I'm a failure at life

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M527

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I just feel like such a failure in life... I just bombed my Accuplacer test for college. My sister in law that i live with is telling me that I shouldn't even go now because ill owe back tons of money to financial aid since I have to be put in a elementary math class. And my other sister in law says that's not true at all. So I don't even know what to do anymore. I wanna do Fitness management BADLY but the sister in law that I live with says that i won't have any jobs and that ill be broke. I'm just lost I can't hear what God wants from me & I don't trust anyone's advice in my family anymore. I just wish my father was still hear I trusted his advice... Today would of been his 58th birthday you know. 5/17/55---12/14/09
 
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Just going by the things you've already shared about your sister-in-law, I don't think I'd be too dependent on her advice. She sounds like she enjoys fighting and drama, and now she's undermining your confidence in yourself and God. Don't listen to the negativity- do what you need/want to do with your life, and trust that the Lord is always there and will lead you if you'll shut out the "noise" from people who want to see you fail.
 
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I'm really sorry you're feeling this way. I felt like a failure when I failed my first class. I still feel dumber than a bag of bricks, but really, there's so much more in life than school. This doesn't mean we should drop out or give up, but there's a lot more to live for. When we get to heaven, we won't even care about school anymore.
 
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To the thread title:

Aren't we all...
 
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M527 said:
I just feel like such a failure in life... I just bombed my Accuplacer test for college. My sister in law that i live with is telling me that I shouldn't even go now because ill owe back tons of money to financial aid since I have to be put in a elementary math class. And my other sister in law says that's not true at all. So I don't even know what to do anymore. I wanna do Fitness management BADLY but the sister in law that I live with says that i won't have any jobs and that ill be broke. I'm just lost I can't hear what God wants from me & I don't trust anyone's advice in my family anymore. I just wish my father was still hear I trusted his advice... Today would of been his 58th birthday you know. 5/17/55---12/14/09
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Hard to hear God when everyone else is trying to get in your head and tell you what to do. Can you quiet your mind, your heart? Are you able to get away maybe in your car or lock yourself up in a closet somewhere to pray? You need to shut everything out and pray, concentrate on God, look to him and him only for answers. If I may suggest you get some rest, a good night sleep. It will make the process much easier when you are rested and able to purposely clear your mind and focus on God repeatedly since you can expect to have many many interruptions. But "set your mind and keep it set" on God.
 
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Failing is part of getting ahead in life. The job of your family is to support, build you up, and help you. When they are failures at that you just have to love them anyway, pat them on the shoulder and say there, there. Go to someone who has the information and skills to advise you based on facts. Then, if they don't show a positive way to grow, go to someone else.

People who have achieved big do it because they overcame failures and obstacles, usually. Einstein, Lincoln, President Truman, and many others could easily have said "I am a failure" at some point in their lives.

Sophia Loren was a failure. Her Mom said to hold her head high and walk and act as if she is a princess.

God made you a princess with a special place to fill, there is no one on this earth who can do it as well as you can. I love that you have fingerprints different from every other person. And you can achieve your life goals better than any other person.
 
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M527 said:
I just feel like such a failure in life... I just bombed my Accuplacer test for college. My sister in law that i live with is telling me that I shouldn't even go now because ill owe back tons of money to financial aid since I have to be put in a elementary math class. And my other sister in law says that's not true at all. So I don't even know what to do anymore. I wanna do Fitness management BADLY but the sister in law that I live with says that i won't have any jobs and that ill be broke. I'm just lost I can't hear what God wants from me & I don't trust anyone's advice in my family anymore. I just wish my father was still hear I trusted his advice... Today would of been his 58th birthday you know. 5/17/55---12/14/09
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You're 14 years old and worrying about all this?
 
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Let me tell you something about being a failure, Failing is part of life. It's the best way to learn. As someone once said: you try you fail you try you fail, but the only real failure is when you stop trying. You know from it sounds like no one is supporting you at all, and they are just saying you can't do it.

Now to me this sounds like a challenge, like God is saying lets show them that we can. How many scriptures is there that say anything is possible with god? How many times in the bible has the lord said with faith anything is possible? My daily motto to myself is If the world says you can't, it(Faith) will tell you that you can
 
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The bible says that a righteous man falls 7 times but he gets up 7 times ( righteous man being a bible believer )
 
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I just bombed my Accuplacer test for college.
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Could you study and retake the test?

from your post that means you got into college. a lot of people I know are not admitted at all.

I think if you have the opportunity you should go. I know a lot of really smart people not achieve as much as those who start out in elementary level classes because its not just about book smarts or how well you take a test.

To achieve your dream of becoming a Fitness management person you have to be determined and persistant in your work towards that goal. You can't have other people turn you away from it.

I would suggest having back up plans or jobs to help support yourself until you can establish a career in the field you want to work, but don't give up your dreams.

God wants you to find your place in the world and be joyful in whatever work you are given. He wants you to show love to others and just be YOU, a beloved child of God.

And my other sister in law says that's not true at all.
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does this sister in law encourage you to go to college and would you still be living with the one who is putting you down if you go? what do your brothers say about it?
 
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They both want me to go & yes I am currently living with the one who is putting me down until the first of June. My one brother who is married to her says that I F-up all the time I'm going to be broke & on the street that I'm stupid (even though he flunked out of college) he just tries to be perfect for her (my sister in law) because she's really smart. My other brothers stop coming around ever since my dad died & my mother left me to live with her husband in Florida.
 
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Hi.gbu.The answer 2 this is very simple.Stop listening 2 what people say about u and hear what God states in his Word=Bible.It says in Jeramiah 29:13 that God has a great plan 4 u,not 2 harm u but 2 prosper u,this is a promise and a blessing.Also stop being lead by your feelings,the devil plays with them all the time.As u said u r a student u need 2 start studying Gods Word,it will change your life,it is also total truth and without it u will always believe the lies about u.God thinks u r a treasure,very special,he created u 4 his good purpose.Tell the devil 2 go 2 hell where he belongs.Thank God 4 his love toward u,and restoring peace and joy back into your life.This is the whole truth and nothing but the truth Amen pastor John.
 
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You are not a failure. Just remember to continue to be wise and love what you do in this life! Life will be better.

My daughter is a gym teacher for a High School. She also teaches classes part time at night for two gyms. It's her passion to excite others to be physically fit. The teaching job pays her bills and affords her summers and holidays off so she can be with her daughter since her husband also works outside the home. She is also home most times at 3:00. :)

When I was your age I had both my mother and father knock down my dreams for the same reasons you stated. Guess what they were Wrong! So what I am saying is.....listen to the little voice deep inside to guide you. That I believe is God.

I now do what I love, but unfortunately I can't get paid for it because I don't have the education I need for the field.

Go for it and good luck to you, God Bless
 
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Sorry about your dad :(.

Navigating life is always hard; especially when you're trying to decide an educational/employment path. I think if God has given you a passion for something, though, that you should pursue it.

Repaying student loans is becoming a huge problem with college graduates. But you can minimize these by working as you go to school.

It isn't a bad thing to take remedial math courses....they are really good at getting you up to speed in math.

Take the time to do the research before deciding. Especially stay close to God and ask for His guidance. He is all for your success :). That doesn't mean that it will be easy. Many of our lessons are learned the hard way; but as long as we have faith that our Father is all-loving and know that in the end, good conquers evil, we can get through a lot and grow spiritually.
 
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I'm going to repeat what a lot of others have already said to you but you need to hear it again. You are NOT a failure, YOU ARE NOT!!! Failing one test or 1 class does not a failure make. Giving up is the only way we ever fail. God never gives up on us and people give up on Him all the time. And you know what? He always lets them come back. ALWAYS!!! You can never fail because God loves you and has good plans for you, your only part is to believe that and talk to God and let Him know your ready, available, and willing to keep trying.

God loves you and God loves me and therefore I love you. Your are precious and wonderful and an awe inspiring creation. Never forget that.
 
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M527 said:
I just feel like such a failure in life... I just bombed my Accuplacer test for college. My sister in law that i live with is telling me that I shouldn't even go now because ill owe back tons of money to financial aid since I have to be put in a elementary math class. And my other sister in law says that's not true at all. So I don't even know what to do anymore. I wanna do Fitness management BADLY but the sister in law that I live with says that i won't have any jobs and that ill be broke. I'm just lost I can't hear what God wants from me & I don't trust anyone's advice in my family anymore. I just wish my father was still hear I trusted his advice... Today would of been his 58th birthday you know. 5/17/55---12/14/09
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You're not a failure at life! You just had a setback in school. I'm sorry your dad isn't around anymore, but I recommend you trust in your Father in heaven. Read the word of God and pray to him. You will find peace in the midst of your trouble. Things will work out in the long run. Sometimes we can't see what's happening, and we just have to trust that God is in control. God is "the One Who is operating all in accord with the counsel of His will." (Ephesians 1:11)


"Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, And do not lean to your own understanding." (Proverbs 3:5)
 
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I didn't see that you are 14! What a wonderful age. Please pretend you are Sophia Loren. If you don't know about her, get an old movie of hers, any one. When she was 14, she was really an outcast in her town, without a father. She was gangly, and she thought she was ugly. A failure. Her Mom told her to pretend she was a princess, to walk like one, move like one, be one. This ugly, gangly outcast was accepted as a model. Never let a failure thought into your head, God made you a princess and God has more authority than any relative you could ever have.
 
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RedTent said:
I didn't see that you are 14! What a wonderful age. Please pretend you are Sophia Loren. If you don't know about her, get an old movie of hers, any one. When she was 14, she was really an outcast in her town, without a father. She was gangly, and she thought she was ugly. A failure. Her Mom told her to pretend she was a princess, to walk like one, move like one, be one. This ugly, gangly outcast was accepted as a model. Never let a failure thought into your head, God made you a princess and God has more authority than any relative you could ever have.
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Those are sweet words, sister. Sophia may have been an ugly duckling, but she turned into a beautiful swan.
 
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i know a lot of students who don't do well the first time they take a test or try to learn a subject.

sometimes it takes them longer to understand a concept before "getting it" but the light bulb moments when they do, makes teaching worthwhile.

I think you should go to college and try your best. the difference between those who succeed and those who don't isn't their level of intelligence or how quickly they pick up a concept.

I've had a lot of really smart kids make really dumb mistakes and end up in jail, but I'm hoping and praying that they will realize their mistakes and turn their lives around.

The people I know from high school who made something of their lives were not always the A students but they were determined to learn even if it took them longer. they were willing to be tutored for hours to understand a concept. sometimes they spent twice as much time study as those who just "got" it and made A without studying. Most of them have wonderful lives and jobs because when it comes to the work force its not about just knowledge but your character. your drive to learn, your willingness to do what it takes to make it happens. "it" is anything you put your mind to: job, task, class, etc.

You may have not done as well at some things but you have not failed unless you give up on yourself and your dreams.

YOU have to CHOOSE to be a Failure. Please don't give up on yourself. You are young and you may change your mind on your career but remember that God loves you and as long as you walk with His Holy Spirit, then you can never be a failure but always a beloved child of God.

I'm sorry about your dad and your mom. I would suggest finding a job and moving out if possible. Don't worry about the debt because once you get your degree you can pay it off. plus there are scholarships and grants that could help as well. If you get to know some people on campus you might be able to get a work study job.

God bless, and I'll keep you in my prayers.
 
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@RedTent lol I am actually 18 years old on May 27th I will be 19 years old where are you guys getting 14 from???
 
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