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shad

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Graybeard you are amazing, I Love you, and God Loves you! I just posted this on a similar thread and thought it would be helpful here too:

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I am going to spend some time writing to everyone about what a real Christian is:

John 13:35(NASB)(emphasis mine)
[FONT=&quot]35[/FONT]"By this all men will know that you are My disciples, if you have love for one another."

In the original Greek:
35ἐν τούτῳ γνώσονται πάντες ὅτι ἐμοὶ μαθηταί ἐστε ἐὰν ἀγάπην ἔχητε ἐν ἀλλήλοις

ἀγάπη [FONT=&quot]= agapē[/FONT] (a form of the word [FONT=&quot]agapaō)[/FONT]

John 13:34(NASB)(emphasis mine)
[FONT=&quot]34[/FONT]"A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another, even as I have loved you, that you also love one another.

In the original Greek:
34ἐντολὴν καινὴν δίδωμι ὑμῖν ἵνα ἀγαπᾶτε ἀλλήλους καθὼς ἠγάπησα ὑμᾶς ἵνα καὶ ὑμεῖς ἀγαπᾶτε ἀλλήλους

ἀγαπᾶτε = [FONT=&quot]agapaō[/FONT]

Where else is this word for Love used in the Bible? Jesus uses this word as the word for His Love, and it is used 147 times in the Bible in the following verses:

Matthew 5:43,5:44,5:46,6:24,19:19,22:37,22:39
Mark 10:21,12:30,12:31,12:33
Luke 6:27,6:32,6:35,7:5,7:42,7:47,10:27,11:43,16:13
John 3:16,3:19,3:35,8:42,10:17,11:5,12:43,13:1,13:23,13 :34,14:15,14:21,14:23,14:24,14:28,
14:31,15:9,15:12,15:17,17:23,17:24,17:26,19:26,21: 7,21:15,21:16,21:20
Romans 8:28,8:37,9:13,9:25,13:8,13:9,
1 Corinthians 2:9,8:3,13:1,13:2,13:3,13:4,13:8,13:13
2 Corinthians 9:7,11:11,12:15
Galatians 2:20,5:14,
Ephesians 1;6,2:4,5:2,5:25,5:28,5:33,6:24
Colossians 3:12,3:19
1 Thessalonians 1:4,4:9
2 Thessalonians 2:13,2:16
2 Timothy 4:8,4:10
Hebrews 1:9,12:6
James 1:12,2:5,2:8
1 Peter 1:8,1:22,2:17,3:10
2 Peter 2:15
1 John 2:10,2:15,3:11,3:14,3:18,3:23,4:7,4:8,4:10,4:11,4: 12,4:19,4:20,4:21,5:1,5:2
2 John 1:1,1:5
3 John 1:1
Revelation 1:5,3:9,12:11,20:9


What is the bottom line? If you have taken the time to read even half of these verses, you will realize that Jesus expects us to Love each other with His Love, not the “Love” that we are capable of ourselves. So, what does this mean? If you aren’t willing to give your life and die for the person you are responding to in this thread and every brother and sister in Christ on this website, then you don’t truly know Jesus(1 John 4:7-12,1 John 3:10-11,1 John 3:23, 1 John 4:21, Eph 6:24, Galatians 5:14, James 2:8)
So in other words if we think we are in a place to correct others and are not loving each other in exactly the same way God Loves us, then we are deceived.

I know many of may be pulling your hair out right now, maybe even ready to stone me. But if you read the Bible in the original language, this is what it says. There is no way around this. If you are enraged or angry about this post, then there is probably pride in you, because you have relied on your knowledge of the Lord and your Love for your knowledge of the Lord, rather than Love for the Lord Himself. Most of the time this is due to attributing your righteousness to your knowledge of the Bible and of God.

If you are worried because of the standard Jesus set, about whether you are even capable of being a Christian, you are in a good place and need not worry if you are a good Christian:

Matthew 5:3(NASB)
[FONT=&quot]3[/FONT][FONT=&quot]"Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.[/FONT]

James 4:6(NASB)(emphasis mine)
6[FONT=&quot]But He gives a greater grace. Therefore {it} says, "GOD IS OPPOSED TO THE PROUD, BUT GIVES GRACE TO THE HUMBLE."[/FONT]

It is in this attitude of humility, realizing that you can’t take credit for even one inch of your walk or relationship with God(John 6:44, 1 John 4:19, Romans 12:3), that God grants us the Grace to walk with Him. When you walk in pride, God opposes you. But to those who are humble He grants His Grace, and His Holy Spirit gives His fruit to you(Galatians 5:22) to be able to Love and do as He commanded. It is by positioning your heart to allow the Holy Spirit to do His work in you, that you are even capable of Loving like God Loves.

Though it is true that those who have not intentionally, in their hearts, invited Jesus into their life as their Lord and Savior; have no atonement for their sin, you can also be deceived as a Christian and have your efforts mean nothing to God. And whether you are Buddhist, Hindu, Muslim, or "Christian”, without actually knowing Jesus(evidenced by God’s Love in you for others), your efforts mean nothing.

[FONT=&quot]John 13:35(NASB)[/FONT]
[FONT=&quot]35[/FONT]"By this all men will know that you are My disciples, if you have love for one another."

1 Corinthians 13:2(NASB)
2If I have the gift of prophecy, and know all mysteries and all knowledge; and if I have all faith, so as to remove mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing.
There are some very important verses that you left out for some reason (and I do not know why) concerning the love of God. I'll quote 1Cor 13:5 for you. First the KJV and then the Amplified.

5 Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil; (KJV)

5 It is not conceited (arrogant and inflated with pride); it is not rude (unmannerly) and does not act unbecomingly. Love (God's love in us) does not insist on its own rights or its own way, for it is not self-seeking; it is not touchy or fretful or resentful; it takes no account of the evil done to it [it pays no attention to a suffered wrong]. (Amplified)

Love discerns evil but does not think in terms of evil. Love is not easily provoked and does not keep track of the evil done unto it. This is just as much a part of the love of God as anything that you have mentioned, but you left this out. Did you do it on purpose or was it just an oversight? Do you have any idea what it means for love to think no evil? Do you know what evil is? You also left out verses 6 & 7.


6 Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth; 7 Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things. (KJV)

6 It does not rejoice at injustice and unrighteousness, but rejoices when right and truth prevail.
7Love bears up under anything and everything that comes, * is ever ready to believe the best of every person, its hopes are fadeless under all circumstances, and it endures everything [without weakening]. (Amp)

* love believes the best according to the truth that it rejoices in, not outside the truth.

Every time we preach the truth we rejoice in it, we don't apologize for it and say it was hard and difficult but we had to do it.

People don't want to relate to these verses concerning how love behaves, because that requires discipline and conviction of the truth. If you love without the truth, your love will be without truth. We can't worship God without the truth either / John 6:63. So don't try to convince people of the love of God without the truth. This verse about love did not make your list either.

Phil 1:9 And this I pray: that your love may abound yet more and more and extend to its fullest development in knowledge and all keen insight [that your love may display itself in greater depth of acquaintance and more comprehensive discernment]. (Amp)

Our love must abound in knowledge and judgment. God forbid that our love grow in judgment so that we can discern what is of the truth and what is not. We don't want believers to have that kind of discerning love because we want to love everyone no matter how good or evil they are, even to our brothers in Christ, RIGHT?

Love lays its life down according to the truth. Jesus came by grace and truth and He laid his life down according to that grace and truth. We ought to lay our life down for one another in the same manner, according to grace and truth. When we do it according to truth we do not compromise and say, it's okay if you believe that way we love you anyways. That's not how Christ laid His life down for His friends. He laid it down according to the truth, that died and shed His blood for sinners so that they could live in the righteousness of God instead of their own. To walk in love you have to walk in the light of truth or it's not the love of God.
 

phil36

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There are some very important verses that you left out for some reason (and I do not know why) concerning the love of God. I'll quote 1Cor 13:5 for you. First the KJV and then the Amplified.

5 Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil; (KJV)

5 It is not conceited (arrogant and inflated with pride); it is not rude (unmannerly) and does not act unbecomingly. Love (God's love in us) does not insist on its own rights or its own way, for it is not self-seeking; it is not touchy or fretful or resentful; it takes no account of the evil done to it [it pays no attention to a suffered wrong]. (Amplified)

Love discerns evil but does not think in terms of evil. Love is not easily provoked and does not keep track of the evil done unto it. This is just as much a part of the love of God as anything that you have mentioned, but you left this out. Did you do it on purpose or was it just an oversight? Do you have any idea what it means for love to think no evil? Do you know what evil is? You also left out verses 6 & 7.


6 Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth; 7 Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things. (KJV)

6 It does not rejoice at injustice and unrighteousness, but rejoices when right and truth prevail.
7Love bears up under anything and everything that comes, * is ever ready to believe the best of every person, its hopes are fadeless under all circumstances, and it endures everything [without weakening]. (Amp)

* love believes the best according to the truth that it rejoices in, not outside the truth.

Every time we preach the truth we rejoice in it, we don't apologize for it and say it was hard and difficult but we had to do it.

People don't want to relate to these verses concerning how love behaves, because that requires discipline and conviction of the truth. If you love without the truth, your love will be without truth. We can't worship God without the truth either / John 6:63. So don't try to convince people of the love of God without the truth. This verse about love did not make your list either.

Phil 1:9 And this I pray: that your love may abound yet more and more and extend to its fullest development in knowledge and all keen insight [that your love may display itself in greater depth of acquaintance and more comprehensive discernment]. (Amp)

Our love must abound in knowledge and judgment. God forbid that our love grow in judgment so that we can discern what is of the truth and what is not. We don't want believers to have that kind of discerning love because we want to love everyone no matter how good or evil they are, even to our brothers in Christ, RIGHT?

Love lays its life down according to the truth. Jesus came by grace and truth and He laid his life down according to that grace and truth. We ought to lay our life down for one another in the same manner, according to grace and truth. When we do it according to truth we do not compromise and say, it's okay if you believe that way we love you anyways. That's not how Christ laid His life down for His friends. He laid it down according to the truth, that died and shed His blood for sinners so that they could live in the righteousness of God instead of their own. To walk in love you have to walk in the light of truth or it's not the love of God.

Brilliant shad :)

I love your last point :

"To walk in love you have to walk in the light of truth or it's not the love of God"

We hear a lot of talk of love on here, but not to much about obedience to the truth.

Another great post shad.

Phil
 
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Lauren

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I love your last point :

"To walk in love you have to walk in the light of truth or it's not the love of God"

We hear a lot of talk of love on here, but not to much about obedience to the truth.
Great point!
 
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machew

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There are some very important verses that you left out for some reason (and I do not know why) concerning the love of God. I'll quote 1Cor 13:5 for you. First the KJV and then the Amplified.

5 Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil; (KJV)

5 It is not conceited (arrogant and inflated with pride); it is not rude (unmannerly) and does not act unbecomingly. Love (God's love in us) does not insist on its own rights or its own way, for it is not self-seeking; it is not touchy or fretful or resentful; it takes no account of the evil done to it [it pays no attention to a suffered wrong]. (Amplified)

Love discerns evil but does not think in terms of evil. Love is not easily provoked and does not keep track of the evil done unto it. This is just as much a part of the love of God as anything that you have mentioned, but you left this out. Did you do it on purpose or was it just an oversight? Do you have any idea what it means for love to think no evil? Do you know what evil is? You also left out verses 6 & 7.


6 Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth; 7 Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things. (KJV)

6 It does not rejoice at injustice and unrighteousness, but rejoices when right and truth prevail.
7Love bears up under anything and everything that comes, * is ever ready to believe the best of every person, its hopes are fadeless under all circumstances, and it endures everything [without weakening]. (Amp)

* love believes the best according to the truth that it rejoices in, not outside the truth.

Every time we preach the truth we rejoice in it, we don't apologize for it and say it was hard and difficult but we had to do it.

People don't want to relate to these verses concerning how love behaves, because that requires discipline and conviction of the truth. If you love without the truth, your love will be without truth. We can't worship God without the truth either / John 6:63. So don't try to convince people of the love of God without the truth. This verse about love did not make your list either.

Phil 1:9 And this I pray: that your love may abound yet more and more and extend to its fullest development in knowledge and all keen insight [that your love may display itself in greater depth of acquaintance and more comprehensive discernment]. (Amp)

Our love must abound in knowledge and judgment. God forbid that our love grow in judgment so that we can discern what is of the truth and what is not. We don't want believers to have that kind of discerning love because we want to love everyone no matter how good or evil they are, even to our brothers in Christ, RIGHT?

Love lays its life down according to the truth. Jesus came by grace and truth and He laid his life down according to that grace and truth. We ought to lay our life down for one another in the same manner, according to grace and truth. When we do it according to truth we do not compromise and say, it's okay if you believe that way we love you anyways. That's not how Christ laid His life down for His friends. He laid it down according to the truth, that died and shed His blood for sinners so that they could live in the righteousness of God instead of their own. To walk in love you have to walk in the light of truth or it's not the love of God.
I'm not sure how what I wrote and what you wrote is in conflict. I agree with what you posted and I wrote with the assumption that if you had the true Love of God in you, then you are walking in obedience and according to the truth. I suppose I didn't make this very clear.

Thanks for your post!

Blessings,

Machew
 
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cloudshape

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Graybeard,
It's easy to respond in judegmental words or anger or cruelty on the internet. we don't see each other and it's easier to 'forget' that a real, living, breathing, sometimes hurting, person is behind the words on the screen. That is one thing ALL of us have to be careful in doing. No matter how passionate we feel about our opinion or faith, it helps not to flame.

I know how hard that spiritual place is. In honesty, I really have no idea what I believe, if I am Christian, if I ever could be Christian in truth. I know Christianity and I've tried to know Christ.

Graybeard, keep praying. Keep reaching out.

Peace
 
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Welcome cloudshape. I hope you come to the place where you dont just believe but that you also RECEIVE of the Lord. In the falling on my face in dispair of my life I requested the Lord come into my life and there is nothing that can ever compare to the lifting of every bad thing i've ever done in an instant. a stone heart brought to mush. I pray this for you for it is true redemption in Christ Jesus, a spiritual experience that words can never ever do justice. Bless your heart :)
 
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iraasuup

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That is how I feel...like I have been raped spiritually.
I joined CC with the hope of discussing and having fellowship with brothers ans sisters in Christ in order to fulfill a desire to learn and grow in the Lord.....but there is so much doctrine pushing and tearing ones belief down that over time this has begun to take its toll on me. Who are you people??...why do you take such delight in proving your point of view as being THE right way?? why do you insist on treating posters as enemies and not as a living, breathing soul like yourself?? do you even believe that we are people as well??

I find myself confused and question my understanding of some scriptures. I had the confidence to approach The Throne of God boldly before joining here but that has changed so much that at times I don't even know what to pray for.

My conclusion is that there is a spirit that is not of God operating with freedom right here in these chat rooms and everyone embraces it with open arms....LORD HELP US IN JESUS NAME i pray.
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That is how I feel...like I have been raped spiritually.
I joined CC with the hope of discussing and having fellowship with brothers ans sisters in Christ in order to fulfill a desire to learn and grow in the Lord.....but there is so much doctrine pushing and tearing ones belief down that over time this has begun to take its toll on me. Who are you people??...why do you take such delight in proving your point of view as being THE right way?? why do you insist on treating posters as enemies and not as a living, breathing soul like yourself?? do you even believe that we are people as well??

I find myself confused and question my understanding of some scriptures. I had the confidence to approach The Throne of God boldly before joining here but that has changed so much that at times I don't even know what to pray for.
do you know the Word and if you do does your church follow that Word of hope? do you have someone to fellowship with? these will help you in your walk with Christ . do not despair there are some who will help you
 
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That is how I feel...like I have been raped spiritually.
I joined CC with the hope of discussing and having fellowship with brothers ans sisters in Christ in order to fulfill a desire to learn and grow in the Lord.....but there is so much doctrine pushing and tearing ones belief down that over time this has begun to take its toll on me. Who are you people??...why do you take such delight in proving your point of view as being THE right way?? why do you insist on treating posters as enemies and not as a living, breathing soul like yourself?? do you even believe that we are people as well??

I find myself confused and question my understanding of some scriptures. I had the confidence to approach The Throne of God boldly before joining here but that has changed so much that at times I don't even know what to pray for.
do you know the Word and if you do does your church follow that Word of hope? do you have someone to fellowship with? these will help you in your walk with Christ . do not despair there are some who will help you
I am wondering if I fall into the category pushing doctrine and treating people as enemies? If so, I apologize.
 

wattie

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'speaking the truth in love'

there are a couple of aspects to this:

one is being prepared to speak the truth
the other is speaking it without condemnation for the other

so an example could be rebuking a church member over a belief they have or sin they are committing.. like if a church believes Jesus is God.. but one of the leaders gets up and undermines that teaching by their preaching. So privately, a church member who is in authority could take them by the side and tell them the truth of what the church believes, but not actually say to them they are going to hell or condemning the personality.

I know I like to challenge popular beliefs for christianity.. it's kind of a sticky point with me that what was considered fringe or strange 20 - 30 years ago has now become the norm for alot of christians.

I have tried not to condemn personally.. and stick to biblical truth.
 
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Ash_JFF

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If I ever contributed to this way you feel Graybeard then I am truly sorry.
I feel the same way. Sometimes we argue and the devil gets a hold of the situation. We need to always remember that God can defend himself and we just need to sit back and worship God in fellowship when things get to heated. Whether someone is right or wrong, sometimes its not really a big deal and people think its the end of the world.
 
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machew

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I often wonder why people feel the need to defend God. He doesn't need defending. So what is it that is being defended, God's Word, or the doubts people have hidden in their hearts about their own beliefs? If people are so confident in what they believe why would they feel such a strong need to defend it? I went through a season of life where I attacked people who challenged my beliefs, but later realized as the Holy Spirit convicted me and showed me that the only reason I attacked people was because of my lack of confidence in God's willingness to defend His Word and Himself. I had a view of God where God sat in heaven and didn't really interact with His church and didn't note enough the evil people did. But the Bible says that God laughs at His enemies.

The vision from God I had today:

When praying about this thread God gave me a vision that helped me articulate what was going on here. I prayed the following: "God let me see the hearts of those here and an illustration of what is going on here."

In this vision, I was the leader of a church where I taught and preached the Word of God, and made it clear that God's Word was Holy and that people should run their theology and interpretation through me to make sure it was biblical. I then heard the Lord present me with this question "If you didn't do one more thing to lead the people under your influence, can you see them surviving in the faith?" In the vision I realized that my answer was no, and I heard Him say to me "You are right! They wouldn't, but not because they are unfaithful or lacking in devotion to Me, but because you have made them reliant on you and not Me. In your zeal to protect my Word, you have made yourself their filter to go through to get to Me. You have allowed your pride to become a wall that they have to climb over to get to Me. You have no trust for My wisdom and My desire to protect those who are Mine."

I figured I would share this with you all. Hopefully it rocks all of you as much as it rocked me.

Much Love,

Machew
 
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machew

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To clarify, this vision was a reflection of what was going on here, not necessary a reflection of my life. God sometimes shapes His visions with you experiencing what someone else is experiencing or puts you in a place of seeing through another's eyes.
 

pickles

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I often wonder why people feel the need to defend God. He doesn't need defending. So what is it that is being defended, God's Word, or the doubts people have hidden in their hearts about their own beliefs? If people are so confident in what they believe why would they feel such a strong need to defend it? I went through a season of life where I attacked people who challenged my beliefs, but later realized as the Holy Spirit convicted me and showed me that the only reason I attacked people was because of my lack of confidence in God's willingness to defend His Word and Himself. I had a view of God where God sat in heaven and didn't really interact with His church and didn't note enough the evil people did. But the Bible says that God laughs at His enemies.

The vision from God I had today:

When praying about this thread God gave me a vision that helped me articulate what was going on here. I prayed the following: "God let me see the hearts of those here and an illustration of what is going on here."

In this vision, I was the leader of a church where I taught and preached the Word of God, and made it clear that God's Word was Holy and that people should run their theology and interpretation through me to make sure it was biblical. I then heard the Lord present me with this question "If you didn't do one more thing to lead the people under your influence, can you see them surviving in the faith?" In the vision I realized that my answer was no, and I heard Him say to me "You are right! They wouldn't, but not because they are unfaithful or lacking in devotion to Me, but because you have made them reliant on you and not Me. In your zeal to protect my Word, you have made yourself their filter to go through to get to Me. You have allowed your pride to become a wall that they have to climb over to get to Me. You have no trust for My wisdom and My desire to protect those who are Mine."

I figured I would share this with you all. Hopefully it rocks all of you as much as it rocked me.

Much Love,

Machew
Good words!
God bless, pickles