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oracle2world

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Think about your children, and do what is right for them.
 
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Hi, I'm 27 years old. I have 2 children, one to a previous relationship. My youngest, 2 years old is to my boyfriend I live with. I always feel like I have to chase him. I'm telling him I need love and he doesn't hear me. I tell him I think we should be married and he tells me he isn't ready. It hurts me a lot and I react in a loud manner. I want to change and live like a Christian but I'm afraid to live with out him.
If you truly have turned to God in love through Jesus and turned from your sins including the sin of fornication and believe that Jesus is God then you are a christian and no Christian should be married to someone who is not a christian...you need to trust God to take care of you and your childrens needs...you need to get away from your boyfriend...perhaps you have family who love you and would help you to make this break and to set you up somewhere for you to raise your children in a godly way..if you do not have any family or christian friends to help you then go and chat to your pastor
 
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Hi, I'm 27 years old. I have 2 children, one to a previous relationship. My youngest, 2 years old is to my boyfriend I live with. I always feel like I have to chase him. I'm telling him I need love and he doesn't hear me. I tell him I think we should be married and he tells me he isn't ready. It hurts me a lot and I react in a loud manner. I want to change and live like a Christian but I'm afraid to live with out him.
I'd stay with him for the children's sake unless he's cheating on you.
You are already living in a 'common law' marriage now.
I don't see the importance of sanctioning by the state.
God considers you married now.

Find people to pray with you.
Join a good bible believing church.
Post a new thread asking people on this site to pray for you and your
situation.

My prayer is that Jesus will soften his heart, and give you the patience
to show him God's love.

It's much better for the children to have a father at home.

God bless you, have faith.... it is God's will for you to be happily married and your children
to have two joined parents.
 
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There is a lot of unbiblical, awful advice answering this thread.
Hasn't anyone read that one saved person in a marriage sanctifies the union?
The Apostle Paul wrote it, look it up!

Do you think it would be better for the children to live in a one parent home?
Don't you think God can use the Christ like example of this believer to
soften her common law husband's heart? - God does it all the time.

Now if there is a question of battery or unfaithfulness that is one thing,
but to tell someone to leave their common law husband, who they share a child with,
because he isn't saved is just AWFUL!
 
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There is a lot of unbiblical, awful advice answering this thread.
Hasn't anyone read that one saved person in a marriage sanctifies the union?
The Apostle Paul wrote it, look it up!

Do you think it would be better for the children to live in a one parent home?
Don't you think God can use the Christ like example of this believer to
soften her common law husband's heart? - God does it all the time.

Now if there is a question of battery or unfaithfulness that is one thing,
but to tell someone to leave their common law husband, who they share a child with,
because he isn't saved is just AWFUL!
yes a nonchristian person who is married to a christian person is sanctified by the christian and if they are not happy with their christian spouse they are free to divorce them...the christian on the other hand is not free to divorce a nonchristian husband except in the case of adultery or if he is lusting after women in his heart, but they are free to seperate if the husband is living in open rebellion against God and causing his wife to stumble...as indicated by the command do not be unequally yoked to a nonbeliever...there are also bible versus to show that a spouse is to remove their presence from a spouse who is violent, abusive or living in a state of drunkeness...why should children have to suffer living under such horrid conditions just so their parents can remain together?
 
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She didn't say he was abusive, or was living in open rebellion.
She said he was 'pulling away' and she was yelling at him.
I think it's a mistake to encourage separation under those circumstances.
The peace of God being established in their home by His grace through
her example should be.
With the prayers of a strong support group - i.e. good church backing her up.
 
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josngglybear

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This is my thoughts--something I've learned over the years in my marriage, raising children and my walk with God. You can't change someone else. The only person you can change is yourself and then only with God's help. You cannot make this man love you. You cannot make this man be ready to marry. You cannot make this man ready to be a father. God can! You focus on your life and your walk with GOD. Serve Him and give yourself to Him and ask for His will for your life. In saying that I say this: if you truly love this man and want him in your life, don't give up. Pray! Pray that God will give you a loving heart and a kind spirit towards this man. Pray that God will work in this mans heart that he might be saved. Pray that if it's God's will, He will lead you both together as man and wife and loving parents to your children. I believe you should not live together unmarried. Plus a home of constant fighting is not good for you or your children. Focus on living for God and growing in your faith. Take care of yourself and take care of your children. Let God take care of this man. God loves you and He wants to take care of you, LET HIM. "Cast your cares upon Him, for He cares for you." "Trust in the Lord with all your heart and He will direct your path." Pray and let God handle it all. Love you in Christ and I'm praying for you.
 
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christianmotherof32011

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just pray that God does his will unto the man of yours.just pray for him and ,love him the best you can and let God do the rest