I was in a relationship for a number of months that was absolutely terrible for many reasons. A lot of mistakes were made on my half, and some on hers. But our relationship was as secular as could be, and on top of that, I personally had many sinful attitudes and habits that one shouldn't have in a good relationship. This relationship happened before I had discovered God for myself, - which happened after breaking up with her.
So as a result of me changing as a person thanks to God's grace, I am able to look back at my first relationship and I can see just how messed up it really was. Whereas when I was in it, things weren't so clear. I am now in a beautiful relationship with a girl, and our relationship is just completely (I mean completely) different to my first relationship. Most importantly, God is the focus of our relationship, and I believe this is the girl I'm going to marry in the next few years.
My point being, that my first relationship is a symbol to me of my "old and wrong life". Particularly because although I have changed significantly over the past 10 months, my first girlfriend remains much the same with messed up ideas and values. When we've seen each other once or twice over the past 10 months (because she's wanted to talk), she is still very hostile towards me, and doesn't understand how (or believe) I've changed. Since the breakup, I've limited my contact with her, but when we have met up, I've always been understanding and I've offered genuine and good advice, despite her hostility towards me.
Anyway, despite me sharing a little bit of information with my Dad, he was good at listening in the beginning months of our breakup. But over the past three months, he has been spending a great deal of time with my ex-girlfriend's mum. I've asked him if he has any intentions, and he has said no. But my concern isn't the fact he's "taking an interest in my ex-girlfriend's mum", it's because my ex-girlfriend isn't over our relationship.. We didn't end the relationship as good friends. She is hurting even though she doesn't show it, and she is lost. She enjoy's the company of my father and sees him as a "father figure" and has also befriended one of my younger girl cousins. It's as if she's really trying not to let go of my family. Even though our relationship sucked.
So I've told my dad that he needs to be careful, and while I don't think it's a good idea to be dating her mum, I'm not telling him who he can and can't date. But I just don't understand why he's doing this? Although her mum is nice, she doesn't have the best foundations either..
I'm just not sure if there's anything I should do? It's just an uncomfortable situation also, because I've shared some information about my ex-girlfriend to my current girlfriend, how my first relationship was terrible. I don't fancy telling her that now my Dad is taking an interest in my ex's mum... If it got serious and my ex never changes, it's going to be a terribly awkward situation I am sure.
So as a result of me changing as a person thanks to God's grace, I am able to look back at my first relationship and I can see just how messed up it really was. Whereas when I was in it, things weren't so clear. I am now in a beautiful relationship with a girl, and our relationship is just completely (I mean completely) different to my first relationship. Most importantly, God is the focus of our relationship, and I believe this is the girl I'm going to marry in the next few years.
My point being, that my first relationship is a symbol to me of my "old and wrong life". Particularly because although I have changed significantly over the past 10 months, my first girlfriend remains much the same with messed up ideas and values. When we've seen each other once or twice over the past 10 months (because she's wanted to talk), she is still very hostile towards me, and doesn't understand how (or believe) I've changed. Since the breakup, I've limited my contact with her, but when we have met up, I've always been understanding and I've offered genuine and good advice, despite her hostility towards me.
Anyway, despite me sharing a little bit of information with my Dad, he was good at listening in the beginning months of our breakup. But over the past three months, he has been spending a great deal of time with my ex-girlfriend's mum. I've asked him if he has any intentions, and he has said no. But my concern isn't the fact he's "taking an interest in my ex-girlfriend's mum", it's because my ex-girlfriend isn't over our relationship.. We didn't end the relationship as good friends. She is hurting even though she doesn't show it, and she is lost. She enjoy's the company of my father and sees him as a "father figure" and has also befriended one of my younger girl cousins. It's as if she's really trying not to let go of my family. Even though our relationship sucked.
So I've told my dad that he needs to be careful, and while I don't think it's a good idea to be dating her mum, I'm not telling him who he can and can't date. But I just don't understand why he's doing this? Although her mum is nice, she doesn't have the best foundations either..
I'm just not sure if there's anything I should do? It's just an uncomfortable situation also, because I've shared some information about my ex-girlfriend to my current girlfriend, how my first relationship was terrible. I don't fancy telling her that now my Dad is taking an interest in my ex's mum... If it got serious and my ex never changes, it's going to be a terribly awkward situation I am sure.
