Chronic Adulterer...seeking Christian help!

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Did you know... that "voice" inside your head... which sounds EXACTLY the same as your own voice (yet is "almost" impossible to extinguish between "you" and "it") ....is actually.. an evil spirit? (or demon if u like... and no, demons are nothing like what you see on your hollywood screen in the lounge ^^").

In a nutshell... u need to be able to recognize when "its" speaking... and Not "you" speaking... and you gotta tell it to "SHUT UP" and "GET LOST".... just like Jesus said to that evil spirit who was possessing that man, following him around...and just like Paul said to that evil spirit who possessed that young girl.

Ok, ill just get my shield ready... its about to rain a bunch of rocks and stones down on me now lol ^^"
playing Zelda ocarina of time???????????
 
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joefizz

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You know what flirting leads to, right? So quit flirting with other guys, and START flirting with your husband. :)
lol yes try pretending you are both strangers lol who knows you might forget the "fantasy" junk all together,guinea.
 
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But isn't that where the battle with evil spirits is fought? In the Mind?



This, to me, is like a bunch of "elders" of the "village" saying something like "We KNOW there's poison in the well... which is the root cause of villagers getting sick. But lets not tell them about the poison in the well...rather... lets offer them medicine, to deal with the symptoms instead....so we can keep the same well, and not have to go through the trouble and effort of digging a completely new well....



Isn't adultery a spirit? (spirit of adultery?)....and, isn't psychology to do with the mind? Again, referring back to my first point...
I believe what blain meant was don't jump to conclusions so quickly despite people sinning not everyone has an evil spirit upon them,some as blain pointed out have "legitimate" mental disorders such as anxiety or being obsessive compulsive,there are still sinful influenced even without evil spirits,I believe blain was clarifying that grasping what is going on in a situation is "important" rather then just telling someone so quickly that they have an evil spirit.
 
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Did you know... that "voice" inside your head... which sounds EXACTLY the same as your own voice (yet is "almost" impossible to extinguish between "you" and "it") ....is actually.. an evil spirit? (or demon if u like... and no, demons are nothing like what you see on your hollywood screen in the lounge ^^").

In a nutshell... u need to be able to recognize when "its" speaking... and Not "you" speaking... and you gotta tell it to "SHUT UP" and "GET LOST".... just like Jesus said to that evil spirit who was possessing that man, following him around...and just like Paul said to that evil spirit who possessed that young girl.

Ok, ill just get my shield ready... its about to rain a bunch of rocks and stones down on me now lol ^^"
I dont know what i said exactly to imply a Snap Judgement.

I just find it a little odd that ppl want to ignore the possibility that evil spirits may be a cause. And that we either choose to listen, or Not to listen to them.

No one needs to have a degree in counselling or psychology to determine that much.

Just gotta read the Good Word ^^

And why do ppl think so Highly of Psychology anyway? Dont you know that the majority of them recommend Buddhist Meditation techniques to resolve ones issues?
Ahem your previous and "first" post to the OP,you pretty much told her she had an evil spirit when you haven't a clue,that's what "snap judgement" is.
 

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Its hard to figure why you're struggling with this when not knowing enough information about your past. Did you have a father figure, were you sexually abused? Why do you crave the love and attention from men? Sweetheart, I can only base from my experience is that you crave the love and attention from men because this is something you have missed out on in your life. When we are girls we need healthy love and approval from our fathers growing up. I had a father but it was all negative. Attention I received from men was mostly negative. So as I got older I searched for love from boys and eventually men and found power in that attention. I married and I was cheated on...I was the one trying desperately to keep my husband from straying. 23 years later I couldn't do it anymore. Your husband must be a loving man...but I will tell you now...that you are not being fair, kind, or loving to him. Resentment grows. Even the most loving, forgiving God loving spouse cant suffer through infidelity for very long...and it can leave them with very deep scars and trust issues. You need to seek God's intervention and see a Christian psychologist to find out why this attention is so necessary for you so you can truly deal with it...and absolutely...PRAY!
 

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Ahem your previous and "first" post to the OP,you pretty much told her she had an evil spirit when you haven't a clue,that's what "snap judgement" is.
Do you believe that the devil oppresses Christians? (e.g depression, anxiety etc?) ^^

Perhaps you might want to re-read my conversation with kaylagrl.

I said that the OP, and ALL of us, can be "influenced" by evil spirits. I didn't say she was possessed ^^"
 
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kaijo

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They way i "began" in this thread....was like this:

Evil spirits (leads to) -----> Adultery (via suggestion)

But i left a step out on purpose. To see if anyone else out there was on the same "wave length" as me ^^.

What i "should" have started off like (to make it easier for everyone else to comprehend) was:

Evil spirits (leads to) -----> e.g Depression (which leads to) ------> a Potential to Sin (Adultery/Idolatry/Theft/Violence etc)
 

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Do you believe that the devil oppresses Christians? (e.g depression, anxiety etc?) ^^

Perhaps you might want to re-read my conversation with kaylagrl.

I said that the OP, and ALL of us, can be "influenced" by evil spirits. I didn't say she was possessed ^^"
Forget it, people who dont want to understand or haven't had anything to do with stuff like that in the past cant get it.
 

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You know how like...when u , or i, or anyone...gets REALLY Angry at someone else.... we "naturally" believe we are the ones who are "correct" right? That's why we get SOO Angry...

And when your angry... there is a spirit of Hate involved in most cases.

What did Jesus say? He said something like ..."Murder begins in the heart" (e.g Hate).

He said something like... "If you get Angry with your brethern without cause" then your in danger of Hellfire.

So your in an argument with a another fellow Christian (or whoever)... and generally...only One of you is right.

Yet you are both angry at the time. Yet...the one who is "wrong" is usually the one who starts to feel "hatred" in their heart... because they are losing the argument. And "now"...they are just arguing with the one who is "right" ...just for the sake of...Not losing the argument.

So "now" they are beginning to become "angry at their brethren without cause".

And so....who/what is spurring "on" the anger of the one who is wrong? Is it a Spirit of correction? (Spirit of God?)... or a spirit of hate? (evil spirit?)

We can ALL be influenced by evil spirits ...at ANY part of our lives...Christian or not... if our guards are not UP ... 24/7...
 

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Ok... perhaps I did. This is the part I was referring to...

Most of the time it is emotional adultery and flirtatious behavior, some adulterous thoughts, but there has been one physical one. And yes, my husband knows about all of this.
My old man glasses read that as flirting and emotional cheating, but ONE PHYSICAL instance.

Either way, she does not need a self-righteous person damning her to hell.... no matter how "sinless" that person is. :rolleyes:
 
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hornetguy

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As far as ban territory goes? Ask me if I care...if I get banned for telling the truth , by all means...
You wouldn't get banned for the truth, you would likely get banned for you combative behavior, and your calling another poster on this forum a whore.

You just ooze love and a Christ-like spirit...

Part of that, I'm sure is because you are immature... but part of it is because you apparently think you are without fault...
 

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Mental illness is a real, i have been called highly spiritual by several people and yet even I think this. This is because psychology is a fascinating subject to me and have even learn a lot about myself and why bi do the things I do from it. even a Christian counselor might think it's a mental illness because a counselor even a Christian one needs to be able to get into the persons head.
I do not know if you even know a Christian counselor but putting the blame on mental illness is the easy explanation for problems of this nature.

If you want people to praise you as spiritual then go ahead and believe them but beware that is a dangerous path. Most who define others as spiritual are more new age mystics in their philosophy than biblical.

I hope you will become mature in Christ at some point in your life.

For the cause of Christ
Roger
 

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You know how like...when u , or i, or anyone...gets REALLY Angry at someone else.... we "naturally" believe we are the ones who are "correct" right? That's why we get SOO Angry...

And when your angry... there is a spirit of Hate involved in most cases.

What did Jesus say? He said something like ..."Murder begins in the heart" (e.g Hate).

He said something like... "If you get Angry with your brethern without cause" then your in danger of Hellfire.

So your in an argument with a another fellow Christian (or whoever)... and generally...only One of you is right.

Yet you are both angry at the time. Yet...the one who is "wrong" is usually the one who starts to feel "hatred" in their heart... because they are losing the argument. And "now"...they are just arguing with the one who is "right" ...just for the sake of...Not losing the argument.

So "now" they are beginning to become "angry at their brethren without cause".

And so....who/what is spurring "on" the anger of the one who is wrong? Is it a Spirit of correction? (Spirit of God?)... or a spirit of hate? (evil spirit?)

We can ALL be influenced by evil spirits ...at ANY part of our lives...Christian or not... if our guards are not UP ... 24/7...
And show me one person whose guards are up all the time and never messes up lol
Like i said, we all have struggles.
Tho i gotta agree that immediately coming up with spirits isn't always the best way to go because it scares people because they don't understand, doesnt mean someone is wrong all in all.
I agree with ur points. I was like u at first too, directly shooting spiritual knowlege at somebody. But it often ended up doing more damage.
Be wise as a serpend and harmless as a dove.

U can actually open more doors and make things worse if talking too much or the wrong things at the wrong person or time.
Be watchful. Im not trying to bash u, just giving u some of my experience
 
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Yes, her husband has been a real Prince and deserves a devoted wife, but she's looking for a Yugo even though she has a Cadillac. Some people are just never content, always wanting more even when they have it all.

right

so dump a huge pile of guilt on her, tell her she is not saved and tell her husband to get a divorce because there are plenty of fish in the sea after all

do we forget the power of God to change lives and deliver people?

the Holy Spirit has not left town, Jesus is risen and God is omnipotent and not willing that any should perish

He is longsuffering and what d'yah know? that is supposed to be one of the characteristics of a believer

for ALL have sinned and come short of the glory of God

for sure, this will be a battle if the op is being honest and truly desires to change.
 
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Bad childhood, daddy issues, and low self esteem?
No, those are lame liberal excuses.
The issue here is pure selfishness.
So I had a family member,a cousin of my mothers. I never knew her but my mother did.She was promiscuous very young. People just figured she was a bad seed,a naughty girl. It was later in life that it was found out that he father was abusing her both physically and sexually along with her brother. But for some reason he left one of the daughters alone.She never had an issue with acting out in anger,as the son did,or promiscuity,as the other daughter did. So I think you'd better put your "BS" meter back in your pocket. I'm not liberal in any way. But if you think that abuse doesn't affect a person later in life you're being ridiculous. There's no doubt that it does. I have not condoned what this woman has done,and she knows she's wrong. I'm saying the reason for her addiction may go deeper. And that she needs to find healing in Christ. So put the stones back in your pocket and walk away.
 

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So I had a family member,a cousin of my mothers. I never knew her but my mother did.She was promiscuous very young. People just figured she was a bad seed,a naughty girl. It was later in life that it was found out that he father was abusing her both physically and sexually along with her brother. But for some reason he left one of the daughters alone.She never had an issue with acting out in anger,as the son did,or promiscuity,as the other daughter did. So I think you'd better put your "BS" meter back in your pocket. I'm not liberal in any way. But if you think that abuse doesn't affect a person later in life you're being ridiculous. There's no doubt that it does. I have not condoned what this woman has done,and she knows she's wrong. I'm saying the reason for her addiction may go deeper. And that she needs to find healing in Christ. So put the stones back in your pocket and walk away.
Amen
My mom and many others still dont understand that I, after my hell aint worse lol. But i do remember, u as well most likely, that i did have my pharasy phase (right opposite of the reaction of some ppl) to help me cope with that mess.
Others turn to sexual desires, others depressive,...
I agree with u that major things have horrible consequences in many ways depending on the person

I couldnt believe my eyes when ppl told her to get divorced and calling her names....unbelievable
 

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Jesus loves you as much as your husband does, and then much, much, more. He gave His life for you. Whenever you hurt your husband, you are hurting him. Jesus can help you if you let Him. Let go and let God. Trust Him. You are living the life of a filthy pig, but that's where all of us start. He can wash you white as snow.

Psalm 51....

51:1 To the chief Musician, A Psalm of David, when Nathan the prophet came unto him, after he had gone in to Bathsheba. Have mercy upon me, O God, according to thy lovingkindness: according unto the multitude of thy tender mercies blot out my transgressions.
51:2 Wash me throughly from mine iniquity, and cleanse me from my sin.
51:3 For I acknowledge my transgressions: and my sin [is] ever before me.
51:4 Against thee, thee only, have I sinned, and done [this] evil in thy sight: that thou mightest be justified when thou speakest, [and] be clear when thou judgest.
51:5 Behold, I was shapen in iniquity; and in sin did my mother conceive me.
51:6 Behold, thou desirest truth in the inward parts: and in the hidden [part] thou shalt make me to know wisdom.
51:7 Purge me with hyssop, and I shall be clean: wash me, and I shall be whiter than snow.
51:8 Make me to hear joy and gladness; [that] the bones [which] thou hast broken may rejoice.
51:9 Hide thy face from my sins, and blot out all mine iniquities.
51:10 Create in me a clean heart, O God; and renew a right spirit within me.
51:11 Cast me not away from thy presence; and take not thy holy spirit from me.
51:12 Restore unto me the joy of thy salvation; and uphold me [with thy] free spirit.
51:13 [Then] will I teach transgressors thy ways; and sinners shall be converted unto thee.
 
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OH i didnt realize u were a psychic as well ^^

Did u create a "mental link" with her last night, and discuss with her what she wants to hear? (rofl)

Oh u didnt?

Okay, then how about ...let Her ask me , if she wants me to prove it biblically ;)
No, you didn't discuss at all. And telepathy might well describe what you did do. Without knowing her you proclaimed demonic activity.

This was really for Guineapigwoman. So she could see why your train of thought didn't matter to her.
 
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Mental illness is a real, i have been called highly spiritual by several people and yet even I think this. This is because psychology is a fascinating subject to me and have even learn a lot about myself and why bi do the things I do from it. even a Christian counselor might think it's a mental illness because a counselor even a Christian one needs to be able to get into the persons head.
It is real, but we are not qualified to diagnose it. Those who are wouldn't diagnose it over the internet either.

What we are qualified to do is lead her to the one who can fix anything -- the Lord. And once he leads and we follow the rest becomes evident.
 
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