My husband has no respect for me, he doesn't value me, doesn't appreciate me, he doesn't honor me as his wife,he's extremely immature for his age, I can't trust him because he has lied to me multiple times...I caught him watching porn.. Which in gods eyes its adaultry...he claims he doesn't love me anymore but won't divorce me.. We have a two year old...I realy don't know what to do.. I feel my heart heardening towards him...I know god would want me to fight for my marriage but how do I suppose to continue to love someone who treats me like crap...
Divorce ?
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The heart of man is desperately wicked...from it will come all kinds of bad things. If you are a Christian I would hope you go to a church where you can obtain some biblical counseling. If your husband is a Christian then he may be persuaded to go with you. If he is not a Christian then you need to pray all the more that God will save him and give him a new nature, a Godly nature.
I won't belabor the problems with being unequally yoked or reaping what you have sown but sin always has consequences and they are painful consequences. Seek Gods wisdom that the decisions you make will not deepen the problem but draw you closer to Christ and find in Him the peace you seek.
For the cause of Christ
Roger
I won't belabor the problems with being unequally yoked or reaping what you have sown but sin always has consequences and they are painful consequences. Seek Gods wisdom that the decisions you make will not deepen the problem but draw you closer to Christ and find in Him the peace you seek.
For the cause of Christ
Roger
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Don't mind Nimbus, he's just a troll.
Anyway, Jruiz, I will not encourage any person to get divorced. I've been through it, and despite having every good reason to it's still an extremely difficult thing emotionally, keep that in mind. Is your husband a christian? If he says he does not love you, then he has already broken his vows, if that is really how he feels, so it begs the question "what's the point of being married then?"
I've been where you are, kind of. My ex told me she didn't want to work things out, yet she wouldn't take any action towards a divorce. Had that have been it, I really don't know how long I could have held on to the marriage because of that attitude. Find someone you can trust and confide in, and use a lot of prayer, and ready your bible a lot. I know it's a cookie cutter answer, but that's the best advice I can give you right now. I don't think you would be wrong getting divorced, but I'm not telling you you should either. Just my opinion
Anyway, Jruiz, I will not encourage any person to get divorced. I've been through it, and despite having every good reason to it's still an extremely difficult thing emotionally, keep that in mind. Is your husband a christian? If he says he does not love you, then he has already broken his vows, if that is really how he feels, so it begs the question "what's the point of being married then?"
I've been where you are, kind of. My ex told me she didn't want to work things out, yet she wouldn't take any action towards a divorce. Had that have been it, I really don't know how long I could have held on to the marriage because of that attitude. Find someone you can trust and confide in, and use a lot of prayer, and ready your bible a lot. I know it's a cookie cutter answer, but that's the best advice I can give you right now. I don't think you would be wrong getting divorced, but I'm not telling you you should either. Just my opinion
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I have no experience in this matter however I will share my thoughts.
Seek marriage counselling being able to communicate would probably help you two more than expected, communication is always the key to any healthy relationship. Shutting each other out solves nothing and leads to unsaid resentment towards each other. It is of my opinion that since a child is involved divorce should not even be considered my parents are divorced and you have no idea how much it affects the children. Remember why you married him to begin with - this should help with the issue you have of your heart hardening towards him - you must have loved him to marry him so give it another shot. It's going to take lots of work from both of you but as long as you are both willing to give it a shot you should be okay.
Seek marriage counselling being able to communicate would probably help you two more than expected, communication is always the key to any healthy relationship. Shutting each other out solves nothing and leads to unsaid resentment towards each other. It is of my opinion that since a child is involved divorce should not even be considered my parents are divorced and you have no idea how much it affects the children. Remember why you married him to begin with - this should help with the issue you have of your heart hardening towards him - you must have loved him to marry him so give it another shot. It's going to take lots of work from both of you but as long as you are both willing to give it a shot you should be okay.
Jruiz:
I know how it feels when your spouse says there is no love. I went through the same thing just over 2 years ago. It took the life out of me. Is it possible that he will not divorce because he wants to keep the family together. Ask him, where it went wrong. I have to agree, that by saying that he does not love you, he did break his vows to love love you till death do you part.
I pray that there will be some way that you and your husband can work it out. Would he be willing to talk to the pastor on a one on one basis.
God bless
I know how it feels when your spouse says there is no love. I went through the same thing just over 2 years ago. It took the life out of me. Is it possible that he will not divorce because he wants to keep the family together. Ask him, where it went wrong. I have to agree, that by saying that he does not love you, he did break his vows to love love you till death do you part.
I pray that there will be some way that you and your husband can work it out. Would he be willing to talk to the pastor on a one on one basis.
God bless
I can`t give you advices (other than pray for him) because I am not living your life. If I were you, I wouldn`t divorce, but I am not you.
Remember that the two of you promised in front of God that you would be together in good times, as well as in bad times. A promise means that I agree to marry you and to love you, even though I am going to change and so will you; this is why we make promises, because we know that we may not be in the future the same persons that we were at our wedding; so this is the role of a promise (or a contract).
I don`t believe that he doesn`t love you anymore; he was mean for having said that, but i don`t believe he said the truth.
Pray God to give you more patience and love and to give him more maturity and also more love.
Remember that the two of you promised in front of God that you would be together in good times, as well as in bad times. A promise means that I agree to marry you and to love you, even though I am going to change and so will you; this is why we make promises, because we know that we may not be in the future the same persons that we were at our wedding; so this is the role of a promise (or a contract).
I don`t believe that he doesn`t love you anymore; he was mean for having said that, but i don`t believe he said the truth.
Pray God to give you more patience and love and to give him more maturity and also more love.