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Natural4us

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What does a christain woman do when after 16 years her husband converts to islam and ask for a second wife to make children because we dont have any chlldren.
 
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Singer4Christ

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A christian woman in that situation would have to go against it. The Bible says we should obey our husbands, but that we should obey them WITHIN the word of God. The woman should fast and pray that her husband changes his mind and that he finds his way back to God.
 
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unclefester

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What does a christain woman do when after 16 years her husband converts to islam and ask for a second wife to make children because we dont have any chlldren.

Do you own a cast iron frying pan ? :)
 
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Aqua_Girl09

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. . . . . .I'd calmly say no, and if he DARED even THINK about THINKING about even LOOKING at another girl, I'd chase her away like a mother chihuahua!

And keep praying for him. show him Jesus through your life. Show him what the true God is all about. ^_^.
 

GOD_IS_LOVE

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Sounds like there are some deep issues here. Was he a Christian before? Did you previously settle the issue of not having children somehow? Did you discuss adoption? What was his standing point on this? It might be that the desire for children could be the reason behind all this.
 

Lucy68

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Wow, that's certainly a bombshell...so sorry you're going through this! If this was my husband I would affirm the biblical teachings on marriage...and tell him that I could not live in such a situation. I'm not talking about divorce yet....God may be working on him and patience is good. But I certainly could not, in good conscience, live in a household that was blatantly against God's Word.

There are other ways of having children without going against God's Word. Praying for you sister, that the Spirit will lead him back into the light.
 
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surrenderedheart

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Lucy68 took the words right outta my mouth...:)
I would walk away before I would share my husband with another woman.
 
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shekaniah

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I will pray for you and your husband.
Here is a few verses I would be claiming for his life.
Love and blessings, Shekaniah

Isaiah 55:11
So shall my word be that goes forth out of my mouth: it shall not return unto me void, but it shall accomplish that which I please, and it shall prosper in the thing for which I sent it.

Dueteronomy 32:2
Let my teaching fall like rain and my words descend like dew, like showers on new grass, like abundant rain on tender plants.
 
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needmesomejesus

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After exhausting every other option, if he is still standing strong with Islam and wanting another wife, I'd go the route of separating. Because that's not a good situation for you.
 
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BrittanyJones

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Wow, this is the second time on CC I've been so very shocked by what someone was dealing with. *hugs* PRAYER! God is with you!!

1 John 5:14-15
And this is the confidence that we have toward him, that if we ask anything according to his will he hears us. And if we know that he hears us in whatever we ask, we know that we have the requests that we have asked of him.

John 15:7
If you abide in me, and my words abide in you, ask whatever you wish, and it will be done for you.

Mark 11:24
Therefore I tell you, whatever you ask in prayer, believe that you have received it, and it will be yours.

Matthew 7:7
“Ask, and it will be given to you; seek, and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you.
 
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isaria

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Depends on who you are and what you feel about it in all aspects and also depends on who the woman is.
She may be a horror who abuses you and is jealous and who developes behaviours so she should be in jail or it could be someone respectable to you who is sincere and someone you can like.

I heard bad stories of breeding , bad breeding going on for money where a woman calculated and planned so she would make money and get such position which calculated theft on her part.


Muslims let woman keep there own money.
So , this other woman could legally not demand or expect half of what you own or make if you make more money than her.
Also if you diverse you get to keep everything.
However it can be very difficult for a muslim woman to diverse is what I hear.
Unless its scam, adultry or criminality etc behind it that is.

Muslims as mormons and amish and similar seem to believe more in the old testament.
Pray five times a day and pray before making love.

Has he already met the woman?

Does that mean he has cheated on you?

Or does he want to find a woman to have children with?

In a culture I heard of they had a woman top wife whom was mother of all children but she was not one to give birth to them.
Legally they were all her children, buuuut other womans bodies gave birth to them.
They were a tip of mother but legally not theeee mother.
She worked and mothered through there bodies, using there bodies.

You are the one who best can answer the question as to what you are ok with.

Would you all be living together or would he spend a day here and a day there and then theres "double dipping" and hygien and disease to think of.



Even though you known him 16 years his new woman may have a bad effect on him.
Maybe she would lead him to betray you or use you or do bad things to you.
Heard of where a couple were merely using the other woman to take her money and other things and basicly locked her up and isolated her while they were living wonderful life on what belonged to her.

Maybe you could be happy with such an arrangement , if you got to approve of whom and make a prenuptual agreement on the rules and probably add , "i get a divorse no questions asked whenever i want".
Good to have something fall on , legally.

Also, would you be mother of child or what is his thoughts?

I heard of one person whom cheated on his wife with a very bad person whom wanted there money and was very bad behaved to the wife yet he thought he could marry her and have two wives as a solution.
The first wife ended up divorsing him because the other woman was so awful and was even doing illegal things to her.

Difficult for anyone advise you unless they know both of you and the situation.

Would you stay christian?

Muslims may marry christian woman.

If he already has met someone then how did they meet?

One would have to know the situation, whom involved and so forth.

I always say if I marry I want a prenuptual agreement, like a deal with the rules also made up before hand.

State clearly , what are you ok with and what are you not ok with.
What do you want and what is not acceptable.


If you chose to accept this then you should take power to be a bit bossy and state what you expect so things are clear and that you legally have right to leave if this is not being met.

Nothing one rushes into.

Maybe you can not have children with your body but theres many ways to have children.

I heard many muslim cultures the first wife decides or has the right of choice what other wives she would accept.
If she says no then he does not take another wife or that she may approve of or disapprove of someone whom has bad behaviours .


They say the first wife is to be respected and treated with respect not misstreated du to jealousy.


I dont know so much of your situation but would advise you to be careful and seek advice and talk with those whom know you well.
 
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isaria

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Muslims beleive in old testament and the Holy Quran.
I am currently reading the Holy Quran and it has a deeper meaning that is difficult for people understand at first perhaps.
I love the Holy Quran.
Think they beleive along with others such as mentioned in davinci code that bible has been changed to suit wants of people or leaders and political and personal agenda.Some parts removed and some new materia added that perhaps was not original so to say.


Have heard of people who do live happy in such arrangements but it depends on who you are and what you want and will and level you are on with each other.
Ofcourse you would want to love each other for how horrid if he married a enemy of yours who has been threatening kill you and abused and stealing etc ofcourse you would not want accept such a marriage.
Or if he had met someone else and you were horrid to her and said she could not marry him if he with someone treat her in such ways and he need diverse that is if you were a criminal or bully or so forth.Perhaps slandered her.Not that you would but it has happened, these things.

But have seen marriages work with beautiful respect and love.
Like a united body.


If he already has met her then how did they meet and was he cheating.
If he wants to meet another woman to have children with then its important you like each other.
That she is of good moral character so you do not have to fear her like that movie woman seeking where she advertises for flatmate who then ends up wanting to be her.

She starts dressing like her, cuts and colours her hair the same, starts using her name and seduces her man who does not want her.
She try take over her identity instead of having her own and in the end all three of them fight viciously.Think was Bridget Fonda her name is was in that film.
Unless I got names puzzled up.
The real her and her man survived and the one try steal her identity and life ended up dieing.
Ofcourse they were very injured.Much action.
Her security guard started calling the flatmate by her name and that was not a jolly thing for her.


You best know situation and who you are in your nature and whom he is and then what you can accept or not.

But a prenuptual agreement and legal arrangements would be advisable.

Best wishes to you.


You could even be very happy with such a thing, happier than ever.
 
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What does a christain woman do when after 16 years her husband converts to islam and ask for a second wife to make children because we dont have any chlldren.

I'd say introduce him to some more evengelical Christian polygamous groups (try Biblical Families.org • Index for a start) or a Messianic denomination that allows it (Nazarine Yisrealite Allince comes to mine). After that pick out one of your single freinds that you get along with and suggest her.

If it all works you you get a good freind live in and he gets to fulfil his natural desire for children. Her children will be like your own children too, so you get to have them and be a parent to them too.

Christ is the most important thing, and he has not forbidden your husband another but he HAS required him to Love you. If this is something you can flourish with, you can embrace a woman around the house and children that are his and hers and yours then you can all enjoy the fruits of such a setup. And if you have a hand in picking her odds are she'll side with you on things as often or more than with him :)

Life is about Christ, and keeping him with Christ is the most crucial thing. Islam has many good points, but it does not have the Son of God.
 
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Muslims beleive in old testament and the Holy Quran.
I am currently reading the Holy Quran and it has a deeper meaning that is difficult for people understand at first perhaps.
I love the Holy Quran.
The Quran contradicts the Word of God and in my opinion should never be called holy by any Christian.
Do you believe that God and Allah are the same?

In Christ, 1Christianwarrior316
 
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isaria

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In my studies of Islam as a person they have said they beleive in same God as christians but not as trinity , as one and Jesus is also called Isa to them and they beleive something happened with his brother who looks like him and betrayed him.He was mistaken for jesus.
Jesus is a holy prophet to muslims but they do not concider him son of God.


They beleive in old testament.


As a person I can not say so much about it.


I can not articulate or express it in writing here and many seem have a hostility towards different religions or versions of christianity and so forth.
Instead of acceptance and mutual respect in multicultural society there sometimes a hate towards a religious group or individual for beleiving in such.



I am reading Holy Quran at moment.
It is Holy if one understands it, its very sacred.


Have also read a bit about scientologists who have underground churches and beleive in alien and have clearings and audititing etc.
 
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psychomom

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What does a christain woman do when after 16 years her husband converts to islam and ask for a second wife to make children because we dont have any chlldren.
My apologies, dear one.
I don't mean to make light of your dilemma. :(

As always, Lucy gave you some pretty great advice. (she's really good at that) :)
I wish I had a wonderful answer for you,
but please be assured you're in my prayers today. ♥
I can't imagine the pain this must be causing you.

love,
ellie
 
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What does a christain woman do when after 16 years her husband converts to islam and ask for a second wife to make children because we dont have any chlldren.
I don’t think that’s legal in the USA. If he cheats on you, you can divorce him.
 
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Timothy3_16

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I posted earlier about what I knew about the biblical perspective of adultery, divorce, marriage; but I did not mention a possible answer to part of your problem.
Adoption, or artificial insemination.
Adoption; allow and help your husband choose a child and raise them as he wishes. A fine christian conduct by you will be a clear and loud testament to your faith here.
Artificial Insemination; Doctors can help his sperm and your egg meet and place it within you. YOU SHOULD TALK TO FERTILITY EXPERTS ABOUT THIS OPTION. Also under this option there is the possibility that you use a surrogate womb to carry your child. The major advantage of these options is it does not require your husband to have sex with anyone else.