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Michael86

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What I did:
I told asked my wife wanting a genuine question because we haven't been happy for some time now she left to be with her family for awhile, I definitely wanted her to be back with me, but after some days of fun but still having negative vibes because it just does not seem like she is very happy, I ask does she really want to be with me anymore, and was she sure this is what she wanted etc. I did this tho in front of mom and dad (I had reason why, don't normally handle things that way) not expecting her family to attack me and tell me everything they feel I'm doing wrong. Not expecting anyone to side and be against her, no, just to help us being somewhat of a mediator.

What should I do because I'm like super thrown off and pissed at this point. I feel so judged and mis-understood.
 
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kenisyes

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The Scripture is to give her some time to pray through it, but with an agreed upon ending time (I Cor. 7:5). It was the right question, but to ask your wife alone. Her parents' opinions have no bearing on what you do or choose. Forgive them for putting their two-cents in, realizing your wife has probably been seeking their counsel, and they will of course be biased in her favor. You need to get her answer alone, and then go on from there. What I hope she will decide is for the two of you to get some marriage counselling (preferably from a Christian counsellor of course). This "unhappiness" is often just part of a growth process, and lack of teaching in how to recognize God's opportunity for greater closeness. Counselling can fix that pretty easily, if that's what it is, and it's worth the try to save the marriage. Of course, if she really wants to leave, you can't stop her, so then you cry, you get the legal paperwork in order, and you go on.
 
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Rickee

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Michael86 said:
What I did:
I told asked my wife wanting a genuine question because we haven't been happy for some time now she left to be with her family for awhile, I definitely wanted her to be back with me, but after some days of fun but still having negative vibes because it just does not seem like she is very happy, I ask does she really want to be with me anymore, and was she sure this is what she wanted etc. I did this tho in front of mom and dad (I had reason why, don't normally handle things that way) not expecting her family to attack me and tell me everything they feel I'm doing wrong. Not expecting anyone to side and be against her, no, just to help us being somewhat of a mediator.

What should I do because I'm like super thrown off and pissed at this point. I feel so judged and mis-understood.
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This thread reminds me of an old beautiful song written and performed by Paul Anka " Time to cry" / you tube.

As previously stated you and her need to try and iron out both your faults/ issues alone. Why even involve anyone else, most especially her parents. Be prepared however to hold your tongue when your faults are discussed, and do this with a good spirit, and not with a " I'm right, you are WRONG" attitude.

Woman have a tendency to be more hurt and emotional over what Men consider trivial things. Be a good listener always, eat your " Humble Pie" and pray it all works out for you guys!!
 
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hootowl

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Hi Ricky

Is Paul Anka still around? not heard about him for ages.

He was great.

Hoot Owl
 
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