Husbands email

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sunnymdaze

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i asked this earlier in ladies chat but was wondering if you think I'm overreacting... My husbands yahoo email streams ad on the side of "available women" dressed somewhat provocative... This bothers me and I've told him... He says he doesn't notice it although he does seem uncomfortable when I'm around and they pop up... He has me mentioned changing addresses but hasn't. He treats me great and no other problems... I wish he would respect my feeling that I don't like it... Am I overreacting?
 
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Sirk

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Nope. If something bothers you it's an indication of a crossed boundary or violated core belief.
 
blue_ladybug

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Have him install an adblocker add-on for his email, such as Adblock or Ghostery.. :) Better yet, report the ad as inappropriate to Yahoo..
 
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Peter96

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I'm sorry. He shouldn't do that, he really shouldn't. You are not overreacting. I think you should talk to him seriously and most importantly take this pain to Jesus. He cares for all you are going through.
 
Nautilus

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just get adblock. its not that big of an issue and adblock is free.
 
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sunnymdaze

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I could suggest that but it doesn't change the fact that he doesn't take the initiative ... He would do it at my suggestion I feel sure
 
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Sirk

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sunnymdaze said:
I could suggest that but it doesn't change the fact that he doesn't take the initiative ... He would do it at my suggestion I feel sure
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You've stated your feeling on it and want him to take care of it on his own initiative. If you have to ask him or do it for him you feel patronized. I know that I would feel that way. This is a painful feeling for you and you have to express it to him as such.
 
phil38111

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Getting spam is beyond his control for the most part. I do beleive you are slightly overreacting. That is just my opinion. If they are just commercials what are you so worried about? Would you get upset if he saw a christian mingle ad on Television? It kind of sounds like you don't trust him. I don't know him personally so i don't know if he is trustworthy, but if you trust him what are you so worried about?
 
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sunnymdaze

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It's not spam which I know you can't control that ... It's ads streaming down the side of all kind of women advertising they are available... I know he can't control that either... But he could get another email... Idk why he doesn't... Makes my mind wonder
 
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Sirk

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sunnymdaze said:
It's not spam which I know you can't control that ... It's ads streaming down the side of all kind of women advertising they are available... I know he can't control that either... But he could get another email... Idk why he doesn't... Makes my mind wonder
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If you don't process this it can turn into all kinds of things....bitterness, anger, disconnection...etc.
 
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sunnymdaze

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Maybe I should just get an account there too so he could see how it feels... I know he wouldn't want ads of available men streaming down my page
 
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Sirk

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sunnymdaze said:
Maybe I should just get an account there too so he could see how it feels... I know he wouldn't want ads of available men streaming down my page
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That is retaliation or escalating the situation....when you act out of pain you create more pain.
 
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Moose_Almighty

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sunnymdaze said:
Maybe I should just get an account there too so he could see how it feels... I know he wouldn't want ads of available men streaming down my page
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How long have you two been married?
 
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sunnymdaze said:
i asked this earlier in ladies chat but was wondering if you think I'm overreacting... My husbands yahoo email streams ad on the side of "available women" dressed somewhat provocative... This bothers me and I've told him... He says he doesn't notice it although he does seem uncomfortable when I'm around and they pop up... He has me mentioned changing addresses but hasn't. He treats me great and no other problems... I wish he would respect my feeling that I don't like it... Am I overreacting?
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Probably. There is always advertising and often the type that you described. I have a yahoo account also and this type of stuff pops up all of the time along with other types. I just ignore it and it seems to me that your husband ignores it as well.
 
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mikeuk

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I am an internet marketer with many sites, and I have used a lot of paid ads in the past.
There is a problem of why those ads are shown.

I cannot speak for yahoo. I don't use it. But I know that google notice what you are searching , sites you visit as a result of search whilst you are logged into your google account, and this is used as a basis to choose ads they think appropriate for you - as an advertiser I can target such things.

I doubt that yahoo would stream ads randomly of the type you say,they are cleverer than offending 90% of their customers with X rated or adult ads, so there is a possibility that those ads are the result of untoward searching.

Only a possibility. Not enough to convict. If you get the chance one day, take a sneak look through the history of searching, sites visited and so on to satisfy yourself there is nothing untoward, or alternatively have a basis to challenge.
 
Fenner

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He could try Gmail, I switched from Yahoo to Gmail because of the ad issue, but I still have the Yahoo acct because I haven't told everyone I've changed it yet. Sometimes it's difficult to change until you figure out everyone you need to contact with the new address.
 
secularhermit

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No!

You are NOT overacting, simply reacting: That´s a hook to get a fish.
 
Fenner

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Sunny I don't want to hurt your feelings but not suggesting him set up a new email is kind of setting him up for disaster. Just tell him, maybe he hasn't thought of it. I don't know him but my Husband doesn't think of things that are easy sometimes. I just do it myself. Or remind him, but to just let this stew is not good.
 
JesusLives

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sunnymdaze said:
i asked this earlier in ladies chat but was wondering if you think I'm overreacting... My husbands yahoo email streams ad on the side of "available women" dressed somewhat provocative... This bothers me and I've told him... He says he doesn't notice it although he does seem uncomfortable when I'm around and they pop up... He has me mentioned changing addresses but hasn't. He treats me great and no other problems... I wish he would respect my feeling that I don't like it... Am I overreacting?
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You might be over reacting because it is an ad that pops up on the email.... I get ads all the time on my gmail account about single guys interested in my area - I ignore the ads I also get other advertisements too and I pretty much ignore that too. I don't believe your husband solicited this info that is coming I know I didn't. Now if you say your husband got an email from a single girl then there are issues.. But he probably did not solicit this ad that came across his email screen.
 
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Ugly

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In line with what Fenner is saying he may not even notice the ads. I ignore ads.
So holding it against him because he doesn't think of it himself is wrong on your end. Marriage is about communication. If you fail to communicate to him alternate options then how much of this falls on you?
 
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