Is looking at porn cheating?

[tannerbrody]

Tell her to get off her high horse. Online porn generates more $$$ than all professional sports combined. That statistic alone should tell you that more than likely your own husband is also "doing the deed", whether you know about it or not. Yes Jesus said not to look at other women with lustful thoughts, but he probably also would want us to stop playing video games, watching so much tv, and to start counting our calories. Trust me on this honey, you wouldn't want to be married to a man who didn't ocassionaly have "lustful thoughts about women." All men fantasize, and it's better he explore those urges at home than pulling a Josh Dugger and finding him at a strip club or with a prostitute. Masturbation has been around since the beginning of time, and so has porn (just google the Venus dolls from 2300 b.c.). If that's cheating, than 90% of men (and many women) are guilty as charged.

 

[JosephsDreams]

Tell her to get off her high horse. Online porn generates more $$$ than all professional sports combined. That statistic alone should tell you that more than likely your own husband is also "doing the deed", whether you know about it or not. Yes Jesus said not to look at other women with lustful thoughts, but he probably also would want us to stop playing video games, watching so much tv, and to start counting our calories. Trust me on this honey, you wouldn't want to be married to a man who didn't ocassionaly have "lustful thoughts about women." All men fantasize, and it's better he explore those urges at home than pulling a Josh Dugger and finding him at a strip club or with a prostitute. Masturbation has been around since the beginning of time, and so has porn (just google the Venus dolls from 2300 b.c.). If that's cheating, than 90% of men (and many women) are guilty as charged.

Your young age is outing your ignorance. I don't mean that disrespectfully.
Porn is sin. Looking at porn is cheating. Having a desire for a woman does not mean it is all right to view porn. Porn is from the pits of hell.
It is disruptive and evil, and demeaning to not only woman but men too. Sex was designed by our creator as a expression of love. Porn is mutual masturbation.
It may be fine for a married couple to do certain things that do not defile the marriage bed, and to have fun, but once the focus is taken off the love of each other, the selflessness, then it is a problem.
It is telling that most woman are uncomfortable with their men viewing porn. If that was the only reason, that would be sufficient, but there is a lot more to it then that.

 

[Carl321]

TannerBrody: It doesn't matter if everyone in the world is viewing porn and it grosses more money than all other companies combined Porn is of devil and is very wicked you seem to be under the impression that since so many people view it that it has to be alright (wrong) the overwhelming majority of people are going to Hell.

 

[Chuckt]

My wife and I vowed at our marriage to love each other above all others.
I think if you are watching others like that, you aren't loving each other above all others.

 

[AmberJeanetteGardner]

Matthew 5:28 But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.

 

[tanya8585]

Sin is a matter of the heart. If in his heart he's lusting and coveting another woman, according to the Bible, yes it is cheating. I've been in a similar situation and it felt to me like I was being cheated on. I was so upset with him! On the other hand, it's not something that should be used as reason to walk out on the marriage. Perhaps if he was addicted and not willing to change after we've talked about it, went to counseling and all, I imagine that would be frustrating. Even when a lover or spouse cheats, it doesn't have to end in separation or divorce as all of us sin and depend on the grace of God.
I hope your friend and her husband were able to come to the best resolution.

 

[tanya8585]

I agree tannerbrody... It is in men's and women's nature to lust, just as wanting love, wanting enjoyment, belongingness, and gratification. While I would be upset that my husband would have watched porn, I would be a hypocrite if I said I never looked at another man and lusted in my heart so therefore cheated too. Likewise, women are everywhere and it is very unlikely that he never looked at another woman and lusted in his heart. Its our individual responsibility to rely on God's grace and be reminded of salvation that came through his son, ask forgiveness and move on because if you value your spouse and marriage, you wouldn't want those thoughts to consume you. You'll need God's strength and wisdom for that.
I think women need to be real. Women may not watch porn as much as men or differing sexual behaviors than men, being emotional creatures, it's easy for our minds to venture treacherous places, even without viewing porn.

 

[_daphne]

Yes it is!

 

[ggs7]

scripture says
Mat 5:27 You have heard that it was said to the ancients, "You shall not commit adultery."
Mat 5:28 But I say to you that whoever looks on a woman to lust after her has already committed adultery with her in his heart.
hope this helps