I just ended my marriage of 13 years

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Ugly

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Guys, this post is a year old and the OP hasn't logged in for a few months.
 

rhinestone

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really sorry to hear that, that;s a very hurtful thing to deal with (cheating) you can only take one day at a time, I hope you find someone, I would give it a year or more before you have another relationship, a friendship is much better. The chances are you won't ever trust again, that's hard! I will pray for you, you will have a lot of empty feelings for quite a while,all this may bring you closer to GOD.

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Rebecca

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:( I am in the same boat , but was ... Or am a newlywed we were married for five months!! And he chooses to end our marriage due to arguing often... He changed after our wedding vows... He went from a loving christian man to demanding and emotionless and selfish ... I had to move to another state to be with him ... And just this week moved back home. It doesn't feel real, I feel like I'm in a bad dream.:( I feel your pain and I pray god will help u and me get through this!
 
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Alicia

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:( I am in the same boat , but was ... Or am a newlywed we were married for five months!! And he chooses to end our marriage due to arguing often... He changed after our wedding vows... He went from a loving christian man to demanding and emotionless and selfish ... I had to move to another state to be with him ... And just this week moved back home. It doesn't feel real, I feel like I'm in a bad dream.:( I feel your pain and I pray god will help u and me get through this!
Anyone can make a mistake in choosing the person they marry. It's better to find out sooner rather than later when there are children involved and you've devoted 20 years or so of your life to this man. I can understand your pain, I'm so sorry you are going through this. I've been in a state where my marriage hit rock bottom due to infidelity and it was like taking a bullet to the chest! The pain was actually physical. I promise you will survive this, you will be happy again but you have to give yourself time to heal, it's good that you've moved back home where you can be with people who will love and support you. Pray that God will give you the courage you need, find comfort in your Church and your faith.

May God bless you and give you strength and guide you.
 
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evenatthedoors

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Dont know why God is making me do this, but this is the third such post where i am acting an agony aunt...and let me share the burden God has put in me regarding you...

I am not asking you to live with him but i will ask you not to leave him either...let us put ourselves in the place of God ( i know we can't but try to ) and see just about how much he has forgiven our relationship with satan and his devices...and He is still forgiving us of our sins even as we speak...and we with satan is no different from your husband and that woman...forgive, for you shall be forgiven...not seven times but seventy...i am not asking you to reconcile with your husband but open a healthier gateway to God...and ask His Holy Spirit to guide you through this...i have a strong belief placed by Holy Spirit that he will make amends with you...but would take time...use this time to devout yourself entirely to God

And remember, where true forgiveness dwells, pain does not stand a chance...where will we be if God forgave us but a gnawing pain be found in Him even after forgiveness ?

Reflect
 
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Ke

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AngelaO, dont beat yourself so hard. Some decisions we make hurt us so bad, but its inevitable that we make them at times. Give yourself time. I will help you pray that you may copy with this new status and situation.
 
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Alicia

Any emotional investment however short is painful to throw away or walk out of. Time will heal. I have been there, I know, but God surely heels our pain with time. At one point I thought it was the end of life, now, I am happy and have moved on and life is great. Give yourself time. All shall be well.
 
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AgeofKnowledge

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I reported you to the mods Pete as you're pushing satanic occultism on a Christian forum. There's nothing good about bringing yourself into spiritual bondage to the devil which is what happens when you engage in this behavior.

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hattiebod

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He is the love of your life. As you forgive, so Christ forgives. You can...could get through this. But the bottom line is, is it Christ or is it living in the world. Dam Hard...but thats what we are called to be...Christ followers, pick up the cross....not just reading it, living it.
If you love him then....you will love him again. Believe it...its not about feelings!! You hurt? Oh Boy!!! Christ hung on the cross for both of you!! God Bles you both, healing and love flow upon you. Allene <><
 

Jackson123

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Sister, I could feel the pain in your heart, but I'm sure there are positive aspects of your experience . It will bring you closer to the Lord.

You will no longer entrust your life to a human. Only God our expectations. Than He will change the pain in your heart to the heavenly experience, A life filled with happiness and victory.



 
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kessy001

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It is well with you!!
 
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TamieTrue

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Praying for you Sweety...God is watching over you and your babies and he has something so much better for you planned on the horizon.
 
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hattiebod

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Hi Everyone :) This is my first post on this site.

I ended my marriage of 13 years a couple of days ago. My husband has been cheating on me for almost 2 years. I first found out about it in May 2011, but I loved him so much that I kept giving him more chances. He swore he'd never do it again. But...he did. I caught him 7 times in the past year and a half. Each time I took him back because I didn't want to lose him and we have 2 beautiful little boys together. But, a couple of days ago, when I caught him emailing the same girl from the first time, saying how much he missed her and wanted to be with her, I knew I couldn't do this anymore.

I am completely devastated. 3 years ago, we left our province and moved across the country because of his new career. I left everyone and everything behind. For him. Now, I'm separating from him and will be living alone in this province with our kids.

I have lost the love of my life. I don't know how I'll ever get over this one. I'll just have to keep praying that God will give me the strength to get through it. I trust that He has a bigger, better plan for me, and I know He will get me there.

I just need to get through the pain I'm feeling...
OK...so you found out he was cheating? and then what? did you talk? go to your church elders (someone you were close to) did you sit down and try to work it out...did you pray...day and night....
Trouble is, this is awful but when God has never been IN it....how is HE meant to ever have a part of the restoration?? if we believe He is such a God...how does it match up? we need to be Bible believing and living followers...way before things 'go wrong'.
You have lost the love of your life? i would assume you are REALLY fighting!! He only has a bigger , better , plan if you are/ were in His will. Basically, married? His will would be you stay together, coz in His Word He tells us....'no man can pull your marriage asunder'. Impossible? well is He not the God of the Impossible??
Just a thought.
God Bless <><
 
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You people need to learn to read.
 

jogoldie

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Alot of responses for you..as you can see your not alone...I to have the similar except with me there was violence...however I think I can help you more by telling you the outcome after 20 years..after I was taken cross country alone kids..etc. well good news sister..I florished with God..my children and I had a special bond because of what we endured..and are still strong and together..it gets easier with alittle time..GOD WILL HEAL YOUR HEART.. after a while your eyes will open and you will be glad you left..wont understand why you even put up with it...the only way HE allows divorce is because of infidelity..So your decision is a good one..stay strong and learn boy stuff and go on and be there for your boys...they need to see a strong woman in you and let them know your a team and together you will succeed when they know you need their help..they will come through for you..its an exciti.g adventure focus on that and of course God and you will be fine..alot of people praying for you...me too
 
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This thread is from August of 2012. The OP has not been here for quite some time.
 
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Angela0:

I went through the same thing many years ago. I told myself if I was married to someone I had to worry about then I was married to the wrong person.
That aside, the pain was awful. I pray for you and your kids. I tried to stay as busy as I could, I went back school part time. Something I had wanted to do but my ex said would be a waste of time. I took some courses just for me. Not something I could further my career with.
Time went by and. slowly I began liking making my own decisions. Eventually I made a new circle of friends.
Don’t worry about finding the right person. Spend some time finding yourself.

Blessing,
Strong
 

shelly55555

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i can feel your pain I also was deceived but man I married.( if u can call him a man) he used me to stay in UK and he never loved me from start. once his right came to remain in Uk came he went. butwith u it must be harder as there was love. but do love die. I read that love a decision. and that most people when them first feelings fade they think love is dead and look else where. maybe your husband was thinking it fading when feelings change when a relationship is over long period of time. I relying on God, as I been isolated as well. only way now is get full into God and seek him he only one that can get u through this.
 
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kenthomas27

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Oh my Angelo O I'm so sorry you're experiencing this.....I'm just kidding. I've just missed Ugly and digging up this particular old thread is one of the best ways to find him. Ugly - I hope this old thread finds you well! love Angelo