MY HUSBAND HAS NOT LEFT

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pearl777

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Thank you for you advise. He says he's not intimate with her put it's hard to believe. See my husband has ED I'm sure he doesn't want her to know that. I know how much medication he has left on his prescription because he's on my medical policy and I know the last count on how many pills were left. Now he may be oral with her that's the same to me I might be wrong. But he says he wants to be on his on he has always been with someone. I can understand and give him the benefit of the doubt. Thanks again and may God bless
 
blue_ladybug

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You can still get an STD even through oral sex, so I hope for your sake that you've been using protection with him. And also, men with ED are still capable of having sex.
 
Angela53510

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What does the Bible have to say about an adulterer? Because that is all that really counts, because it is God's Word for us today, not some prophecy by who knows who!

"You shall not commit adultery." Ex. 20:14

"He who commits adultery lacks sense; he who does it destroys himself." Prob. 6:32

"But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart." Matt 5:28

"Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous." Hebrews 13:4

"And I say to you: whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery.” Matt 19:9

"Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body." 1 Cor. 6:18

"For you may be sure of this, that everyone who is sexually immoral or impure, or who is covetous (that is, an idolater), has no inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and God." Eph. 5:5

There are a lot more verses. God really hates the adultery, and you have not said whether he is repented. However, keeping track of Viagra or Cilias pills really doesn't sound like a good way to know if he is cheating. You need to have a talk with him, and tell him to leave. I doubt at this point he is going to stop. Why should he, as Ladybug said, he seems to be having his cake and eating it too?

Do stop sleeping with him or even kissing him. And do get some counselling.

God bless!
 
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pearl777

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Please take note I choose to try to save my marriage if it's God's will. I will continue to pray I'm not waring against my husband but the spirit that's trying to take him out.
 
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At this point, your marriage is a sham. The only way to save it is for BOTH of you to get back right with God and get into some serious Christian counseling. Otherwise, there is nothing to save.
 
Dan58

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pearl777 said:
Good afternoon and Glory to our God. I was on this forum about a month ago talking about the affair my husband is having. He has not left the home yet . Would I be wrong to get a restraining order. He says he has no where to go. My concern is the hurt he still causes me when he comes home and want to be intimate with me. Would I be doing the wrong thing in the site of the Lord. I even still hurts so bad and when he leaves he kisses me goodbye. Do you think he's waring with his flesh knowing that intimacy with me is good in God's eye,but I don't need no soul ties if he's being intimate with her also That's not just going to work. I was prophesied to on Friday morning God said that I was in his way. To move out of his way. And it was not a kind voice that was used. I am a very obedient person and I Fear God. That's why I need you know if I should get the restraining order or not please help
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Restraining orders are usually limited to threats or exposure to potential violence, not a husband who kisses you goodbye every morning. You need to find out if he actually cheated on you sexually and whether its continuing? If he has ED and has denied it, I wouldn't jump to conclusions without evidence. As for God telling you that your in his way and to get out of his way, I'd question the angry voice you think is instructing you to do that. It sounds like you might be drawing some inaccurate conclusions? If he didn't actually commit adultery and has stopped seeing this woman, then your marriage might be mendable? jmo
 
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coby

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pearl777 said:
Please take note I choose to try to save my marriage if it's God's will. I will continue to pray I'm not waring against my husband but the spirit that's trying to take him out.
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That's great. Ask him to go to marriage counselling. My ex watched porn and I just kicked those demons out and it was gone, but he wanted to stop watching.
 
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pearl777

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I need to clear up what I said about the voice of God I don't want anyone to get it twisted it was with a stern voice. Please forgive me if I made it seem like God was angry with me not so.
 
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pearl777 said:
Good afternoon and Glory to our God. I was on this forum about a month ago talking about the affair my husband is having. He has not left the home yet . Would I be wrong to get a restraining order. He says he has no where to go. My concern is the hurt he still causes me when he comes home and want to be intimate with me. Would I be doing the wrong thing in the site of the Lord. I even still hurts so bad and when he leaves he kisses me goodbye. Do you think he's waring with his flesh knowing that intimacy with me is good in God's eye,but I don't need no soul ties if he's being intimate with her also That's not just going to work. I was prophesied to on Friday morning God said that I was in his way. To move out of his way. And it was not a kind voice that was used. I am a very obedient person and I Fear God. That's why I need you know if I should get the restraining order or not please help
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Three weeks ago you were talking about a friend catching your husband having coffee with a woman. That's much different than having an affair. Considering you don't yet know if he even had an affair, why would he leave and why do you think circumstances warrant a restraining order? Has he hit you? Has he threatened you? Has he put your life in danger? No? Well, okay then. He's certainly allowed to live in his own house.

And you? If he's giving you a kiss every morning, it's because you're kissin him back.

This is what you wrote last time:
pearl777 said:
Amen and thank you for the words of hope and encouragement. Most of all thank you for the Website you shared with me wow I've ordered 2 CD'S and will follow the advice given. Especially now we have never been apart for Any holidays I didn't even want to put my tree up he did go to the addict and get some of the items down. Today I have hope that we are one day closer to being what God has called us to be as 1.even though he was really mean this evening I know it was not him but the spirit that dwells in him. Thanks again in the sweet name of Jesus.
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You have hope the marriage works out. Considering there is no evidence you've dealt with what a friend saw three weeks ago, I suspect the marriage stays in status quo.

So, up to you to make a move to change stuff. I, personally, would start with the obvious question, "Who was that woman you had coffee with three weeks ago?"

Then again, I'm obviously not you. You seem to think if you ask enough people someone else will fix this for you.

What are YOU doing about any of this?
 
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blue_ladybug said:
​I have no bitterness or anger in me. Nor am I judging anyone. It just baffles me how all these people going through divorce, fail to see that they're being used and manipulated. I mean, it's fairly obvious really, from the descriptions given by these people. I speak from first hand experience on this, so I KNOW how it feels to be cheated on, to be a booty call, and made a fool of. And I forgave them all long ago. :) I'm sorry the truth comes across as judgement, because I truly don't intend it that way.. These people ask for advice and opinions, they receive it and most don't like what we tell them. That's not MY problem, it's theirs because they don't want to hear that they're being made to look like fools.
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You are fine, I would give the same advice. Candy coating things doesn't get the truth across. If somebody can't handle it then they made their choice and they suffer.
 
PennEd

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This whole question boils down to whether your husbands WANTS to repent to both you and God. I think you forgiving him is fine and maybe even the right thing to do, after all Jesus said that to even look at another woman with lust is adultery, and how many husbands can claim they NEVER did that,BUT he has to want to be the husband you desrve, and WANT to change his life.

I pray in Jesus name, that God's mighty hand will direct your marriage.
 
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pearl777

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This had become more of a headache than I thought. I an no fool I would not falsely accuse my husband of anything that I wasn't sure of. I have proof and he had admitted to the fact. Not that he has been physical with her but the proof is good enough. So to everyone who would like to respond. In so tired of the negative responses I pray through this that I will never try to lead anyone down the wrong path of giving them no hope. Thank you for all that tried to tell me what they would do and I really appreciate those that add spoke the word of God concerning my situation. Open rebuke is better than secret love.
 
Grady

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​sorry to hear about your situation pearl777, im praying
 
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pearl777

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I have also learned through this that you don't tell all your business to people that think you know nothing. I was asking for Godly counseling from people I thought loved God . I expect nothing more nothing less I'm just really surprised at my brothers and sisters on this thread.
 
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pearl777

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Thank you just your few words meant more than some of the long reply that showed no love.
 
Nautilus

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soul ties arent a real thing
 
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teamjesus2016

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Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. Keep your lives free from the love of money and be content with what you have, because God has said, “Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you.” So we say with confidence, “The Lord is my helper; I will not be afraid. What can man do to me?” Hebrews 13:4-6
 
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teamjesus2016

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God designed marriages to be forever. God said he hates divorce. God loves your husband be He hates the sin in your husbands life. It would not make sense to get a restraining order against your husband but you do have grounds to seperate maybe get into your own place until your husband comes to his senses. I understand how you feel I am a Christian who's husband is a nonbeliever. I am standing for my marriage and that's all you can do really. Pray and leave it in God's hands.
 
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Euphemia

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Dear Pearl, that message you got which was posing as prophecy was not prophetic. You are not standing in your husband's way in any way. He has already discovered the freedom of his own will and has used it against himself and you. According to the bible you do not have to reconcile with your husband, but you do have to forgive him and that is for your own sake and no one else's.

Think about this. You are doing yourself no favours by making it easy for this man to tread all over your heart if he is not repentant and wanting to really love you. Many men prove that the vows they made mean nothing to them. They abdicate their position before God and in the home. So, by abdicating, they themselves cancel the marriage contract already. It is your role now, under God to make a decision: do you want to reconcile and seek Christian counseling to achieve a whole and good marriage, or do you want to find wholeness in your own life as a woman unencumbered by a faithless husband?

No, your husband is actually standing in your way.


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Magenta

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Consumed said:
The bible is very clear that no sin is greater than another
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Jesus said, "... the one who handed me over to you is guilty of a greater sin."
 
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