A personal word.
Now, when I teach all this to people I am ministering to, of course it seems a bit fantastic. The flesh (their soul) cannot comprehend or understand spiritual things. CANNOT. It is a divine fact.
1 Cor 2:14 The soulical man does not receive the gifts of the Spirit of God, for they are folly to him, and he is not able to understand them because they are spiritually discerned.
Other English translations say "The natural man", or "The unspiritual man", or "The sensual man", but the absolute best translation is not in any of our English translation, at least not to my knowledge.
The Greek word that has been translated "natural, unspiritual, sensual", is psuchikos, which is the adjective form of the Greek psuche (soul). So the adjective form of the word soul, would be SOULICAL, or "man of the soul".
Therefore, God is telling us (via Paul) that the soul cannot understand the things of the Spirit, because spiritual things are spiritually discerned.
What this means, is that there is a big CANNOT about the soul energy attempting to do or come into the heavenlies. Yes, we will gain or keep our souls, and they are being renewed, but we are NOT to attempt to do God's work through the energy of our soul (mind, heart, will power). This is the mistake Adam & Eve made in the garden of eden.
So in my helping people to cope with "how to receive the Holy Spirit and not be afraid of speaking in tongues, etc.", I tell them this:
Let us pretend that you are to be a person who gets the gift of healing. Can you imagine this just for a minute with me? Imagine that God is going to give you this gift such that anybody you lay hands on, will get healed.
So let's pretend that a few feet away from us is a man in a wheelchair, and it is God's will that you are going to heal that man so that when you lay hands on him he will get out of that chair and be able to walk. Can you imagine this now, just for a minute, please?
Okay. So now, how do you think this gift of healing would be imparted to you? Really now. Try to imagine the mechanism, or manner, in which you receive this gift.
Would it be like this? We are sitting here in this room, and all of a sudden a rushing noise comes against the windows, and they burst in and all the glass breaks, WOW, and then a type of tornado begins to spin inside this room where we are, and all of sudden you are lifted up out of your seat and begin to levitate across the room to where the man in the wheelchair is, and then you feel a force from God forcing you to extend your arm and hand and touch the man in the wheelchair, and again, somehow you know to speak some words to the man, and wahlah.. he is healed!
Do you think that is how it would happen? Do you think God would force Himself and this gift upon you to do His will?
Everybody I have used this illustration on has replied "No", and they are correct in saying so. God would not force the situation like that.
So how then? How does a person receive a gift?
ANSWER: Just like everything else in God. A step of faith.
We got born again because we stepped out in faith and believed the message.
We cannot please God without faith. (Hebrews 11:6)
To receive the Holy Spirit and get born again, we step forward in faith.
To receive the Filling (or baptizing) of the Holy Spirit, we step forward in faith.
Yes, to receive the gift of healing, if it is the Holy Spirit's choosing for you, it would be by faith. He would not spin you around and force Himself on you. You would be seeking the gifts of the Spirit
1 Cor 14:1 Make love your aim, and earnestly desire the spiritual gifts,
and more than likely, the Holy Spirit would give you a prompting inside your spirit, such that it came into your conscience that God was wanting you to do something.
All these things, gifts of the Spirit, are received and acted upon in faith.