my step mom hates me

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TemporaryCircumstances

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Just as the title says.
I am not overreacting.
I've tried to ask for love from her. All I get is constant hate.
I've tried apologizing and blaming everything on myself instead of her.
I've tried everything.
I'm about done.
What else can I do?
 

Demi777

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I got bad news for ya sis.. there aint a lot you can do. Keep showering her with love and pray..not just for her though. Pray that you can persevere and endure , have the strength , keep the peace of God with you etc.. Maybe get her some flowers at times. But like said there aint a lot because she surely doesnt hate you. She hates Christ in you. Your too awesome no one can hate you!
 
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Yeah that's highly debatable
Many can and do hate me

The thing is, I can't keep doing what im doing.
I push myself to the breaking point and I'm done I've broken.
Congrats to her
 

HS

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Oh no. Demi has the answer there ain't a lot that you can do. but don't blame it all on yourself it is isn't your fault. Will pray for your stepmum may she come to know Jesus. God bless you sister. Love you :)
 
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Ultimatum77

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It's probably not you, she just may not be mature enough as a person, and when she sees you it reminds her that your dad had a previous marriage so it makes her feel insecure....Just be strong, pray, and don't rehearse it in your mind of you being wrong or what you could've done differently just let it go and move on with your day. :) Maybe it's a little harsh but you can also pray to God to set your stepmom straight....God knows how to break pride/set people straight and if you ask him to he just may and change your stepmom from a cold heart to a real one... :)

Don't let people who suck drag you down...know you're better than whatever they say!
 
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I can't do nothing....
I can't live like this Hannah....
 
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It's probably not you, she just may not be mature enough as a person, and when she sees you it reminds her that your dad had a previous marriage so it makes her feel insecure....Just be strong, pray, and don't rehearse it in your mind of you being wrong or what you could've done differently just let it go and move on with your day. :) Maybe it's a little harsh but you can also pray to God to set your stepmom straight....God knows how to break pride/set people straight and if you ask him to he just may and change your stepmom from a cold heart to a real one... :)

Don't let people who suck drag you down...know you're better than whatever they say!
Why?
She's not with my father anymore.
So that's not it.
She's glad she's not with my father as is everyone else who isn't with him.
So I guess she really isn't my step mom but I still consider her my step mom
 

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Oh sister I wish I could do something for you. I wish I could adopt you. Do something but I can only pray. Is there no other family for you? Hugs
 

Demi777

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Yeah that's highly debatable
Many can and do hate me

The thing is, I can't keep doing what im doing.
I push myself to the breaking point and I'm done I've broken.
Congrats to her
Well he was hated first

John 15:18
If the world hate you, ye know that it hated me before it hated you.

Matthew 10:22
And ye shall be hated of all men for my name's sake: but he that endureth to the end shall be saved.
Im sorry that you gotta go through that sis. Believe me I dont have it the easiest either. Hang on tight and use it to get closer to God and people (like us) who love you to bits and dont wanna see you suffer. I believe your a strong young lady who can get through this victoriously :)
Romans 8:37
37 Nay, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him that loved us.

Dont give up on her :) The more hate she gives you, the more you love her. Dont work yourself to death but just keep loving her. Dont let her break you. Let Jesus show you how he sees her through his eyes with all her good and bad sides.

 
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Ultimatum77

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I can't do nothing....
I can't live like this Hannah....
Well, the other thing I forgot to mention but remember telling someone else on CC is ....avoidance....just limit your contact with her to the bare minimum like dinner or stuff and just stay in your own world as much as possible....It will starve her ego a little bit not to be able to throw her weight around and push you around so to speak....like a common hood saying...."sometimes you gotta just ice dat fool".....lol in this sense meaning just be impersonal/limit contact/freeze her out a bit. :)
 
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Oh sister I wish I could do something for you. I wish I could adopt you. Do something but I can only pray. Is there no other family for you? Hugs
Well, let's see
My mom doesn't want me living in her house
My step father (1st) is an alcoholic and has anger issues
My father is in jail for abusing his children and then violating the order of protection I got against him
My step mom (2nd) not this one is with my father and doesn't want anything to do with me

I think that about covers it
 
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Well he was hated first

John 15:18
If the world hate you, ye know that it hated me before it hated you.

Matthew 10:22
And ye shall be hated of all men for my name's sake: but he that endureth to the end shall be saved.
Im sorry that you gotta go through that sis. Believe me I dont have it the easiest either. Hang on tight and use it to get closer to God and people (like us) who love you to bits and dont wanna see you suffer. I believe your a strong young lady who can get through this victoriously :)
Romans 8:37
37 Nay, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him that loved us.

Dont give up on her :) The more hate she gives you, the more you love her. Dont work yourself to death but just keep loving her. Dont let her break you. Let Jesus show you how he sees her through his eyes with all her good and bad sides.

Yeah.... I know......
Thank you....
 

HS

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Well, let's see
My mom doesn't want me living in her house
My step father (1st) is an alcoholic and has anger issues
My father is in jail for abusing his children and then violating the order of protection I got against him
My step mom (2nd) not this one is with my father and doesn't want anything to do with me

I think that about covers it
Adoption? Hard line to take you could get a bad family or you could get a good family
 
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Well, the other thing I forgot to mention but remember telling someone else on CC is ....avoidance....just limit your contact with her to the bare minimum like dinner or stuff and just stay in your own world as much as possible....It will starve her ego a little bit not to be able to throw her weight around and push you around so to speak....like a common hood saying...."sometimes you gotta just ice dat fool".....lol in this sense meaning just be impersonal/limit contact/freeze her out a bit. :)
I try.
Heck I get out of the house as much as I can but she always finds a way
 
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Adoption? Hard line to take you could get a bad family or you could get a good family
I'm not doing adoption
I literally take care of this family.
I help pay bills, I buy and cook all of the food I take the kids to school and make sure they are okay

I can't just leave my siblings like that
 
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Ultimatum77

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Well, let's see
My mom doesn't want me living in her house
My step father (1st) is an alcoholic and has anger issues
My father is in jail for abusing his children and then violating the order of protection I got against him
My step mom (2nd) not this one is with my father and doesn't want anything to do with me

I think that about covers it
Wow you have a lot to deal with I had no idea, I am sad for you, well the best advice I can give is don't internalize anything from these negative situations....b/c negative situations can create negative people....if you don't internalize it you won't turn out/get poisoned by these dysfunctional people....Remember you can do it and you can be better than these people can even dream of themselves achieving....don't let them get you down. :)
 
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Wow you have a lot to deal with I had no idea, I am sad for you, well the best advice I can give is don't internalize anything from these negative situations....b/c negative situations can create negative people....if you don't internalize it you won't turn out/get poisoned by these dysfunctional people....Remember you can do it and you can be better than these people can even dream of themselves achieving....don't let them get you down. :)
Easier said than done though..........
I don't think I can do that
 

HS

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I'm not doing adoption
I literally take care of this family.
I help pay bills, I buy and cook all of the food I take the kids to school and make sure they are okay

I can't just leave my siblings like that
Okay I understand that. Does she physically abuse you or just mentally which just as bad?
 
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Okay I understand that. Does she physically abuse you or just mentally which just as bad?
I'm not saying what she does because I am not having anyone reporting her and taking the chance of stupid social services dealing with me again
Sorry
 
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All I'm saying is today what sent me over the top was mental