Christian mom with two teenage girls

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rodriguezmom2

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God Bless!

I am a christian mom who is raising two wonderful daughters. One is 16 and the other is 13. I am very open in regards to faith. I do teach them and guide them as I can. However, my 13 year old is admitting to me that she is not having a close relationship with God which broke my heart. I understand that in the end it is their own decision. I just wish it did not hurt me so much. I love them dearly and I wish they did not have to venture into this world without Jesus in their lives.
 
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.Trust the Lord

.He always let the choice

.He can always transform hearts

.Focus on Christ

.He does everything at the right time

.Believe by having Faith

.He knows all things before us

.Only Him can save

.He loves you when if we doubt


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rodriguezmom2 said:
God Bless!

I am a christian mom who is raising two wonderful daughters. One is 16 and the other is 13. I am very open in regards to faith. I do teach them and guide them as I can. However, my 13 year old is admitting to me that she is not having a close relationship with God which broke my heart. I understand that in the end it is their own decision. I just wish it did not hurt me so much. I love them dearly and I wish they did not have to venture into this world without Jesus in their lives.
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Hello! Do you guys go to church? Would help a lot to get her in an AWESOME youth program! POSITIVE peer pressure can be a wonderful thing! :cool:
 
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Theres a bunch of us that get together most nights in the teen room. Would she like to hang out? :)
Zoii
 
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rodriguezmom2 said:
God Bless!

I am a christian mom who is raising two wonderful daughters. One is 16 and the other is 13. I am very open in regards to faith. I do teach them and guide them as I can. However, my 13 year old is admitting to me that she is not having a close relationship with God which broke my heart. I understand that in the end it is their own decision. I just wish it did not hurt me so much. I love them dearly and I wish they did not have to venture into this world without Jesus in their lives.
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It is possible that she does not have a heart for God because of being "fatherless"... the scars and pain of that, she would not be able to articulate but they are there. I would encourage you to get "inductive" style bible studies for teens from precept ministries and do them TOGETHER as a family. You only have a short period of time left to immerse your children in the word before they leave your home. WHile you cannot force either of them to "LOVE" the Lord, you can show them how by your own walk and leading thru parenting.
 
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Thank you all. Zoii i am taking you up on that very soon! Barlygurl, I am sorry that I may have not been clear. I am not a single mom. We are lucky to have a father figure in our home. Unfortunately he is not as devoted as I am, that is true. I do bible studies with them both at home and at our church as I am a youth teacher for their age group. Our youth ministry is good but my wish is for a closer more meaningful relationship. I do my very best to show them my own life and they both can attest about me. But I am focusing on them too to enjoy the blessings of God. My prayer lately has been for God to allow them to feel Him strongly. To ooen their eyes and have a glimpse. And yes, time is running out before they leave to lead their own lives. I can only hope and pray that in the midst of everything to have Him close to them.
 
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We do go to church and they are involved in activities with the youth program. Unfortunately, this issue goes beyond any activities. My concern goes with the true relationship with God and her personal decisions regarding her life. Help me pray for her to realize that this is not just a "mommy" thing but a true life.
 
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rodriguezmom2 said:
Thank you all. Zoii i am taking you up on that very soon! Barlygurl, I am sorry that I may have not been clear. I am not a single mom. We are lucky to have a father figure in our home. Unfortunately he is not as devoted as I am, that is true. I do bible studies with them both at home and at our church as I am a youth teacher for their age group. Our youth ministry is good but my wish is for a closer more meaningful relationship. I do my very best to show them my own life and they both can attest about me. But I am focusing on them too to enjoy the blessings of God. My prayer lately has been for God to allow them to feel Him strongly. To ooen their eyes and have a glimpse. And yes, time is running out before they leave to lead their own lives. I can only hope and pray that in the midst of everything to have Him close to them.
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We meet up at around 9PM to 12 MN Western Australia time. Not sure what that is for the USA but Im guess 9am to 12 MD.
We just chat - some of the teens have the very strong faith n are just the best and are a shining light for christianity - Others like me are on a journey. In any case we are supportive and kind to each other no matter what we come into the room with. No Adults can come into our room as well which means we dont get exposed to adult conversations - however Mods can come into our room.

Take care :)
Zoii
 
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It there a GEMS (Girls Everywhere Meeting the Savior) in your area? As a leader, I often see this in many girls this age and have found through the years connecting with other girls their age with the same questions, etc. has helped them out. My prayers are with you and your girls!
 
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Never heard of GEMS. I will rerearch that. Thank you for your prayers.
 
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rodriguezmom2 said:
Never heard of GEMS. I will rerearch that. Thank you for your prayers.
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My Pleasure. Most Churches will have at least a Middle School Youth group. That may be helpful too!
 
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We all have our own journey we must travel. Please do not compare one daughter's walk with GOD to the others. I also grew up in a Christian home and my siblings and I all love the LORD. Though we went through our times of rebellion, GOD is Faithful to HIS WORD. I raised my children to serve the LORD and they too went through their time of rebellion. Please know that I understand your concerns. The best thing to do is Pray love on her and allow her to share why she feels her relationship with GOD is not close.

What you should be Thankful for is that she has not fallen away from GOD. The teen years can be difficult times due to peer pressure, hormones, world influences and the pressure to be perfect.

Never loosen the reins but trust GOD with her. And allow her to find herself, mature and make small mistakes.. though we as parents want to prevent every fall know a scuffed knee is not death. Time is moving at such a rapid pace that our teens mature through life with adult situations. The best thing is to always have an open line of communication without stress. I hear so often "I'm not my child's friend I'm their parent!" Well if we can be a friend to GOD our children should be able to call us friend as well. Every good friend shares secrets because friends are trustworthy.

Blessings! !!!!!!
 
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Thank you so much! I feel so touched by you words! Amen!
 
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I think you say it all when you State ' I am very open' and then you say......'i guide them when i can' that all sounds a little 'wishy- washy' don't you think? and then you say 'it is their decision'........STAND. You need to stand. You have to show in all ways and all the time!!! that a life with Christ is THE ONLY WAY!!!! and there is no other way. That best starts from the cradle...When you stand....they follow. Forget about how you 'feel'.....stand. It may hurt, but you will come through, this is not meant to be an easy walk!!
 
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Sorry but I said "as I can". I show my faith and devotion ALL THE TIME as I mentioned that is the one thing Im proud to say my daughters can vouch about me. In the end of all ends, yes it is their personal decision. As a parent there is no way I can help how I would feel. Join me in praying. Thank you for your thoughts.
 
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Do you take your daughters to church regularly? Do you try to be the best example to them that you can, not saying one thing then doing the opposite? I'm no parent so I don't know if I have the right to give you advice, but the way I learned how to become a Christian was due to the extreme involvement of church and loving parents in my life. God gave me both, then showed me how He gave himself through those interventions.

If your 13 year old daughter says she is not having a close relationship with God, then maybe she just hasn't been involved enough in church or had enough one-on-one Bible talks. Also, when someone doesn't feel close to God, it is usually because of a lack of involvement with him, or too much involvement in the things of the world. Either that or something (it can be a sin or just some random thing) is acting as a barrier to her relationship with God.

Then again, I have no idea what's going on exactly with her, so I really shouldn't say. Can you be more specific as to WHY she doesn't feel close to God? What would really help is if you knew the reason and could counter it? Does she have negative friends she's been listening to? Is she hanging out with the "popular" crowd (which is usually a spiritually suicidal idea)?
 
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At 13 or 16 my girls don't get to make life altering decisions on their own. That's what parenting is all about.
 
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rodriguezmom2 said:
God Bless!

I am a christian mom who is raising two wonderful daughters. One is 16 and the other is 13. I am very open in regards to faith. I do teach them and guide them as I can. However, my 13 year old is admitting to me that she is not having a close relationship with God which broke my heart. I understand that in the end it is their own decision. I just wish it did not hurt me so much. I love them dearly and I wish they did not have to venture into this world without Jesus in their lives.
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I am one of those people who did not walk with the Lord as a child. I was twenty years old before I started my walk with the Lord. Don't force religion onto your daughter. Just set a good example and give her the best advice you can.
 
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I am one of those people who did not walk with the Lord as a child. I was twenty years old before I started my walk with the Lord. Don't force religion onto your daughter. Just set a good example and give her the best advice you can.
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What is your definition of "forcing"?

Just a thought but I do not consider having a personal relationship with Christ to be religion. Religion is what man created.

If forcing is bringing up two girls in a home where christian values are practiced and christian rules applied to their lives; Id say go for it.

They can choose when they are paying their own bills. Until then, they need to be encouraged to do things at church with their peers and live a God honoring life. The Bible needs to be read in group and family environment so they get the word in them. Praying together and family discussions about whats going on in their lives so mom has an opportunity to teach them to look for answers in the Bible . There are ways to raise kids where God is the focus without forcing it on them. It is merely going to be the atmosphere.Consistent godly values applied to all things is a good thing.
 
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blondieindahouse said:
What is your definition of "forcing"?

Just a thought but I do not consider having a personal relationship with Christ to be religion. Religion is what man created.

If forcing is bringing up two girls in a home where christian values are practiced and christian rules applied to their lives; Id say go for it.

They can choose when they are paying their own bills. Until then, they need to be encouraged to do things at church with their peers and live a God honoring life. The Bible needs to be read in group and family environment so they get the word in them. Praying together and family discussions about whats going on in their lives so mom has an opportunity to teach them to look for answers in the Bible . There are ways to raise kids where God is the focus without forcing it on them. It is merely going to be the atmosphere.Consistent godly values applied to all things is a good thing.
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It is good to guide a child. It isn't good to put too much pressure on a child. If your guidance becomes unnecessarily painful, the child is less likely to seek out the Lord.
 
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