Is being a submissive wife really taboo?

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SirsSubmissiveWife

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I've gotten the gasp and eye roll from pretty much every person I have this conversation with (Christian or not) when I say I am a submissive wife to my Master (husband). The truth is I have always had a submissive type of personality and spirit. I do my best everyday to submit to God and my Husband.
This means, I wake up and do my daily devotional and pray, I then kiss Master awake and make food while He chooses our clothes for the day. I sometimes will draw Him a shower then clean the house. It is these things, but mostly it is about listening to Him if He tells me no for something I trust that He has my best interest in mind. This is a rare occurrence though. Being a submissive wife to me is also not arguing withMaster if iI don't like something. There are times where He will for instance leave clothes about the house instead of putting them in the basket, instead of arguing I simply ask "I know you work a lot to give me and us a good life and home and you're tired at night but next time can you please put your clothes in the basket?" And He apologizes and picks up His own mess.

It is about trust, love and honesty. I don't understand why some people think that women being this way is somehow wrong.
 
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You can only serve one master. So, if your husband is your master, what role does Christ play?

Honestly, this sounds a bit trollish to me. If it isn't, consider the master thing. No man should be your master. Ever. Enough said.
 
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SirsSubmissiveWife said:
I've gotten the gasp and eye roll from pretty much every person I have this conversation with (Christian or not) when I say I am a submissive wife to my Master (husband). The truth is I have always had a submissive type of personality and spirit. I do my best everyday to submit to God and my Husband.
This means, I wake up and do my daily devotional and pray, I then kiss Master awake and make food while He chooses our clothes for the day. I sometimes will draw Him a shower then clean the house. It is these things, but mostly it is about listening to Him if He tells me no for something I trust that He has my best interest in mind. This is a rare occurrence though. Being a submissive wife to me is also not arguing withMaster if iI don't like something. There are times where He will for instance leave clothes about the house instead of putting them in the basket, instead of arguing I simply ask "I know you work a lot to give me and us a good life and home and you're tired at night but next time can you please put your clothes in the basket?" And He apologizes and picks up His own mess.

It is about trust, love and honesty. I don't understand why some people think that women being this way is somehow wrong.
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This is depressing. Christ is your Master and He should be the only person who's given capital letters where you normally wouldn't place them in a sentence.
 
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A troll because I have a different belief than you? And I have considered it. God is my Master, but I hold my husband in the same regard. I respect Him just as much and love Him just as much.
 
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A troll because I have a different belief than you? And I have considered it. God is my Master, but I hold my husband in the same regard. I respect Him just as much and love Him just as much.
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Well...I hope he lives up to your expectations.....He'll be the first in history....whose name isn't Jesus....Is his name Jesus?
 
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SirsSubmissiveWife said:
A troll because I have a different belief than you? And I have considered it. God is my Master, but I hold my husband in the same regard. I respect Him just as much and love Him just as much.
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That's not very biblical, that's extra-biblical. People rave on about the evils of the patriarchy and that annoys the crap out of me, but it sounds like the patriarchy has won out in your part of the world (if this is true, which is doubtful).
 
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SirsSubmissiveWife said:
I've gotten the gasp and eye roll from pretty much every person I have this conversation with (Christian or not) when I say I am a submissive wife to my Master (husband). The truth is I have always had a submissive type of personality and spirit. I do my best everyday to submit to God and my Husband.
This means, I wake up and do my daily devotional and pray, I then kiss Master awake and make food while He chooses our clothes for the day. I sometimes will draw Him a shower then clean the house. It is these things, but mostly it is about listening to Him if He tells me no for something I trust that He has my best interest in mind. This is a rare occurrence though. Being a submissive wife to me is also not arguing withMaster if iI don't like something. There are times where He will for instance leave clothes about the house instead of putting them in the basket, instead of arguing I simply ask "I know you work a lot to give me and us a good life and home and you're tired at night but next time can you please put your clothes in the basket?" And He apologizes and picks up His own mess.

It is about trust, love and honesty. I don't understand why some people think that women being this way is somehow wrong.
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For my husband and I, we are both submissive to the same Master---Jesus.
 
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There's a difference between wanting to and being made to

If you're truely happy, god bless you
 
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SirsSubmissiveWife said:
A troll because I have a different belief than you? And I have considered it. God is my Master, but I hold my husband in the same regard. I respect Him just as much and love Him just as much.
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I didn't call you a troll. I said the post seemed trollish.

Read the Bible. The Word of God specifically says that you can't serve two masters, because you'll hate one and love the other. The Word of God also says that anyone who loves husband more than Christ is not worthy of Christ. So, take from that what you will.

On a side note, when someone writes in a fighting tone as you do, I find it very, very hard to believe the whole submissive bit. So, you're willing to bow and scrape to your husband and call him master and fight everyone else? Fishy, yes?
 
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Tintin said:
That's not very biblical, that's extra-biblical. People rave on about the evils of the patriarchy and that annoys the crap out of me, but it sounds like the patriarchy has won out in your part of the world (if this is true, which is doubtful).
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Because I hold my "Husband" if that's a more acceptable term for you, in the same respect as God, somehow this is a bad thing? Yes God comes first in everything I do. But, I will listen to my Husband before anyone else (until the day Jesus returns that is) how is aspiring to be the best wife I can be, a bad thing?
 
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mystdancer50 said:
I didn't call you a troll. I said the post seemed trollish.

Read the Bible. The Word of God specifically says that you can't serve two masters, because you'll hate one and love the other. The Word of God also says that anyone who loves husband more than Christ is not worthy of Christ. So, take from that what you will.

On a side note, when someone writes in a fighting tone as you do, I find it very, very hard to believe the whole submissive bit. So, you're willing to bow and scrape to your husband and call him master and fight everyone else? Fishy, yes?
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I am not trying to come off as fighting, I'm genuinely curious about why you all seem to be attacking me for asking a simple question. That's all I did and then I get attacked.
 
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SirsSubmissiveWife said:
Because I hold my "Husband" if that's a more acceptable term for you, in the same respect as God, somehow this is a bad thing? Yes God comes first in everything I do. But, I will listen to my Husband before anyone else (until the day Jesus returns that is) how is aspiring to be the best wife I can be, a bad thing?
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Sweet pea, me too. I think you need to study your role as a wife. The role of your husband and the family.
Yes he's your spiritual leader, we are to be helpmeets for them, but if you raise he to the level of God. That's idolatry. God is first, husband, kids, home :)
 
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i think we're all thrown off by the term "master" in reference to your husband. also the capitalizing "him/he"

well, at least that's what's throwing me off.
 
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melita916 said:
i think we're all thrown off by the term "master" in reference to your husband. also the capitalizing "him/he"

well, at least that's what's throwing me off.
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I need duct tape to refrain from a movie reference,
 
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Rosesrock said:
Sweet pea, me too. I think you need to study your role as a wife. The role of your husband and the family.
Yes he's your spiritual leader, we are to be helpmeets for them, but if you raise he to the level of God. That's idolatry. God is first, husband, kids, home :)
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For everyone's information, "helpmeet" simply means an equal that helps. As for a Christian husband and wife who have obeyed God and not married unequally, there is no need for a spiritual "leader", for both are the spiritual leaders in the home.
 
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FancyNancy said:
For everyone's information, "helpmeet" simply means an equal that helps. As for a Christian husband and wife who have obeyed God and not married unequally, there is no need for a spiritual "leader", for both are the spiritual leaders in the home.
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Nope sorry, i respectfully disagree. Hub is the spiritual leader of the home, God made adam first, then Eve from his side.
 
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Nope sorry, i respectfully disagree. Hub is the spiritual leader of the home, God made adam first, then Eve from his side.
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Many excellent godly marriages have both equal partners as spiritual leaders in the home. Adam and Eve, before the fall were equal in all ways. Jesus Christ, the great Equalizer, brings this about in a marriage where He is Lord.
 
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FancyNancy said:
Many excellent godly marriages have both equal partners as spiritual leaders in the home. Adam and Eve, before the fall were equal in all ways. Jesus Christ, the great Equalizer, brings this about in a marriage where He is Lord.
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Im sure many unbelieving homes are happy with their set up too. Im only interested in what God says about my family's role and the bible clearly puts man over women for many awesome reasons. Im not hete to argue,,,,geez i knew i should have changed my sig to..we can agree to disagree
 
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FancyNancy said:
Many excellent godly marriages have both equal partners as spiritual leaders in the home. Adam and Eve, before the fall were equal in all ways. Jesus Christ, the great Equalizer, brings this about in a marriage where He is Lord.
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Adam and Eve were not equal before the Fall. Adam was made first, Eve was made from the rib of Adam as a helper.

But for Adam[f] no suitable helper was found. 21 So the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs[g] and then closed up the place with flesh. 22 Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib[h] he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man.
23 The man said,
“This is now bone of my bones
and flesh of my flesh;
she shall be called ‘woman,’
for she was taken out of man.”

24 That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.
25 Adam and his wife were both naked, and they felt no shame.
 
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Before the fall, all was perfect and working well. Both husband and wife worked together equally, shoulder to shoulder, without a hitch.
 
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