Advice about anger and family?

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lookwhatthelordhasdone

lookwhatthelordhasdone

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Okay, so I'll try to make it short.

A few months ago, when I came to help my grandmother, she was in really bad health then. I think it was because my Uncle, who lives with her, wasn't taking very good care of her. Anyhow the months have passed and she is in great health. Now she's getting a little too confidant, as in leaving her walker and getting up on her own. She was in such bad condition before because of a fall, breaking her hip and arm.
She over eats constantly, at least 3000 calories a day, which is ridiculous. All of this sends her sugar off the charts, sometimes registering at 500-600, which is at the point of coma.
She refuses to wear her bi-pap, which prevents confusion, and helps with breathing.

For a while we had a handle on her food and other things, and that's the reason she was doing so well. Now that we've left her with my uncle a little bit more though, she's reverting into old habits. She eats large meals every two hours, even if we tell her her sugar is high. She demands it. All of the other stuff is just out of hand as well.

So, I guess I just need advice to handle the situation. I can't seem to talk sense into her, and with my completely uncaring uncle, I have no idea what to do and I feel like I'm fighting a losing battle. I've prayed to God and I will continue to pray, but I need something to relive some of this tension. I'm so stressed and angry all the time at my uncle and Grandmother because neither of them care about her personal health.
 
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Indubitably

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This is a difficult time for you, I'm sure. My ministry is in a great part dealing with seniors and the disabled. They get very set in their ways and make excuses such as, "oh well I'm not going to be here long anyway, I might as well enjoy it". I have often found that family is a little too close to the person to affect a change in them. I know that many tinmes I have seen intervention by a neutral third party to work.

When a person behaves as your grandmother does, especially with diet, it stems from an emotional issue, not just a medical one. The third party can express to your grandmother how much you love her and want her to be ok and to be with you for a very long time. This third party can be a pastor, counselor or even better, a trusted Christian woman you know or one in your church.

Of course you know to pray and to get as many people to stand with you in prayer as possible.
God bless you as you wait on Him and I will be praying for you and your family.
 
lookwhatthelordhasdone

lookwhatthelordhasdone

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Thank you for your advice. We've had doctors stand in before and tell her to wear the bi-pap and whatnot; she does for a while and then falls into the same pattern. Apparently this is a vicious circle with her. Gets better, then gets worse, all because of her mentality. First it was a spontaneous bleed, then a fall, then infections. She's overcame death. Well, God granted her the blessing of living to fight another day. I talk to her about being thankful and giving her praises up to the Lord for what he has brought her through. It just frustrates me that there are so many people who help her, like a small army, and she doesn't even put forth the effort herself. I guess there's only so much all of us can do. There has to be a time where she picks up the ball and says, "I want to help myself."

Anyhow, I'll continue to pray and leave it in God's hands.
 
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intercessorginger

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Dear Look,
One of the hardest things to do in life to to realize you have to let go. After you have done everything humanly possible to help another person,there comes a time when we have to put them "on the altar" so to speak. This means giving the situation to our father God to handle. What I have done in the past is to tell the Lord, in prayer that I am releasing the "care and concern" of the person..into his hands, and into his keeping. In my mind I put the person into his hands. That's where I leave them. Believe it or not..instead of the person falling apart (as my imagination wants to tell me they will) they actually get on their feet and do better! That has helped me to realize that no one can take care of them like JESUS!
Cast all your anxieties on him, for he cares about you.1Pe 5:7
 
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dmdave17

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intercessorginger said:
Dear Look,
One of the hardest things to do in life to to realize you have to let go. After you have done everything humanly possible to help another person,there comes a time when we have to put them "on the altar" so to speak. This means giving the situation to our father God to handle. What I have done in the past is to tell the Lord, in prayer that I am releasing the "care and concern" of the person..into his hands, and into his keeping. In my mind I put the person into his hands. That's where I leave them. Believe it or not..instead of the person falling apart (as my imagination wants to tell me they will) they actually get on their feet and do better! That has helped me to realize that no one can take care of them like JESUS!
Cast all your anxieties on him, for he cares about you.1Pe 5:7
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Amen, in every respect! One of the hardest things we face is to "give" our loved ones to God (try doing it with a child some time). But scripture tells us that it is the only way to true peace. God has promised us that, "I will never leave you nor forsake you." (Joshua 1:5, and many other places)

God is the sovereign ruler of the universe, and He loves and cares deeply for every one of His children. If you let Him minister to your grandmother, I believe that you will be pleasantly surprised by the results. But, as James told us, "But when you ask, you must believe and not doubt, because the one who doubts is like a wave of the sea, blown and tossed by the wind." James 1:6)

God be with you in your struggles.
 
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