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Hello. I'm new to this website. I hope I can find some guidance. Here goes:
My husband and I have been together for about six years, married 1 year. We have two kids together. A few months into our marriage I discovered that my husband cheated on me before we got married. About three years after we got together he exchanged text messages and photos with other women and eventually that led to him having sex with one girl (one girl that I know of). He's begged for my forgiveness, begged God for forgiveness, cried and vowed to do better by reframing from (in his words) "cursing our family's future by forsaking our marriage." I believe him. Even though I find it hard to trust him, I do believe that he is ready and willing to be the man for our family. Unfortunately, I almost feel as if the damage is done. I'm finding it hard to let go. I forgave him but there are some days where I find myself in tears because I am reminded of the pain I felt when I found out. When I found out, I didn't leave him. I did stop wearing my ring for a few weeks, packed my bags a couple times, but never left. Sometimes I feel as if I should have left. Nevertheless, I'm struggling to get back to my happy space with our marriage. I keep telling myself that time will make it better but sometimes I feel like this is how I'm going to feel for the rest of our marriage. I don't want to leave him. I love him. I'm just tired of feeling sad all the time. Maybe I'm scared to move on completely because I'm afraid of getting hurt again. I don't know.
Any advice?
My husband and I have been together for about six years, married 1 year. We have two kids together. A few months into our marriage I discovered that my husband cheated on me before we got married. About three years after we got together he exchanged text messages and photos with other women and eventually that led to him having sex with one girl (one girl that I know of). He's begged for my forgiveness, begged God for forgiveness, cried and vowed to do better by reframing from (in his words) "cursing our family's future by forsaking our marriage." I believe him. Even though I find it hard to trust him, I do believe that he is ready and willing to be the man for our family. Unfortunately, I almost feel as if the damage is done. I'm finding it hard to let go. I forgave him but there are some days where I find myself in tears because I am reminded of the pain I felt when I found out. When I found out, I didn't leave him. I did stop wearing my ring for a few weeks, packed my bags a couple times, but never left. Sometimes I feel as if I should have left. Nevertheless, I'm struggling to get back to my happy space with our marriage. I keep telling myself that time will make it better but sometimes I feel like this is how I'm going to feel for the rest of our marriage. I don't want to leave him. I love him. I'm just tired of feeling sad all the time. Maybe I'm scared to move on completely because I'm afraid of getting hurt again. I don't know.
Any advice?