Marriage

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TashMeyer76

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A good friend shared this with me - what an eye opener.

[video=youtube;lgfaB2wEwLM]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lgfaB2wEwLM[/video]
 

presidente

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Do you have to read the book to get what he's saying? Or maybe you have to have a certain set of experiences. Much of this seemed to be an ad for the concept of boundaries without explaining it. Does anyone really have a problem figuring out whose feelings are whose in a marriage? Why do I need to learn about boundaries to figure that out? For the most part, I can tell, though I might sense my wife's emotions or feel them, and vice versa, generally I know when I feel something or when she does. It's hard to get the guy's point.

Maybe there is some kind of workbook to go with this. The commentator's comments about the characters in the video did not seem justified based on what little we saw of the clip.
 
Mar 5, 2014
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Yes presidente. This is a type of introduction. There is an entire 'movement' (sort of) behind this. It combines some good (good) elements of what psychologists Cloud and Townsend have found helps relationships work. There are various books, videos etc. By them. Their website is Cloud Townsend Resources
 
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brokenclay

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Chip Ingram give Excellant insight into marriage and how to priirtize your life. Good for young people before they get married. And spouses who have moved from the way things were before the children came along.
 

John_agape

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When we marry we become one, but we are still two individuals.

Boundaries are essential in marriages. We are to develop and mature through our relationship, and that can only happen if we are free to be ourselves, and feel confident and safe to be ourselves. This can only happen if we have boundaries.

But I think boundaries are not only about our own having boundaries, but more in mutually respecting our each other's boundaries.
 

John_agape

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Feb 27, 2014
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That was gobbledygook =8>/ I mean that I think boundaries are not only about having our own boundaries, but more in mutually respecting each other's boundaries.
 

Lucy68

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Nice video clip! I've read the Boundaries book and got a lot of it. Stephanie's situation is similar to mine. Now that the children are grown, I would like to get a part time job but my husband doesn't want me to. He says it will add to his stress. But I think I really need to for my own 'mental health' ;). So I think I'm going to go job hunting anyway....after he's out of a crisis at work. I'll try to break it to him gently :).

Two people living as one is never easy. This is why we always hear 'marriage is work'. It is work....a good kind of work as long as we keep Christ in the middle of it.
 
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TashMeyer76

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Good input indeed. :)
 
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TashMeyer76

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Right there with you Lucy :) I mean in my case, I felt that a second part time job, even for 6 monts would help us out of a financial crisis, but he'll have nothing of it. In turn, the pressure builds and... well yeah. anyway, a lot of what I saw on this clip, I cud relate to.
 
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Yes you must have trust and learn to trust eachother, other wise moreover it won't work out. God bless-