However, Paul never tells us we can marry an unbeliever, though. For we know that being married to an unbeliever is going to lead to lots of problems within the marriage. For there will no glue or connection between them. Their goals in life will be different. One person's goals will be spiritual and the other person's goals willl be carnal and worlldly. One will be God focused and the other will be worldly focused. We know that married couples where one is believing and ther other is not is going to cause problems in some way. For the Scriptures say bad company corrupts good morals.
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np one is talking to these young folks about marriage except you. maybe that should tell you something.
 
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gb9 said:
np one is talking to these young folks about marriage except you. maybe that should tell you something.
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The Bible does not talk about how we are allowed to have intimate relationships with unbelievers, especially women (Which can lead to pregnancy, marriage, etc.). On the contrary, the Bible over and over warns us in having close fellowship with unbelievers (Which would obviously include dating).
 
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Jason0047 said:
The Bible does not talk about how we are allowed to have intimate relationships with unbelievers, especially women (Which can lead to pregnancy, marriage, etc.). On the contrary, the Bible over and over warns us in having close fellowship with unbelievers (Which would obviously include dating).
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going on an a prom date is not a CLOSE RELASHIONIP. man, you connect so many dots that are not there. do you see spots in your sleep???
 
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For when you date a woman, what is your intention with her? To just be friends as the end goal? Well, if you plan to marry someday, then this is not going to work. You can't be calling up all your friends who are girls while you are committed to one woman in marriage. So again, the focus in dating is with the mindset that you are looking for a lifemate or partner in the Lord. Dating is not for you to create a lasting friendship outside of marriage. Dating is not for you to have a good time with each other physically. Dating is for finding your soul mate in the Lord. There is no other reason for dating. Now, dating by the world's standards does not include marriage as the ultimate goal. For some do not even want to be married. Some just want to have a good time with no real commitment.
 
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"There is no other reason for dating." How about for fun?
 
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"Read this article here for the context on Luke 16:9" Nah I prefer not to go to a man to interpret the Bible for me ;)
 
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gb9 said:
going on an a prom date is not a CLOSE RELASHIONIP. man, you connect so many dots that are not there. do you see spots in your sleep???
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Going on a date is with the mindset that you want more from that person. For in dating is about getting to know each other more which leads to a close relationship. If your end goal is not to form a close relationship by dating then what are you dating that person for? Physicall pleasure? To have a hotlist of girls numbers so you can be the man in the eyes of other men? What is the goal?
 
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Jason0047 said:
Going on a date is with the mindset that you want more from that person. For in dating is about getting to know each other more which leads to a close relationship. If your end goal is not to form a close relationship by dating then what are you dating that person for? Physicall pleasure? To have a hotlist of girls numbers so you can be the man in the eyes of other men? What is the goal?
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someone is telegraphing their personal sin issues. Maybe for you girls are an object to be conquered but just because it's yours doesn't make it everyone else's.
 
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BritishDave said:
"Read this article here for the context on Luke 16:9" Nah I prefer not to go to a man to interpret the Bible for me ;)
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When I said that you should not accept blindly what someone says about the Word of God it was in regards to not doing your own study on the matter with Scripture yourself. I did not mean for you to read the article with the acceptance of not doing your own homework in God's Word. For you have to understand that the Ethopian Eunuch listened to the Philip's live audio commentary on a passage in Isaiah. In other words, you can listen to other believers or read what other believers had written on that verse but just make sure you compare Scripture with Scripture. Therein lies the difference. I am not saying you should just blindly accept what believers are teaching. But I can understand your not wanting to read the article because it goes against what you want to believe. However, God's Word is not about what we want, though. It is about making Jesus Christ our Lord and master of our life (And not ourselves). For we are bought and paid for with a price (And we are not our own).
 
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someone is telegraphing their personal sin issues. Maybe for you girls are an object to be conquered but just because it's yours doesn't make it everyone else's.
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What you said here doesn't make any sense. Please explain.
 
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the OP is NOT dating her..in a previous post he said he barely knows her. He wants to ask her to prom, that's all he wants. How does going to a school dance =dating her?
 
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