Hypocrisy, Pot Smoking Father

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Spongebob543

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Right now I'm angry because I know that my dad smokes marijuana and my mom is totally clueless. Pot is making my dad forgetful and is unhealthy, I'm frustrated right, how can my dad go to church every Sunday and his dad is a pastor himself whist still doing this.... he has no accountability, I don't want him to end up going crazy and having mental problems. I don't want to confront him about it, I wish he would just understand how harmful and hurtful it is, and stop. I don't know why he turns to alcohol and drugs to deal with life stresses, I really don't. I need your suggestions, he's over 50
 
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kenisyes

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I wouldn't be at all surprised if your mom actually knows. As far as confronting him, you have only that choice, and praying for him and trusting God. You need to choose one or the other, so you will not be frustrated and angry.
 
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Lucy68

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It's easy to become frustrated and angry with our loved ones when they're following what is so obvious to us...self-destructive behavior. Why does anyone want to become numb? Numb is not healthy. It is an escape from the present moment...from ourselves or our circumstances, usually both.

The Christian answer is to practice self-examination and understand what is going on in our head and take this to the Lord for help. We would think people who call themselves Christians would understand this but the sad fact is that Christians can still be influenced by Satan....not necessarily 'possessed' but 'influenced'.

Friends and family's proper responses would be to show them love and compassion and sometimes have the boldness to lovingly confront this destructive behavior. Until you get your own resentments out of the way (the 'plank') then you should not attempt to confront your father's problem (the 'speck'). Otherwise, he many rebel even more and your relationship with him may be damaged.

In the meantime, praying for our loved ones is a very powerful act....we must make sure our own hearts are as pure as possible for this to be effective.

Plus, there is still the possibility that our loved one will continue down the slope with a galloping speed. If this is their willful desire then there is nothing we can do except continue to pray for them...and make sure we are not enabling them to continue in sin.

Praying for harmony in your family and that your dad will see what his behavior is doing to himself, to his relationships with friends and family, and most of all, to his relationship with Jesus Christ.
 
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presidente

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Spongebob543 said:
Right now I'm angry because I know that my dad smokes marijuana and my mom is totally clueless. Pot is making my dad forgetful and is unhealthy, I'm frustrated right, how can my dad go to church every Sunday and his dad is a pastor himself whist still doing this.... he has no accountability, I don't want him to end up going crazy and having mental problems. I don't want to confront him about it, I wish he would just understand how harmful and hurtful it is, and stop. I don't know why he turns to alcohol and drugs to deal with life stresses, I really don't. I need your suggestions, he's over 50
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Pray, then confront him. If he won't listen, tell his dad and confront him together with his dad.
 
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Cino

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Spongebob543 said:
Right now I'm angry because I know that my dad smokes marijuana and my mom is totally clueless. Pot is making my dad forgetful and is unhealthy, I'm frustrated right, how can my dad go to church every Sunday and his dad is a pastor himself whist still doing this.... he has no accountability, I don't want him to end up going crazy and having mental problems. I don't want to confront him about it, I wish he would just understand how harmful and hurtful it is, and stop. I don't know why he turns to alcohol and drugs to deal with life stresses, I really don't. I need your suggestions, he's over 50
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You say you don't want to confront him with the problem, but that may be the only way. The only thing that can persuade man of doing good is the spoken word. If you never talk to him, you will never get your point across to him. You need to pray that God would give you the words to speak to him. I'm not so sure your mother is unawares, and perhaps you must try to approach her and talk to her. I must say though, that yes, it is hypocrisy. And perhaps he must be told this. He can try to fool himself, fool your mother, fool you, fool people in the church, but he will never fool God. His sinful ways must be pointed out to him so he can repent and give up his sin.
 
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