My husband is under a lot of stress at work right now. His boss got fired 4 weeks ago, and my husband is having to do his job and his fired bosses job without any training or help. He's very stressed. Since this has happened, he has been going in work early around 6 in the morning and working through lunch and trying to leave by 6 at night for his own sanity. He and i have gone up to his work on weekends to try to get him caught up or ahead so he won't be so stressed.
I understand this stress, but he's getting to the point where he takes it out on me and it's beginning to sting. I don't know if I am begin overly sensitive or he's being snappy and mean. This morning we both left for work at the same time. I got down the road 5 minutes and I remembered that he forgot to leave some paint out for a contractor who was coming by to work on the house. I called him on his cell phone, and he answered with a sharp tone "WHAT" ... that is exactly what he said as his answer to me calling him. I immediately went on the defense and said, "forget it babe, I'll talk to you later" and hung up the phone.
I know that was the wrong thing to do. I have not apologized for this yet, and he has not called all day and said anything about it and he won't. So, what do I do or say? Nothing at all and leave it alone? Tell him that it upset me the way he shouted at me disrespectfully? Apologize because maybe I am the one being a jerk for not understanding and letting it upset me? I truly don't know what to say or do and want Christian guidance. I got in the car on the way home today from work and just cried. It just really made me sad to think that he could treat me that way and not think anything about it at all --- and then I got mad at myself for feeling sorry for myself!
How do I handle it, or do I not handle it at all and let it go. These mood swings have been going on for 4 weeks and seem to be getting a little worse as the work stress elevates.
I understand this stress, but he's getting to the point where he takes it out on me and it's beginning to sting. I don't know if I am begin overly sensitive or he's being snappy and mean. This morning we both left for work at the same time. I got down the road 5 minutes and I remembered that he forgot to leave some paint out for a contractor who was coming by to work on the house. I called him on his cell phone, and he answered with a sharp tone "WHAT" ... that is exactly what he said as his answer to me calling him. I immediately went on the defense and said, "forget it babe, I'll talk to you later" and hung up the phone.
I know that was the wrong thing to do. I have not apologized for this yet, and he has not called all day and said anything about it and he won't. So, what do I do or say? Nothing at all and leave it alone? Tell him that it upset me the way he shouted at me disrespectfully? Apologize because maybe I am the one being a jerk for not understanding and letting it upset me? I truly don't know what to say or do and want Christian guidance. I got in the car on the way home today from work and just cried. It just really made me sad to think that he could treat me that way and not think anything about it at all --- and then I got mad at myself for feeling sorry for myself!
How do I handle it, or do I not handle it at all and let it go. These mood swings have been going on for 4 weeks and seem to be getting a little worse as the work stress elevates.