Divorce help

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moglet

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After 23yrs of an unhappy marriage, I got divorced last year. Some christians will obviously judge me for that decision, but I know God knows all about my journey to that decision, He understands, and He loves me as much now as He did before my divorce. Since my divorce I feel a tremendous sense of both peace and joy, my children are pleased with my decision and we have a sense of peace in the house which we did not have when my ex husband lived with us. When I was getting divorced, there was one evening I was upset because I knew some people would judge me (unfairly I feel) but I had a lovely dream about a beautiful flower coming into bloom and I felt a sense of peace comforting me. The next day I went to visit my sister, and her first words to me were " I feel you are now like a flower coming into bloom". People are noticing my whole personnae has changed, as I feel a weight has been lifted off me. I feel my christian life was hampered when I was married as I could not be me, I feel truly blessed by God and I thank Him. I am happy to answer to God for my actions, because I know He was with me when I asked Him for help in making my decision. People need to be careful they are not further burdening their fellow christians who are struggling with life, sometimes unless you've been there you don t really understand. The God I know is one of love, not one who wants to beat me with a stick.
 
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Northernlight

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I don't think God would want his child to stay in a marriage like that... God loves us way too much!
 
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Japangela

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I do not question the testimony of God's grace on a person's circumstances, but I do believe each follower of Christ examine his/her own decisions and actions and weigh these things against the Word of God. The Bible warns against humans' tendencies to follow after every wind of doctrine and be deceived by the Deceiver and the wickedness of our own hearts. Personally, I'd very cautious and slow to testify that God would encourage any of His children to do that which He hates and does not line up with His Word. Those who reason and say, "I don't think God would...(fill in the blank)" have to be even more cautious. For they both have to be confident that they KNOW God accurately, and that they are representing Him accurately. Both of which is way too easy for us to fail at.

With the details you have shared I cannot begin to know the circumstances. Nevertheless the scriptures tell us to be content in every circumstance. Not forcing contentment as a religious act, but drawing on God's grace moment by moment. Pure joy and peace comes God, not from a rearrangement of our circumstances.

If anyone thinks I am judging them, I am not. I only speak from what the scriptures teach. If you feel judged it is not by my words but by God's. Take it up with Him if you don't like it.
 
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cjoyfully

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The bible does say you can separate for a time you just can't remarry except for adultry- If you are being abused you should separate especially if you have children. Maybe if you are separated he will change but you don't need to stay and be a punching bag for anyone.
 
pickles

pickles

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I believe that we must go before Jesus in our hearts for this answer. That being said my mother allowed my father to divorse her because of abuse to her and us her children. Allthough they were legally divorced to make sure there were provisions for her children she honored her marraige untill the day she died. She also prayed for him every day that He would be saved. I know that this is a difficult task to ask of anyone but the blessings she recieved were beyond mesure. Any person that looked in her eyes could see the presance of the Lord and his love in them. I hope and pray that Jesus will heal your husband, but I also know that living with one that abuses can destroy you over time. I send you my hope , support, heart and prayers in this decision. God bless, pickles
 
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faniehennig

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Really disgusting of men to beat their wife’s!
 
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faniehennig

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Not my will, but Thy will oh God.
For the woman which has a husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he lives; but if the husband be dead, she is loosed from the law of her husband.
3 So then if, while her husband lives, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress:
but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man. Rom 7
 
DiscipleDave

DiscipleDave

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TwistedAngel84 said:
I am getting many different ideas and views on what the Bible says about divorce. I am in an emotionally/verbally abusive marriage and I need help. Does or does not the Bible allow for divorce in such a circumstance? I don't have any children this could affect either.
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Did you say a vow under God to be with him for better or worse? Keep your vow to God. If God desires for you to be divorced from this man, then God will cause it to happen. But you as a follower of Jesus Christ are to keep your vows to God and to NOT seek a divorce. Now if there is sexual immorality on his part, then you will be free to divorce him in the eyes of God. But look at it positively, he is not beating you is he?

If you walk in the light as Jesus is in the light, maybe your light will rub off on him.

There are people who are born blind and have to live in that situation their entire life. You chose the situation that you are now currently in, by making a vow under God to be with this man till death do you part for better or for worse. Keep your vow.

Also, if it is so bad for you, you can always leave him, you are not to ever get married again, nor divorce him, but you do not have to stay with him.

^i^ Responding to OP
 
blue_ladybug

blue_ladybug

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DiscipleDave said:
Did you say a vow under God to be with him for better or worse? Keep your vow to God. If God desires for you to be divorced from this man, then God will cause it to happen. But you as a follower of Jesus Christ are to keep your vows to God and to NOT seek a divorce. Now if there is sexual immorality on his part, then you will be free to divorce him in the eyes of God. But look at it positively, he is not beating you is he?

If you walk in the light as Jesus is in the light, maybe your light will rub off on him.

There are people who are born blind and have to live in that situation their entire life. You chose the situation that you are now currently in, by making a vow under God to be with this man till death do you part for better or for worse. Keep your vow.

Also, if it is so bad for you, you can always leave him, you are not to ever get married again, nor divorce him, but you do not have to stay with him.

^i^ Responding to OP
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Dave, the OP left in 2009.. lol..
 
Jesus4ever

Jesus4ever

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Hi, dear sister.

I´ll pray for you! :)


God bless!
 
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lindacantrell

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Today we have to accept the truth and move ahead in life is the action needed in such a marriage where marriage enters into state of no respect for each others the same was with me years ago but i would like to thank my divorce lawyer Alexandria, VA for giving me a new life by solving my case.
 
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faniehennig

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[FONT=Georgia, serif]If so much suicide and murder is the result of divorce, how do we hear christians claim; “that which we have done, was only a small matter.” [/FONT]
[FONT=Georgia, serif]Has divorce not through all the ages destroyed the stability of the nations by the breaking up of the whole family? [/FONT]
[FONT=Georgia, serif]Is divorce not the mother of moral decline among a people? And yet the christians want to brush it aside as something small.[/FONT]


“[FONT=Georgia, serif]TRULY,” says the Lord, “I WILL BE A SWIFT WITNESS AGAINST THE SORCERES AND AGAINST THE ADULTERES....”[/FONT]
 
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