Husband addicted to porn,drugs,lies

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Slepsog4

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Sweetie,

How can you be fine with it not to be intimate with your mate for 4 out of 5 years of marriage???

Have YOU tried to initiate it with him? He is just not interested or not interested in you? Is he getting "satisfied" some where else?
 
Jan 8, 2009
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You're 30, were age 15 when you got together.

Surely you saw these problems before you got together.

Porn and drug habits don't happen over night. If people made better choices about who they marry, and when they marry, I'm sure many of these problems can be avoided.
 
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SamIam

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You're 30, were age 15 when you got together.

Surely you saw these problems before you got together.

Porn and drug habits don't happen over night. If people made better choices about who they marry, and when they marry, I'm sure many of these problems can be avoided.

probably not the best thing to say at the moment........ She obviously is really upset
 
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Elijah3

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There is no problem too big that God cannot solve it. Taco, God will deal with your husband. Give God some time to work out on your husband. Peace.
 
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Well, I don't mean to upset anyone, but 15 year addictions are not often resolved overnight, and practical solutions to this problem should have been made 15 years ago. Nonetheless, the power of God can overcome , that means being delivered from bondages/demonic influences, and touched by the power of God, often with evidence of tongues etc.
 
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fani

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This is a hard situation that I myself went through with my husband. I've been married for 4 years and with him for 7 years/ It was a struggle for him for years, since he first saw it when he was 11. Porn is something that many deal with and it is very hard to get out of. When we got married we had sex but than he would also masterbate, and I would never say no to him and I did what ever he wanted me to do. I was so frustrated that I let it in our marriage. So we would watch it together and have relations. Boy did he love this. Than I also got addicted we now we both were. I believe this had to happen so he would be completely be honest with me and now we can discuss our struggles. God has been working in our lives and by Gods grace it is out of our marriage and out of our lives. Yes, we both struggle with it but we pray together everyday that God helps us. And we talk to each other when temptation comes and it gets hard. But because we are so open and honest with each other and we now have God in the center everything has been very good. Just remeber, yes its a sin but everyone sins and everyone has something they have to deal with daily. It could be cursing, or not devoting time to God, or lieing, the list goes on. With him its the porn, you have to be understanding and just show him love. Tell him you will take him back if he promises to have a half hour devotion with you and God DAILY, Never skip a day. Show him Jesus love through this.

Do not divorce him for this. It is a stronghold on his life that he is battling, do not judge him, try to talk to him about his struggles, Tell him its okay to talk about it and let him know you will not be mad at him.

When you do your devotions, pray before you read the bible say aloud praying to God that you will both will read and LIVE the word. Start off by reading passages about marriage. Womens and Mans responsibilities. Especially the sexual one. He should not deprive you from sex either. YOu should be doing often so you both are not tempted.
1Corinthians 7 (Chapter 7 is good, But on 7:1-5 -This is key for your marriage)
Ephesians5:22-33

Another thing is church counseling, My church has a secret group of men to be sexualy pure, its for single and married men. They talk about struggles with pron and lust. No judgement just helping each other out. We are christian but we have a sinful nature that only God can help us.

I hope this help. This is what has happen with my husband and I and now our relationship is very strong and its all because of God.
 
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Reborn32

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Taco as someone who was once addicted to alcohol I can tell you that the only way for him to get better is to want to. I mean truely want to. He needs to seek some professional help cause some can't stop these things on their own. If you still love him tell him the only way you will take him back is if he gets help for his addictions. The porn and the pills. Once he gets rid of the porn and the pills the lies will stop. The lies are a product of the pills and the porn which are all a product of sin. Once he gets help he can really be the man that God and you want him to be. You're in my prayers. God bless you.
 
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NeffCrane4

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You are not suppose to seek professional help from this world. All you need to do is have faith in Christ and Him Crucified as it applies to Justification and Sanctification By Faith found in Romans starting at chapter 5. " All "problems that we have in this world were dealt with for us at the Cross all we have to do is live by every word of God and have faith in Christs' finished work. Whosoever thinks that a Christian needs to go to a worldly counselor, physcoligist, AA, or NA isn't reading there bible or is not interpreting it very well. If you are one of the people who think that God is not enough or it wasn't enough what Christ did for us at the Cross and we still need help from ourselves or someone in this world (not a Christian), I recommend Jsm.org, Francesandfriends.com, or SonLife radio. God has blessed Jsm with the seeing and explaining the message of the Cross for total Victory in your life over sin. Please check the websites out and study for yourself what I have said. Also if you can afford it you need to get The Expositor's Study Bible. May God bless and move in your life greatly. Joshua & Stephanie
 
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You are not suppose to seek professional help from this world. All you need to do is have faith in Christ and Him Crucified as it applies to Justification and Sanctification By Faith found in Romans starting at chapter 5. " All "problems that we have in this world were dealt with for us at the Cross all we have to do is live by every word of God and have faith in Christs' finished work. Whosoever thinks that a Christian needs to go to a worldly counselor, physcoligist, AA, or NA isn't reading there bible or is not interpreting it very well. If you are one of the people who think that God is not enough or it wasn't enough what Christ did for us at the Cross and we still need help from ourselves or someone in this world (not a Christian), I recommend Jsm.org, Francesandfriends.com, or SonLife radio. God has blessed Jsm with the seeing and explaining the message of the Cross for total Victory in your life over sin. Please check the websites out and study for yourself what I have said. Also if you can afford it you need to get The Expositor's Study Bible. May God bless and move in your life greatly. Joshua & Stephanie
Many people have solved their problems using AA and such, I wouldn't doubt the efficiency of these programs
 
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carpetmanswife

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I dont mean to sound disrespectful or arguementative but i disagree .There are times when God delivers totally and automaticaly , He does and certainly can. Other times He does not, He gives us common sense to seek a professional when necessary .If you have a heart attack you dont just lay there and pray for healing , you go to a professional.just my thoughts
 
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carpetmanswife

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O i see you beat me to the post Grimaldus
 
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NeffCrane4

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Many people have solved their problems using AA and such, I wouldn't doubt the efficiency of these programs
In your public profile it says that you are not a Christian so I wouldn't exspect you to understand. It's okay though God loves you anyways and I am not not mad at your opinion. God Bless.
 
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NeffCrane4

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I dont mean to sound disrespectful or arguementative but i disagree .There are times when God delivers totally and automaticaly , He does and certainly can. Other times He does not, He gives us common sense to seek a professional when necessary .If you have a heart attack you dont just lay there and pray for healing , you go to a professional.just my thoughts
My love is not absent from my comment. I love all God's creation don't get me wrong by what I said, please.
 
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carpetmanswife

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My love is not absent from my comment. I love all God's creation don't get me wrong by what I said, please.
I believe that and dont doubt your love for others at all, we just disagree . :) Gb
 
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1still_waters

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Who cares if someone is fixed through saying Bible verses and praying, or if they're fixed by psychology. Of if they're fixed by a mixture of both. The bottom line is that they are fixed! If it stops the sinful behavior, then it's good!

It seems some want to engage in a little modern day pharasee/sadduccee-ism and attack anything that doesn't have a historical religious label tied to it.
 
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Baruch

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Ive prayed and prayed for God to change him or for God to change me so that I can accept his behavior or for God to just put it in his heart to let me go. What should I do?? He seems so clueless, he thinks that because he has good intentions (he wants to quit drugs, porn, lies, and masturbation) but he doesnt quit. It's like he likes the idea of being a good christain man, a good husband and father and he thinks that someday he'll get there but when will that be, how does someone just put something like that off?? And how long am i supposed to wait, ive been waiting for 15 years and its always the same. please help.......
I do not know if this will help, but maybe changing your internet provider may be a start. This link is to a site that filters porn and other offensive stuff from even getting to your computer.

http://www.saferaccess.com/

The whole idea of it is your husband cannot be tempted with porn from the internet because it will not filter through the provider.

As for giving your husband pause for every temptation coming his way, if he does not turn to the Lord for help to lead him away from temptation, then he should be informed of being left behind at the rapture event for the sins he is committing. The Lord wants us to be sober and vigilant all the time; not most of the time. When He appears, will your husband be found abiding in Him or caught with his pants down, if you will pardon the expression.

Here are some information and testimonies from others that have been delivered. Maybe he shoulod read them.

http://mentodayonline.com/loveandsex/internetporn.html?gclid=CN-208zBlJsCFVpM5Qod1DTVpA


As for the marriage bed. He should read 1 Corinthians 7th chapter. Maybe you should also to remind him.

May the Lord help you both to love each other as Christ loved you.
 
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Baruch

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I do not know if this will help, but maybe changing your internet provider may be a start. This link is to a site that filters porn and other offensive stuff from even getting to your computer.

http://www.saferaccess.com/

The whole idea of it is your husband cannot be tempted with porn from the internet because it will not filter through the provider.
Just in case you are new to the internet or have forgotten....

Make sure that the internet dial up services is a local number or you will have a whopping phone bill. I have not used this service so I do not know the wide range of local dail up numbers available.

Otherwise, the only other option is to not have any internet access at all. There are other hobbies available for believers.
 
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collective

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there is a spider to every web, if you dont kill the spider the webs will just keep coming, i learnt this through my dealing of sexual abuse, is there a trauma or abuse in his life that he hasnt faced, something childhood, either way he needs to lance the pussey wound that infesting his heart, these things are an outward sign and expression, he sounds like he needs to get alone and get serios with God to take him through the road of self searching of the pain and the sin that he is endulging himself in to mask the pain and let God bring it to light so he can release repent forgive, what ever is not letting this spider go.
 
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drewski

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u should get him to read wild at heart by john eldridge its an amazing book and addresses alot of things that males go through and it has helped me with things ive dealt with
 
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Drugs is the last thing I will ever try out. It make you sick and it is very daingerous. Dont try it ever because it is daingerous. God send people with a purporse towards the earth and drugs make your life shorter. As a Christian I will keep on praying about drug problems and that God will help people to stay away from drugs.