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Fall in LOVE with JESUS like never before. Ingulf yourself in HIM in all manner of LIFE. Do not let the situation, circumstances of this life determine WHOM the LORD says you are. SEEK HIS FACE and HE will BLESS you with abundant LIFE like you never had. Get involved in HIS WORK and watch HIS hand move in you and through you. HE cares for you and HE want the best for you. He wants you to be open to receiving from HIM all that HE has for you. Keep your eyes on the WORK OF JESUS ON THE CROSS ALONE AND BE AT PEACE.
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guymanuel,
Thank you. I know you are right. I'm so scared. I'm a stay at home mom, we just bought our first house, I can't afford a lawyer, we have a 3yr old son together (I also have a 12yr old son and he has a 9yr old daughter), and I don't want him to go.
I will focus on what you said- it hurts so much.
Thank you. I know you are right. I'm so scared. I'm a stay at home mom, we just bought our first house, I can't afford a lawyer, we have a 3yr old son together (I also have a 12yr old son and he has a 9yr old daughter), and I don't want him to go.
I will focus on what you said- it hurts so much.
S
Take it one day at a time and lean on God for healing the heartache that you feel. Run to him. Listen to this radio station Listen to Contemporary Christian Music online or find a radio station near you - Positive Encouraging K-LOVE online or on your local radio station and it will so lift you up and give you strength to carry on. It will help bring Gods healing to your broken heart. I am so sorry that you are going through this. Heart pain over a man devastates but you know what....you are going to be fine and you are going to rise out of the ashes a different woman and a stronger woman. Have faith sister and run to our God. This is an amazing place to have your prayer request shoot straight to Heaven. With each healing tear that falls a drop of strength enters your soul from our God. If you are his child he will see you through this.
S
If you can call and talk to a older woman in your life that has been married for a long time.
Chances are she will tell you marriage is full of ups and downs.
The grass always looks greener on the other side...
But once you get there you can see that persons weeds are just as bad...
as the feild you just left.
At least you can see the weeds (dysfunction) in the feild your in now.
You can identify what can go wrong...
You have to be willing to work with other persons faults.
We all have our weeds in our life!
Thank God He is there to help us get rid of them,
and overcome them with His Spirit and stregnth.
I pray your husband gains wisdom and understanding
and that you can work this through...
It will be worth it.
Love in Christ, Shekaniah
Phil 4:13
I can do all this through him who gives me strength.
Chances are she will tell you marriage is full of ups and downs.
The grass always looks greener on the other side...
But once you get there you can see that persons weeds are just as bad...
as the feild you just left.
At least you can see the weeds (dysfunction) in the feild your in now.
You can identify what can go wrong...
You have to be willing to work with other persons faults.
We all have our weeds in our life!
Thank God He is there to help us get rid of them,
and overcome them with His Spirit and stregnth.
I pray your husband gains wisdom and understanding
and that you can work this through...
It will be worth it.
Love in Christ, Shekaniah
Phil 4:13
I can do all this through him who gives me strength.
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Dear friend,
I have come to believe that God listens attentively to, and answers, our prayers that line up with His will. Since He has made His position on divorce very clear (See Mark 10:11 and Luke 16:18), I believe that you should pray very hard for your husband to come to his senses before it is too late. As Shekaniah pointed out so beautifully with her poem, we (men) often fall prey to wanderlust for all the wrong reasons and then regret it for the rest of our lives.
If your husband is a believer, and you were married in church, you could ask him in a non-confrontational way how his current actions line up with the vows you both took on your wedding day. I believe that you should make your position on the matter clear, but it should not be out of fear. It should grow out of a Godly conviction that marriage is a sacred covenant that should not be broken for trivial reasons. (And believe me, most of the reasons that men will come up with are trivial.)
And always take courage from this fact. There is Someone who loves you far more than your husband ever did, or ever will. Jesus will always be there; to comfort you, to prop you up, and to bear your burdens for you. In these times of trouble, you should rely on Him to guide you through.
But, again, let me encourage you not to give up without a "fight" (although fighting is the last thing you want to do right now). Remember, in a broad sense, God is on your side. Tell your husband how you feel and ask him to explain his reasons for wanting to divorce you. Then be prepared to address his concerns, truthfully and lovingly. It may not work but it is worth a try.
God be with you in your struggle.
I have come to believe that God listens attentively to, and answers, our prayers that line up with His will. Since He has made His position on divorce very clear (See Mark 10:11 and Luke 16:18), I believe that you should pray very hard for your husband to come to his senses before it is too late. As Shekaniah pointed out so beautifully with her poem, we (men) often fall prey to wanderlust for all the wrong reasons and then regret it for the rest of our lives.
If your husband is a believer, and you were married in church, you could ask him in a non-confrontational way how his current actions line up with the vows you both took on your wedding day. I believe that you should make your position on the matter clear, but it should not be out of fear. It should grow out of a Godly conviction that marriage is a sacred covenant that should not be broken for trivial reasons. (And believe me, most of the reasons that men will come up with are trivial.)
And always take courage from this fact. There is Someone who loves you far more than your husband ever did, or ever will. Jesus will always be there; to comfort you, to prop you up, and to bear your burdens for you. In these times of trouble, you should rely on Him to guide you through.
But, again, let me encourage you not to give up without a "fight" (although fighting is the last thing you want to do right now). Remember, in a broad sense, God is on your side. Tell your husband how you feel and ask him to explain his reasons for wanting to divorce you. Then be prepared to address his concerns, truthfully and lovingly. It may not work but it is worth a try.
God be with you in your struggle.
C
Hi ... first, are you both Christians? If you both are Christians did you try Christian counseling. If not, then you might ask yourself what direction you hoped your marriage would go as time goes on. Without a focus there is room for the devil to intervene and bring temptation. If you are a Christian but your husband isn't then you can try and do your best in saving your marriage. Please remember no matter what happens, all you have to do is ask Jesus to show you His presence in your life and He will. I remember over 15 years ago I walked away from church and couldn't stand being around anyone who was a Christian; but I never stopped believing, I just stopped believing in people. To this day I somewhat still struggle but I guarantee you w/all my heart there is a God and He is real and He loves you. Believing isn't only having Faith but also not having unrealistic expectations. Personally if I were you I would get a lawyer, I would take pictures of everything of value so he doesn't steal them, I would keep copies of bank statements and phone bills and this is only to keep him honest during divorce trials so the devil doesn't pull any fast ones. You still have to love yourself enough to protect YOU through a heart ache. HUGS, I know this isn't easy for you but it might be a blessing in disguise as well. God Bless
J
To All,
Thank you for kind words and advice. I focused on our Father as much as my rattled mined could.
We already began Christian counseling a couple months ago. My husband's job took him out of town and so, for the last month I've been going alone. We have much worldly stress in our lives: Just bought our first home, Matt has a fairly new job (with high stress), I'm beginning a new career, and Matt has no desire to have any relationship with my parents (they've had many volatile arguments). Among these extra stressors, we have the daily family stuff that everyone deals with. Also, we've been through our share of turmoil due to my journey with anxiety & depression and my husband's drinking (hard alcohol would change him).
I'm new to building my relationship with God. 2009 is when my husband lead me to Him. He was raised a Christian and then strayed until when he began to lead me. He also plays drums for our church.
Yesterday evening, when we talked about our relationship, he told me he doesn't want to be the spiritual leader of our home. He said he doesn't feel it. That scared me.
We talked for a while and I reminded him of our vows and what that meant to me. I told him I would not sign any divorce papers (although, I did talk to a friend about how to protect myself if we divorced). I reminded him that we've only begun counseling & that his work has taken him away from most of it.
He apologized for talking divorce. We have a counseling session this afternoon.
I'm going to keep in touch here- I have no idea what the future holds. I'll just keep praying and focusing on our Father.
Thank you all for taking the time to respond to my post.
Thank you for kind words and advice. I focused on our Father as much as my rattled mined could.
We already began Christian counseling a couple months ago. My husband's job took him out of town and so, for the last month I've been going alone. We have much worldly stress in our lives: Just bought our first home, Matt has a fairly new job (with high stress), I'm beginning a new career, and Matt has no desire to have any relationship with my parents (they've had many volatile arguments). Among these extra stressors, we have the daily family stuff that everyone deals with. Also, we've been through our share of turmoil due to my journey with anxiety & depression and my husband's drinking (hard alcohol would change him).
I'm new to building my relationship with God. 2009 is when my husband lead me to Him. He was raised a Christian and then strayed until when he began to lead me. He also plays drums for our church.
Yesterday evening, when we talked about our relationship, he told me he doesn't want to be the spiritual leader of our home. He said he doesn't feel it. That scared me.
We talked for a while and I reminded him of our vows and what that meant to me. I told him I would not sign any divorce papers (although, I did talk to a friend about how to protect myself if we divorced). I reminded him that we've only begun counseling & that his work has taken him away from most of it.
He apologized for talking divorce. We have a counseling session this afternoon.
I'm going to keep in touch here- I have no idea what the future holds. I'll just keep praying and focusing on our Father.
Thank you all for taking the time to respond to my post.
Please read here, hope it helps True feminism
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This did happen to me and I remember how scared I was. I hope you can use this site to help express yourself while your hurting. Yes, try one day at a time. One mistake I made is I was so hurt and worried(I was stay at home mom too) that when he came home I would basically pounce on him with angry words, and pent up worriedness. Doing that could push the button. Everyday you wake up thank God that he is still there and you made it through yesterday and do what you can to make peace.
Glad to hear he apologized for saying that.
Glad to hear he apologized for saying that.
I'm so sorry for what you are going through. I pray that this marriage can be saved, but trust that you are in the Lord's hands either way. I was a stay-at-home mom for most of our marriage—no degree, no career, just some retail or childcare on the side occasionally. There seemed to be no way that I could support myself and our son. Through a lot of miracles, the Lord quadrupled my salary over the 3 years since the divorce, and I was able to by us a house last year.
Put all of your burdens on the Lord. Work really hard, and just take it one day at a time.
Put all of your burdens on the Lord. Work really hard, and just take it one day at a time.
A
Hi, have you considered researching what the Bible says about marriage, looking for the verses and presenting it to your husband and discuss them, practice them?
Mark 10:9 Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate."
Ephesians 5:22, 23 Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior.
Malachi 2:16 "The man who hates and divorces his wife," says the LORD, the God of Israel, "does violence to the one he should protect," says the LORD Almighty. So be on your guard, and do not be unfaithful.
Proverbs 18:22 He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the LORD.
Proverbs 31:10 A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies.
Colossians 3:18, 19 Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them.
God bless you
Mark 10:9 Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate."
Ephesians 5:22, 23 Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior.
Malachi 2:16 "The man who hates and divorces his wife," says the LORD, the God of Israel, "does violence to the one he should protect," says the LORD Almighty. So be on your guard, and do not be unfaithful.
Proverbs 18:22 He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the LORD.
Proverbs 31:10 A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies.
Colossians 3:18, 19 Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them.
God bless you
D
Jes, I understand how devastating a divorce can feel. It hurts like hell. It seems like your whole world is crumbling away. Many of us have been there. I am currently separated from my sweetheart due to her infidelity. God did not bring you this far just to abandon you. He is with you and completely understands.
The Wednesday before last thanksgiving I was told I was fired. I had never been fired before and it hurt. All of Wednesday night I felt bad and all of Thanksgiving, Friday, Saturday, all Sunday and before work on Monday I felt horrible. After I had started work I realized it had all blown over and I was not fired.
While leaving work, I had a vision from God. I saw a golden frame with a cartoon like drawing inside the picture frame. I saw dark clouds, big waves, lightning and wind as if a huge storm was on the water. In the center of the picture I saw Jesus from the neck up. His eyes were brilliant pools of bright blue and I felt peace from them. I wondered what this meant and then realized what it was all about. I have counseled some trouble people in the past and my favorite thing to say was
"Don't do a Peter and focus on the big waves but keep your eyes on Jesus". This vision was Jesus' way of reminding me to not do a Peter, as I had clearly done.
No one expects you to be happy with this situation, but now and then make sure you tell your self that Jesus has your best interests at heart and according to Romans 8:28, All things work together for good for those in Christ.
The Wednesday before last thanksgiving I was told I was fired. I had never been fired before and it hurt. All of Wednesday night I felt bad and all of Thanksgiving, Friday, Saturday, all Sunday and before work on Monday I felt horrible. After I had started work I realized it had all blown over and I was not fired.
While leaving work, I had a vision from God. I saw a golden frame with a cartoon like drawing inside the picture frame. I saw dark clouds, big waves, lightning and wind as if a huge storm was on the water. In the center of the picture I saw Jesus from the neck up. His eyes were brilliant pools of bright blue and I felt peace from them. I wondered what this meant and then realized what it was all about. I have counseled some trouble people in the past and my favorite thing to say was
"Don't do a Peter and focus on the big waves but keep your eyes on Jesus". This vision was Jesus' way of reminding me to not do a Peter, as I had clearly done.
No one expects you to be happy with this situation, but now and then make sure you tell your self that Jesus has your best interests at heart and according to Romans 8:28, All things work together for good for those in Christ.