Why is some sex before marriage considered evil, but not others?

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Elizabeth619

Elizabeth619

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Jul 19, 2011
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AdorableNoel said:
*working on being slow to anger* But..honestly your words pissed me off a bit.
SEX is before marriage is selfish and greedy-snful. In rape where is the woman enjoying or wanting it? When did she choose to do it? God gives us choice, rape is forceful.. not by choice. Just putting this out there since I'm more comfortable with it now, I was raped. Rape like other things can lead to sin.
Here's a situation. A 5 year old girl, raped. Did she sin? Did she even do anything? This doesn't just deal with girls either. Plently of boy & men are raped but can't say anything for even more reasons.
Rape... is... like being lied to in a sense. Did you ask to be decieved... heck no. Were you the one who lied? Who sinned?
Apparently you haven't dropped this subject, and I pray that God gives your heart knowleged so that you may have discernement over this and move on, instead of helping plant seeds of lies into people. Rape isn't sin. More questions? Message me, talk to a church member... no.. better yet, keep this subject between you and God. Sex, any kin d is between those two people (maybe law) and God
God Bless you
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You are 14, and have knowledge like this???


BTW, to get "pissed" off at another person ecause of a question that is clearly bothering them isn't too Godly. Also, the OP has stated before she is a rape victim. It is obvious she is having problems with this and her spirituality. As Christians we are to help everyone. I dont care how upset or angry her question made you. The fact you talk the way you do and represent yourself as a 14 year old girl raises an eyebrow to me .
 
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prayersneeded

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does the bible say that if you have sex before mariage (now im not talking about rape or anything just consentual) that ur gonna go to hell? .. thats pretty over the top for a some sex dont you think?
 
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R0SE

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Deuteronomy 21:10-14 ESV / 5 helpful votes

“When you go out to war against your enemies, and the Lord your God gives them into your hand and you take them captive, and you see among the captives a beautiful woman, and you desire to take her to be your wife, and you bring her home to your house, she shall shave her head and pare her nails. And she shall take off the clothes in which she was captured and shall remain in your house and lament her father and her mother a full month. After that you may go in to her and be her husband, and she shall be your wife. But if you no longer delight in her, you shall let her go where she wants. But you shall not sell her for money, nor shall you treat her as a slave, since you have humiliated her.

I agree that rape is a sin (worthy of death)...but this passage implies that women in this situation have no choice. According to the bible, in the time of war, the men may take the woman as they desire and then he can just cast her off. Why is this not considered a form of rape?

I don't understand why this is an acceptable practice of the time since Leviticus clearly lines out what sexual immorality is.
 
Justcuz

Justcuz

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rape is violence, it isn't sex
 
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megaman125

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prayersneeded said:
does the bible say that if you have sex before mariage (now im not talking about rape or anything just consentual) that ur gonna go to hell? .. thats pretty over the top for a some sex dont you think?
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You'll go to hell for rejecting the love, mercy and grace of God, not for committing one single sin. All have sinned, and it's not just one or two sins they committed throughout their life. The accuser will have a long list of reasons God shouldn't let any given person into heaven when they are judged.
 
cenallen

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smithbr8 said:
I just wanna make sure I'm following the Bible exactly as it says
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that would be to forgive, and commit to God, the judge what was done to you.
keeping in mind all the while you have sinned against Him and against others yourself, and are in need of forgiveness.
it's not easy when the wrong was traumatic.
but if you want God to forgive your sin, ask Him to help you forgive the one who committed this crime against you.

i once watched a documentary about some catholic nuns who were helping african women learn to love the babies born to them by rape. this is not easy. but the girls learned about the love of God, that children are cherished by Him and that they could turn what satan meant for evil into good, by loving the other innocent victim, the child.

this is very difficult. but if we focus on correcting harm rather than keeping its effects alive we will do well, i think.
 
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