Dear God..please help me...don't know how to go on...please hear my cry I beg you

[draven439]

Oh God I need you, since finding out November 20 my wife is with someone else due to my drinking I have stopped drinking, I have surrendered my life to you, I place my marriage in your hands, I'm doing my best to follow your commandments go to church and I'm fasting half days...seems like the more I pray and try to get close to you Jesus the more she goes out to him, she tells me she's going somewhere else and later I find evidence that shows me that every chance she gets she goes and sleeps at his house, Lord my heart is pleading for your mercy, she denies sleeping with him or loving him but all evidence shows the opposite, how long oh lord must I endure this pain? How long will my enemy laugh at me? How long until my wife comes home to our daughter and our marriage? Have you forgotten me? Should I lose all hope for my family? I refuse to believe your sacred plan is to let our family break apart...Father you know that you, my daughter and my wife are the.only family I've got...please remember me lord.

 

[kenisyes]

how long oh lord must I endure this pain? How long will my enemy laugh at me? Have you forgotten me? please remember me lord.

The sentences I did not delete are word for word how King David prayed in the Bible in the Psalms. If God is drawing you as close to Him as He drew King David (who sinned greatly, repented greatly, and suffered greatly), then you can know that God made David King of Israel, the father of all the worship structure in the temple, the father of the wisest man who ever lived, the greatest songwriter ever, and blood ancestor of Jesus. I don't know what your wife will do, but I know what God will do, and it's all good.

Keep praying. I'm praying for His victory in your life.

 

[A-miss-Saved-by-GRACE]

Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding and in all your ways acknowledge HIM and HE will make your path straight.

Praying for you brother..

Grace and Peace in CHRIST..

 

[HoldingOn2013]

Don't give up! Be strong and have faith. I know you are hurting and things seem as they are falling apart. But remember that God is with you and will pick up the pieces and make you whole again. You can't make someone change and you can't fix something that is broken. Only God can do this. Hang in there and surrender yourself to God and his mercy. Give yourself over to him so that his peace gives you the strength you need to make it thru this difficult time. He will pull you thru this. He can and is working in every area of you life even if you cant see or feel it. Don't allow doubt to enter into your mind. YOU do what is right and YOU work on your relationship with God and he will set all other things in motion for you. May God's plan for your life take shape and be the one thing you desire most in life. AMEN.

 

[allabouthim]

I'm sorry for your situation. I have an adulterous spouse as well who is no longer with me. I saw someone recommend legal separation. If the situation is bad enough (which only you know) to separate then there is a concession for that in scripture but NOT for use of the civil courts (1 Cor 6). God explicitly forbids Christians from going before the unjust courts (he calls them unjust for a reason- the family court system is so corrupt do all you can to avoid it). Let her do the legal maneuvering if it comes to that. Trust God to take care of your child. These courts do not give a rip about the "best interests of the child" they destroy families every day.

Is this a first marriage for both of you? I would recommend reading the book of Hosea...it is very profound. Marriage is a picture of Christ's relationship with the Church. He always remains faithful through our sinfulness. The best thing you can do for your child is demonstrate God's love, mercy and forgiveness toward your spouse so they will know the true character of Christ who will never abandon them.

 

[RedTent]

God wants to bless you with all good things. The bible says “the Lord bless you and keep you”. In the Lord is all love and perfection. When the world has troubles it is not God’s will, it is the result of people opposing God’s way for us. All we can do is simply live through it as quietly as we can, and keep our mind and hearts on the peace and love that is God. And keep ourselves in the way of God’s plan for us all we can.

I created a mind game gimmick for doing this. I imagine God’s Holy power as the winds, so I imagine using a hang glider, trusting completely on God’s power to keep me, as the winds keep the hang glider. I give myself over to God as the person on the hang glider gives himself to the winds. God will sustain you through the days, and even give you joy in the midst of your grief.

 

[shekaniah]

Praying for you and your marriage as God leads my heart.

 

[SPUZIT]

Please do not give up hope. God I'd great! Your a young babe in the lord. As it took time for your marriage, drinking, & time for you to seek out & find the lord, know that you are not alone, you have come yo a great place, CC is full of spiritualy wealthy advice.ad are your prayers to your lord.in the midst of your deepest darkness your saviour Jesus will remain your brightest light. Hope is in your fair. Never stop praying & teaching out, to other beleavers for help. I commend you for your recent obedience & heart felt prayers. Just remember God holds nothing against you.your life is his, you have given it to him, now trust in him, it may not always seem to be going the way you want, but God is not punnishing you, remember that. God loved, cares, & we are his greatest concern. In time you will be able to look back & are how even during this sad time in your life, our God was standing right beside you.have hope ad you have love, put God first. Life is hard & sometimes not fair, with prayers, faith, fellowship, & growth you will learn all things work to the glory of God. It is not meant for us to always understand his ways. I pray you, your daughter & wife & all involved will not loose hope. Remember your goal is eternal, I wish you could have an immediate answer for you, trials like these need speavial care, reach out don't let go give CC & your church, Bible, & prayers time & a chance, may God dry your tears & fears.know thru your post many will be lifting you to God in prayer many many times....

 

[lovnlife4ever]

I'm so sorry to hear this, as someone on the other side of this, my significant other is also an alcoholic, and one thing that he had to realize is that he had to stop because he wanted to, not for me. (which he hasn't...yet, that's besides the point) As you continue your journey with Christ, try not to keep in mind the outcome of what you want, but to listen to what God wants from you. I'm not saying that what your wife is doing is excuseable since you are still married. Be patient, following God's way is a much better outcome than what we want for ourselves.

 

[Cobus]

Draven439, Let me first help you right... Your wife did not go to another man because of your drinking, she went because she wanted too! I can use scripture and proove this but that is not what I am here for. I am here to tell you, you did the best move you could. I thank God that HE was there when you cried out to Him. He will remove the drinking and ALL your sin from you! Your wife has to also turn to God and also cry out to Him for HER SIN. Your focus should not be on what your wife does, but what you do.

I can see you really want to repent, and the only reason you do is because God's Holy Spirit showed you the sin in you drinking. Now you have to start your WAY with Jesus. Every time you want a drink, you should cry out for Jesus to help, AND HE WILL! Jesus understand temptation, and HE CAN SHOW YOU THE WAY OUT of that temptation. All you have to do is FOLLOW his lead. Say NO to any alchahol. My brother also had the problem and he is dry for 15 years now! He does not even take medicine with alchahol in it.

If God wants your marriage saved, he will also plant repentance in your wife. And she would know the Spirit that will lead you both. There is a bright remark in my language about a cheating wife or husband... It says a monkey NEVER lets go of a branch, before he has another in the other hand.... Meaning.... your wife would not leave you or cheat on you, before she has someone in her head she wants to cheat with. The reason she does it has NOTHING to do with you ar what you did!

To get out and not cheat, is not the same as cheating and not getting out. When she leaves you, she may not take another. God NEVER said leave your husband if he is a drunk. If you did not cheat, she has no reason to leave! People make more excuses for divorce, but God said and gave only ONE reason.... fornication.... Matthew 19:1. Nowhere does God give permission for divorce.

Also when a NON-believer wants to leave, we should let them go. We cannot force a person to stay with us, God does not even force a person to believe. So if a non-believer wants to get divorced... let them GO!

All you have to do, is stick with your NEW WAY with Jesus, He will do the rest!

 

[nathan3]

Growing in love for God should not be connected to your wife cheating . If I were you I would divorce if, she was cheating. I would seek custody of the kids after I got myself in order, do that before you go to seek custody. Your actions are in part, maybe responsible, maybe. but your wife cheating is also responsible totally for her own actions. I do not believe that God can force some one to love you. If things are going this direction then I would leave her if she is cheating, from what you have said it seems that way. Its not worth getting to upset because in time everything works out. Weather your with her or not. If you keep peace, weather together with your wife or not, your actions can draw your daughter closer to you, even if not in a marriage, its how mature you conduct yourself with all this.