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Hello guys . This is going to be pretty lengthy but I want honest Respectable advice . 3 years ago I was heart broken ... I had just broken up w the guy that I was with for 2 years & had taken my virgibity. During that heart ache I prayed for a gentleman , a man of God, with a great family , loyal and honest & to make me happy. I used to listen to that song " Love" by music soul child all the time .Exactly 1 year and 6 months later the summer of 2012 I met Bradley. He was everything I had prayed for ... On our first date he told me he could sing & he sang " love" by music soul child ... I took that as a sign from God . He was so gorgeous , manners , a man of God , had a family and everything I wanted and needed . 3 months later we got more serious , we weren't in a relationship BUT we were only seeing each other . Around the time of thanksgiving my life fell apart . I had to move in with him. We were both from Long Island NY , but his parents rented him a beach home for the college semester In NJ. I moved in w him around hurricane Sandy . Everything was great , we became what we thought were soul-mates. I couldn't find a job while being there so his parents carried us financially ( without knowing anything ) and he got side job sdjronh Xmas. He was a student athlete chasing his baseball dream and he feels he had to sacrifice his dream for me multiple times for us to survive . My parents aren't in my life and my family is dysfunctional so I didn't have any support Except him . We never cheated on each other once . We spoke about marriage & having a family ( we wanted to speak things into exsistance ) When school was over we came back home to NY ... I feel his mom who has her doctorate in Psychology started to manipulate him into telling him he didn't need me or any girlfriend at the time BC we were hindering each other & we weren't established . She started to give us a hard time . Even gave funny looks at church . It started to mess with My Ex's head . That , and ALL the built up resentment he had towards me from him sacrificing baseball for me , and his parents taking care of both of us without knowledge . So he would put me on this emotional roller coaster of being together & not being together for the entire summer, the summer that just passed .(2013) We eventually got it together and we were good. Going out on dates , I had gotten a job and rented my own place ( but I wasn't happy ) so I moved around a lot over the summer . But financially I was able to meet him half way now . So it was less stress . Anytime we argued it was BC he wasn't happy as a man BC he felt he never made any decisions for himself ever in life , his parents did everything for him & he would want to break up to find himself as a man . Over all we we gotten better , We opened up by crying together one day and praying together . Until Dec1 2013 ( that just passed ) he was trying to break up ONCE again & I feel he was serious this time & was giving up on us . We got into a heated argument in Queens , NY where someone watching must have thought it was too intense and called the police . He got arrested on domestics violence charges ( he NEVER hit me EVER ) and his parents found out that night we were once livng together . We haven't spoke in two months . The last time I saw him he was getting arrested and the last thing he said to me was " Rox ur really gna let them arrest me " ( w tears in his eyes ) I couldn't do anything. I felt the police officers were taking advantage of us , the fact we are young ) they wouldn't listen to me . His parents don't want us talking & he's hurt and upset but I know he misses me . I've tried to reach out many times but his attorney told me he's afraid something would happen again. I think his mom is brainwashing him. He said he beleived we are perfect for each other and he always called me his soulmate . So idk how he could treat me so cold & not reach out for 2 months . In hoping God doesn't let this end this way. My ex did everything for me ... And the last time I saw Bradley he was crying in handcuffs over something that didn't happen . This can't be the way God let's us end !!!!!!!!
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