Marriage Question.

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P1LGR1M

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I have tried to spice things up, even took her on a 2 week vacation to Ireland. Still nothing. It's like she don't love me any longer. She really hasnt spoke. To me the last couple of days it's like I done even exist anymore.
Are you both professing Christians?

God bless.
 
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MollyConnor

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I have tried to spice things up, even took her on a 2 week vacation to Ireland. Still nothing. It's like she don't love me any longer. She really hasnt spoke. To me the last couple of days it's like I done even exist anymore.
Are you sure she has not cheated? It seems like that is on her mind, unfortunately. Dang, the only thing I can tell you is to pray about it. I'm so sorry, brother!

Also, what was her point in telling you that? So she doesn't find you attractive...was there a reason for her to tell you? Does she want you to change or what?

I mean if I was married but wasn't physically attracted to my husband, I don't think I would tell him that. It's rude. I think if someone really loves someone, they would be willing to accept them no matter what. This could be if the person is fat, ugly, too skinny, full of acne, bald, short, hairy back, scarred...whatever. Love is pretty much blind.

I'm not saying that looks don't matter in a relationship, sure they do, but it shouldn't come first. Jesus should and I don't think your wife knows very much about Him. Again, I'm sorry. :(
 
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P1LGR1M

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Are you sure she has not cheated? It seems like that is on her mind, unfortunately. Dang, the only thing I can tell you is to pray about it. I'm so sorry, brother!

Also, what was her point in telling you that? So she doesn't find you attractive...was there a reason for her to tell you? Does she want you to change or what?

I mean if I was married but wasn't physically attracted to my husband, I don't think I would tell him that. It's rude. I think if someone really loves someone, they would be willing to accept them no matter what. This could be if the person is fat, ugly, too skinny, full of acne, bald, short, hairy back, scarred...whatever. Love is pretty much blind.

I'm not saying that looks don't matter in a relationship, sure they do, but it shouldn't come first. Jesus should and I don't think your wife knows very much about Him. Again, I'm sorry. :(

From a Biblical view her lust for another man constitutes adultery.


God bless.
 

Shawn2516

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So basically she was a broken woman and no one treated her right. That signals to me she was abused by men. Then you came along and fixed her.. and now she is repaying your help by sleeping with a stranger.

What a wonderful human being she is.....
 
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Starsdance

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#25
Oh, she just wants flesh things, excluding holy spirit fruit?
 

Angela53510

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She sounds very shallow to me, if what you say is true. Marriage is about a relationship. And that will last long after the attractiveness has gone. Some old couples actually die of a broken heart when their spouse dies. My great aunt and great uncle had that happen.

They were not Christians, but they were best friends and faithful to death. Even a non-Christian can live the way God wants us to in a marriage.

Are there specific things she does not like about your appearance? Or is she just using it as an excuse? She sounds like she is all about thrills and chills, instead of building a life and a marriage together.

I will pray for you. And I would tell you to pray for her, and to draw closer to God through reading the Bible and prayer. And I am sorry you are hurting so badly. It must be horrible for the love of your life to tell you she doesn't love you any more. There are so many women who would love to have a man who treats them right. I'm sorry your wife does not seem to be one of them.
 
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Sirk

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#27
Should a wife be Physically and Sexually attracted to her husband to keep the marriage alive?

My wife came to me the other day, she wanted to tell me that I was not attractive to her physically and sexually since just before we got married 2 years ago. Also there was a new guy on the police force she works at the she is attracted to, but she has not cheated on me.


She said she loves me, but said i will probably never be attractive to her and she can't change that.


I told her that's not the way that God planned our marriage to be. She said the only reason she married me is because I treated her right.


Is this right for me to stay in this marriage if i will never be attractive to her and she will never change.
Your wife sounds like she is a vain person. I'm guessing that there is no heart to heart connection between you two...that there isn't a bank full if shared experiences and fun to draw from to facilitate that heart to heart connection.