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My wife and I have been married for 33 years, I am 11 years her senior, we have 4 children ages 32 to 19 the two youngest are still at home and in college. We have had or ups and downs as most marriages, but nothing serious. Several months ago I started to notice my wife was getting distant, and asking the kids to do things while I was there in the room and fully capable. Our love life hadn't changed. Then perhaps two months ago she started act strange like not wanting me to kiss her passionately like before. It has come to a point that she almost doesn't want me to even touch her. Last week she text me about going to dinner with a female coworker after work, she didn't get home till after10PM. I tried calling and texting no response until just after 10 when she said she was on her way. She said her phone was in her coat pocket and couldn't hear it. I know she was at the restaurant because I could see the charge on our account. I have not talked to the coworker to verify she was with my wife, and not sure I should. This Sunday we had a talk and I asked her what the problem was, because she always said "nothing" before. She said she had taken care of the kids and myself for these years and now she wanted to do what she wanted to do and said she wants a divorce. When I asked her why she said she couldn't give me a specific reason. I asked her if there was someone else, she said no that wasn't it. She has never lied to me about anything before. But she said she wasn't in a hurry because our youngest is very emotional and she wants to keep some form of stability in the family. This week she said she needed some time to work things out in her head and has gone to a hotel for a couple days, away from me and the kids. One concerning point is the cell phone, which keeps with her most of the time, even when she gets up in the morning and goes to the bathroom, the only time it isn't with her it's on the charger. She gets text messages early in the morning sometimes as early as 5:30, I cant imagine this being business. I cant check the phone because she keeps it near or with her, and I believe it may be locked. I love my wife very deeply and this is killing me, I can't imagine going on without her. She will be back on Thursday after work. I am praying it will be good news. Any advice would be much appreciated. Prayers that God leads her in the right direction wouldn't hurt. Thanks in advance.