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AgeofKnowledge

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take a step back and evaluate whether or not the problem might be that you're surrounded by aholes. Oh, I know that doesn't sound very Christian but stop and think about that.

Time after time I've seen people who were depressed with low self-esteem about to give up, do something really stupid, or even tragic in an attempt to escape their plight and grabbed them by the shoulder and told them to hold up and talk to me so I can evaluate their situation and almost invariably I find that they aren't the primary problem.

They've just been conditioned to think they are the problem by toxic people. Sometimes it's dysfunctional family members, sometimes it's co-workers, friends, and sometimes it's just them getting so down from the toxicity they don't know how to do a life inventory, personal SWOT, and formulate a program to work every day toward a better state of mind and a better life.

Don't react to the toxic people around you. The worst case I ever saw was online where a father put a loaded gun in front of a son and berated him as less than a man and the son picked up the gun in a fit of powerless rage and blew his own head off.

Put them on ignore until you learn not to be so codependent and vulnerable, do a personal inventory/swot/program for living and work your program every day. It's your life, not theirs. Codependence support groups really help if you're in a hole because of the people around you and don't know how to work your way out. Do it today.
 
blue_ladybug

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Pardon my ignorance, Age, but what does "swot" mean? lol :confused:
 
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zoii

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strengths, weaknesses, opportunities, threats - Is that that the one AOK?
 
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Galahad

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blue_ladybug said:
Pardon my ignorance, Age, but what does "swot" mean? lol :confused:
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ladybug, you don't worry about SWOT. Okay. It's SWAT that you need to look out for.

They swat the flies and other insects with a large flyswatter. :eek:
 
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AgeofKnowledge

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Yes, that's correct. SWOT is a method by which strengths, weaknesses, opportunities, and threats are identified, analyzed, and evaluated. It was first developed by Stanford in the 1960s to assist businesses but it's use has expanded since then.

Today, individuals often use the SWOT (in conjunction with other helpful tools such as the personal inventory) to understand their present position and map out a better future.

Such tools, of course, can be supplemented through participation in applicable support groups that focus on a particular weakness one has, continuing academic education toward a specific goal, and professional networking in organizations associated with one's goals.
 
Dino246

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Allow me to ask you a couple of questions, AoK, just for the sake of context. Keep in mind that I'm not attacking; rather, I want to understand the background of your post a bit better before otherwise responding. I have reasons for asking.... :)

Have you suffered with depression? Did/do you know anyone personally who has suffered with serious depression, or someone who has considered, attempted or even actually committed suicide?

If you have little or no personal experience, have you studied the subject at some length? Have you read through the DSM-IV on depression? Have you interviewed several people who suffer or have suffered from depression?
 
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Omni

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Dino246 said:
Allow me to ask you a couple of questions, AoK, just for the sake of context. Keep in mind that I'm not attacking; rather, I want to understand the background of your post a bit better before otherwise responding. I have reasons for asking.... :)

Have you suffered with depression? Did/do you know anyone personally who has suffered with serious depression, or someone who has considered, attempted or even actually committed suicide?

If you have little or no personal experience, have you studied the subject at some length? Have you read through the DSM-IV on depression? Have you interviewed several people who suffer or have suffered from depression?
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I don't think AOK needs medical-degree level academic experience in dealing with clinical depression to reach out and try to help people who are experiencing it. Empathy's the most simple concept, and the most powerful tool.
 
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Sirk

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Omni said:
I don't think AOK needs medical-degree level academic experience in dealing with clinical depression to reach out and try to help people who are experiencing it. Empathy's the most simple concept, and the most powerful tool.
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Empathy is one of the best tools a person can possess in life....IMO.... And it is a learned skill and takes practice. Especially if one can access it when one is under their own emotional pressure. That being said, I know a couple of people who are so absolutely empathic that I want to punch them in the face. Lol. It's like it has become a golden calf for them.
 
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