hey I have been going through a lot with my husband lately , we both graduated from college not to long ago, we actually met in college ,he was perfect I never thought he could do something like this to me , we have a baby together she is a toddler, we had her actually before we got married, he asked me to marry him because he loves me and he wanted to be a real family, I wanted that as well so I was so happy and I said yes, so we ended up getting married , then he got a job offer so we moved to another state away from my family and friends, I did it because I love him and wanted to be with him, so about not even two months into the marriage when we moved out of state, I found out he was on dating apps, he was up there talking very sexual to different females , he said sorry and said he don't know why he did it and it wouldn't happened again, so I forgave him, then not too long after that I found him up there again , then he told me he just was talking nasty to these women but nothing more he was just bored , not a good excuse, so he deleted his dating app account right in front of me , so I felt he was genuine, so everything started to feel good like we were back to normal , but then I started to notice random numbers would text his phone , so I decided to investigate, so I would text the numbers and ask them did they know who he was, then I would tell them I was his wife and just wanted to know the truth, they were shocked and couldn't believe he was married with a baby they quickly apologized to me and would tell me everything, but at this time they told me they were not intimate with him physically , but he did try to see them on his lunch break at work, I always would confront my husband about the girls I found out about and he would just deny it ,he would promise me that he has changed and isn't interested in that life style no more, so I tried to work things out with him, only to find out it only got worse, so not to long ago we went to the state were we are from to visit family, while we where there I saw a text he sent to a girl from his phone , he had his phone in his hand I took it out of his hand and went outside he followed me and I called the number , a women answer the phone and I told her I was his wife she said I am so sorry I didn't know about you but I met him online and I haven't met him in person yet if that makes it any better, I didn't tell him what she said on the phone but he told me something totally different (he is a compulsive liar) This is when I felt like there is no hope my husband has a problem, on the way back to the new state that we are in we both had a really good conversation we both opened up and vented to each other about the situation he seemed so genuine that he hates putting me through this and he loves me and so much more, so I told myself maybe I could give him another chance because no one has told me he slept with them so I can kind of work with that, so hours later we pulled up to our house and he got a random text to his phone , I asked him who was of course he said he didn't know , he deleted the number out of his phone but I had already saved the number in my phone , so we called the women from his phone and he gave me the phone , I asked the lady who was she , then she said ask him who I am, and I said I am asking you because he said he doesn't know who you are, then she said well if that's what he said then ok , so after the phone call I kept thinking about that girl and I felt like I just wanted to know the truth, so the next day when my husband was at work I called the girl and apologized to her because I was a little rude because I was so frustrated she said its ok , then I said women to women I just want to know the truth no drama its not u its my husband, so she went ahead and told me that she had protected sex with him twice and she knew nothing about me or our baby, I was devastated ,hurt I felt betrayed ,I confronted him about it and he continued to deny it, we even called the girl back together and she stuck with her story, and he still would say she's lying I knew she wasn't, but I told him the only way I would stay is if he took a lie detective test and he agreed to, the next night we were outside talking and he broke down and told me that that girl was telling the truth and he told me he also slept with another girl before her, now we are newly weds to make it even worse, and we moved out of state like 2 weeks after we got married and this guy already cheated twice and he still be on dating sites, the other day another number text him I got in contact with the girl and she told me she was his girlfriend well at least he made her feel that way she said they haven't met yet but they were keeping in contact everyday during his work hours, as much as I want this marriage to work as much as I honor marriage I just am starting to lose hope I know for a fact he loves me but I don't think he's fully ready to give that temptation up, I've prayed I've waited I've tried and I just don't know what else to do , I want the best for us and our child but its just causing me to be stressed and depression
And stop letting him use you. I totally agree with kaylagrl's response. Pack some bags and leave him for now. Don't tell him where you are, or he'll show up at your door.