BECOMING PART OF A NEW FAMILY

[JesusLives]

Just wanted to post that I met part of what will become my new family Sunday 11/9/14 at a Bible study they were having as a family unit.

I come from a small family and because my half brother, (we share the same mother), was 16 years older than me and my half sister (we share the same father but she lived with her mother) was 12 years older than me I grew up like an only child.

At any rate 11/27/14 I will marry tourist and he comes from a larger family than I did and on that day I will gain 4 new brothers, a sister plus another mother, a daughter and 3 grand daughters . Sunday was a wonderful day meeting most of them and interacting them during and after the Bible study that was held.

With larger families comes a lot of extra noise as getting that many people in one room there is lots of talking going on, larger families also provide more interesting personalities and to say the least as time goes on and I get to know them better will add more variety to my life.

I was just wondering how the rest of you felt when you became part of a New Family?

My new family made me feel welcome and accepted me and included me in what was going on and made me feel as though I belong there with them and I look forward to many more family functions to be able to get to know each of them better.

It made me think of the larger family of God as a Christian that believes in creation if you really think about it we are all related and are brothers and sisters in Christ. Adam and Eve started this family of God and the world population is in the billions at this point and whether a person is a Christian or not we all came from the same original humans that were created in the beginning.

Makes me wish that we could treat each other as loving brothers and sisters and have the feeling of acceptance that I felt on Sunday. If we could just learn to love each other instead of fighting over topics of discussion and our points of view that may differ from one another what a better environment CC could be. The new comers to the site might feel more welcomed and not be sent running from harsh replies and non Christian attitudes that can sometimes happen.

But please do share how you have felt becoming a part of a New Family as I would like to know how you felt.

 

[Blain]

My family is very unfamily like. There are ppl whom the family has basically rejected and given up on and my sister mia who isn't even eighteen yet was kicked out of the house by my mom even though Mia is not the screw up in the house and Mia has done so much for my mom. My view is you don't give up on family-ever. No matter what a screw up they are no matter what they have done you are family and you never give up on them. I have met ppl whom I become very close to and either they become part of my family or I become part of theirs. My old high school teacher was my second mom and after I graduated I came to her house often and I became a part of their family.

I then understood that blood doesn't make a family love does, I then came to cc and I gained another family.
I come from a messed up and broken family who don't know or understand what it means to be family and yet by the grace of God I do. For instance Andrew a son of my high school teacher, he and I became brothers and best friends and we were close but we had many bumps and problems in our friendship and now he no longer even wants me to come over let alone be friends. But even though I am giving him his wish He is still family to me and like I said you don't give up on family even if they give up on you.

 

[notuptome]

Interesting, my daughter just got married on Saturday. His family is large and not nearly as sanctified as I would hope. A real missions field coming right to my door.

For the cause of Christ
Roger

 

[Joidevivre]

First of all, congratulations my friend - many, many happy years to both you and Tourist. Finding yourself in a new larger family will have both its ups and downs (just life). However, I truly believe that every person who appears in your life does so for much larger reasons than you might imagine. They are God appointed. And you to them.

I love the fact that your new family was having a bible study. How blessed you are.

In my life, my family sort of grew because my dad married 5 times, and kept bringing all these step brothers and sisters, and half sisters into my life. Not the best scenario for a kid. But I didn't live with them, and really didn't feel any feeling of family. Totally different picture than yours. So instead of all of a sudden finding myself dropped into a new family, I kept feeling that a new family was dropped into mine.

About the family here on CC, it will be fun to meet you all in heaven and have some real faces (or glowing, supernatural faces) greeting me. But we will KNOW.

 

[ChristIsGod]

I believe that Unconditional love only comes when we know or recognise that we aren't perfect neither. I tried to explain this to my unsaved SIL and Step-Sister that aren't saved. They almost began to understand it - but then went back to their sentiments, that most humans carry that, if you're not like 'me' then your not acceptable. We love those that we feel most comfortable with and those that agree with us the most. Unconditional love can't judge, because we know that we could be judged easily by The Only One that knows our own very thoughts. Knowing that no one on earth will ever be 'perfect' and certainly not perfect to someone else's standards - makes it easier to accept and love others.
I asked my Dad when I was about 17 or so how do I make friends in the new town that we had just moved to and he told me to "Just Be a Friend" and it'll come. He's not saved but I found out later that that was Scriptural. Cool!!
Goes for in-laws and out-laws as well.

Congratulations, JesusLives & Tourist! Praying nothing but peace, understanding & love in your environment/lives together. God Bless!

 

[Angela53510]

I've been married so long, I can't even remember what my new family did when we met for the first time.

However, 3 of my children have married in the past 5 years, and as a MIL, I hope and pray that I loved and accepted my new children, and treat them as my own.

And congratulations on your upcoming marriage to tourist. God bless both of you.

 

[Tintin]

Woohoo, Tourist and JesusLives!

I don't exactly know what becoming part of a new family would entail. I imagine, like any relationship, there would be some awkwardness and weird and wonderful moments and relatives. There would be similarities and great differences but hopefully in all that, some form of togetherness.

Hmm... Something for me to think about.

 

[Powemm]

Being pulled from my biological family at three and put into a new family In foster care was traumatic.. then put into a whole new family after adoption messed me up as a child.. but as an adult it has widened my heart to enjoy people as they come and go because you never know when their time up with you will come.. it has actually made me appreciate time and value it more and be open to those who land in your presence... ive just joined my first church family. Most are reserved and thats okay.. im more the type to tell you to come over anytime.. stay if you need and go as you wish... all the while respecting their pattern of growth and what god is doing in their lives.. I find it to be a privelage when someone wants to spend time to kmow who you are and even more fascinating when they allow you to know them.. sometimes its like a bloom on a flower.. some open quickly and some take a little more time... ive found the ones who take a little more time have a longer story to tell... im just happy to be around people in general.. we all have different sides... like facets in a diamond.. I appreciate the beauty of each

 

[psychomom]

I've been married so long, I can't even remember what my new family did when we met for the first time.

that's what i was thinkin'...

don't remember what happened 4 hours ago let alone 34 years! lol

 

[Kmdavis]

I feel like joining CC has been like joining a family. It's been almost a week since joining and I tell you it feels good to be around other believers. I'm not used to being around so many people who love Christ. I noticed there are some disagreements but not as much as there are with some of my worldly friends. I'm slowly trying to cut off ties with a lot of people I used to hang out with and its hard (pray for me), but it helps connecting with other Christians.

 

[JesusLives]

First of all, congratulations my friend - many, many happy years to both you and Tourist. Finding yourself in a new larger family will have both its ups and downs (just life). However, I truly believe that every person who appears in your life does so for much larger reasons than you might imagine. They are God appointed. And you to them.

I love the fact that your new family was having a bible study. How blessed you are.

In my life, my family sort of grew because my dad married 5 times, and kept bringing all these step brothers and sisters, and half sisters into my life. Not the best scenario for a kid. But I didn't live with them, and really didn't feel any feeling of family. Totally different picture than yours. So instead of all of a sudden finding myself dropped into a new family, I kept feeling that a new family was dropped into mine.

About the family here on CC, it will be fun to meet you all in heaven and have some real faces (or glowing, supernatural faces) greeting me. But we will KNOW.

Looking forward to meeting this much larger heavenly family. If we don't meet this side of heaven will be looking forward to meeting you on the other side. Thanks for your well wishes and I look forward to getting to know my new earthly family with more future interactions with them... and yes I am truly blessed that they enjoy Bible study.

 

[JesusLives]

I believe that Unconditional love only comes when we know or recognise that we aren't perfect neither. I tried to explain this to my unsaved SIL and Step-Sister that aren't saved. They almost began to understand it - but then went back to their sentiments, that most humans carry that, if you're not like 'me' then your not acceptable. We love those that we feel most comfortable with and those that agree with us the most. Unconditional love can't judge, because we know that we could be judged easily by The Only One that knows our own very thoughts. Knowing that no one on earth will ever be 'perfect' and certainly not perfect to someone else's standards - makes it easier to accept and love others.
I asked my Dad when I was about 17 or so how do I make friends in the new town that we had just moved to and he told me to "Just Be a Friend" and it'll come. He's not saved but I found out later that that was Scriptural. Cool!!
Goes for in-laws and out-laws as well.

Congratulations, JesusLives & Tourist! Praying nothing but peace, understanding & love in your environment/lives together. God Bless!

I hope and pray I can always love those around me with unconditional love and thank you for the well wishes too.

 

[JesusLives]

I've been married so long, I can't even remember what my new family did when we met for the first time.

However, 3 of my children have married in the past 5 years, and as a MIL, I hope and pray that I loved and accepted my new children, and treat them as my own.

And congratulations on your upcoming marriage to tourist. God bless both of you.

Thanks so much.

 

[JesusLives]

Woohoo, Tourist and JesusLives!

I don't exactly know what becoming part of a new family would entail. I imagine, like any relationship, there would be some awkwardness and weird and wonderful moments and relatives. There would be similarities and great differences but hopefully in all that, some form of togetherness.

Hmm... Something for me to think about.

The great thing for me was they were so kind and loving toward me that I had no awkward feelings at all. The total visit I felt accepted and included a great representation of what heaven must be like. I could only pray everyone would feel this way when meeting their new family. Wishing you the same reception TinTin when you meet Arlene's family for the first time....Darlene/JesusLives Thanks for the shout out....lol

 

[JesusLives]

Being pulled from my biological family at three and put into a new family In foster care was traumatic.. then put into a whole new family after adoption messed me up as a child.. but as an adult it has widened my heart to enjoy people as they come and go because you never know when their time up with you will come.. it has actually made me appreciate time and value it more and be open to those who land in your presence... ive just joined my first church family. Most are reserved and thats okay.. im more the type to tell you to come over anytime.. stay if you need and go as you wish... all the while respecting their pattern of growth and what god is doing in their lives.. I find it to be a privelage when someone wants to spend time to kmow who you are and even more fascinating when they allow you to know them.. sometimes its like a bloom on a flower.. some open quickly and some take a little more time... ive found the ones who take a little more time have a longer story to tell... im just happy to be around people in general.. we all have different sides... like facets in a diamond.. I appreciate the beauty of each

I can appreciate where you are coming from as I was orphaned by age 12 living in 5 different families and married at 17 just trying to have a family of my own....that last move was a big mistake.... 35 years single and heading into the twilight years gaining a new family is really a wonderful thing.... Really liked your post.

 

[JesusLives]

I feel like joining CC has been like joining a family. It's been almost a week since joining and I tell you it feels good to be around other believers. I'm not used to being around so many people who love Christ. I noticed there are some disagreements but not as much as there are with some of my worldly friends. I'm slowly trying to cut off ties with a lot of people I used to hang out with and its hard (pray for me), but it helps connecting with other Christians.

Dear Father In Heaven

Please be with our sister who is new to CC help her to continue to feel welcome here and that she makes many friends and draws closer to You. Build her faith and trust in You help her as she is changing her life and the people around her. Help her to develop godly friends and help her to be able to share You with her friends that might not know You so well. Help her to let her light shine to Your honor and glory. In Jesus Name Amen

 

[Tintin]

The great thing for me was they were so kind and loving toward me that I had no awkward feelings at all. The total visit I felt accepted and included a great representation of what heaven must be like. I could only pray everyone would feel this way when meeting their new family. Wishing you the same reception TinTin when you meet Arlene's family for the first time....Darlene/JesusLives Thanks for the shout out....lol

Thank you, my sister. I pray it all goes well too. It sounds like Arlene and I both have very different family backgrounds and family personalities. But that's to be expected.

 

[ChristIsGod]

To JesusLives & Tourist ~

TO A BLESSED MARRIAGE!!


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[JesusLives]

Re: To JesusLives & Tourist ~

One of the best things about being married is that there is another person in the room breathing the same air and sharing the space, sharing thoughts, sharing ideas and sharing experiences, sharing sights and sharing each other.....love becoming a new family unit....

 

[Tintin]

Something to look forward to in the future.