Ok... So i'll make it clear...
Abuse is a complex and difficult subject to deal with, since no case is the same as another. There are many factors that go into in my case. Yes, it is hard to pity the abuser. Especially when you're the one abused, or a family member of the abuse. I was hurt, I was angry, I was also the first to forgive him, despite the horrible, horrible things he did to me. I rescued myself from him, no penal consequences where dealt, no time was done, no restitution of any type and he has never, as far as I know, reaped what he has sown... I do pity him, I did pity him. Because he was simply repeating the things that had been done to him. The people he trusted most, loved most, had hurt him in ways that not many will every understand. That's what he knew love to be. The only love he'd ever known. Not to mention the fact that he suffered from a mental illness that was left untreated. I did pity him, I do pity him. I was angry, very angry, but the anger is not an emotion I wanted to hold on to. The pity, the pity stayed. Because unlike me, he never was able to get over what was done to him and is repeating the cycle... I chose to break that cycle. So yes, as hard as it is... I pity the abuser and the abused. Others may feel differently. But this is how I feel. I pity them during and after. This is just how I am. Obviously, not everyone feels the same. And that's ok.
