my step mom hates me

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So, I went to church and talked to my pastor
(I also saw the counselor from my middle school which was cool)
And...?

I'm thinking you probably didn't lay it all out for him, but how did it go with as much as you did share?
 
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Yeah
He said he's always wiling to take me in and he can take my sins in as well but only until we find out another solution because he already has two kiddos...
So....
 
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In this case, her father is no prize. (And, Natania, I do understand you still love him, but liking him is optional.)
Yes, I still love him.
No I don't like him.
 
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Oh and then he got our church human resources person to talk to me
 
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Yeah
He said he's always wiling to take me in and he can take my sins in as well but only until we find out another solution because he already has two kiddos...
So....
Not sins, I meant to say sibs * oops :p
 
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Yeah
He said he's always wiling to take me in and he can take my sins in as well but only until we find out another solution because he already has two kiddos...
So....
Next question for him, "How about finding a long-term solution?"
 
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Next question for him, "How about finding a long-term solution?"
Yeah I know...
He said to keep in touch with him and we will work on trying to find a solution
 
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Yeah I know...
He said to keep in touch with him and we will work on trying to find a solution
Good. Keep asking. Because lots of people think if they're not being asked the problem resolved itself. (Especially when you're a pastor with lots of people having problems.)
 
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Good. Keep asking. Because lots of people think if they're not being asked the problem resolved itself. (Especially when you're a pastor with lots of people having problems.)
Ugh.... I hate asking....but okay....
 
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Yeah I know...
He said to keep in touch with him and we will work on trying to find a solution
Amen. All I can say to you is good on you. It is always hard to take that step and let others
get involved. There is no way you should be in the kind of situation you find yourself in, simply
because it takes away your childhood, and is way beyond the scope of a forum like this.

And out there in the Kingdom there are fantastic people with lots of love to give, to help meet
the needs you find yourself in and can make a real difference.

What is often missed is love and good heart can change things that look bad into a different place.
Jesus calls us to be open but also be wise. Wisdom in the kind of situation you are in is not to get
overly involved with one individual but share things with a team, so everyone becomes accountable.

God bless you, and may the Lord help light your path.
 
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Amen. All I can say to you is good on you. It is always hard to take that step and let others
get involved. There is no way you should be in the kind of situation you find yourself in, simply
because it takes away your childhood, and is way beyond the scope of a forum like this.

And out there in the Kingdom there are fantastic people with lots of love to give, to help meet
the needs you find yourself in and can make a real difference.

What is often missed is love and good heart can change things that look bad into a different place.
Jesus calls us to be open but also be wise. Wisdom in the kind of situation you are in is not to get
overly involved with one individual but share things with a team, so everyone becomes accountable.

God bless you, and may the Lord help light your path.
Yeah.......thank you
 

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Amen. All I can say to you is good on you. It is always hard to take that step and let others
get involved. There is no way you should be in the kind of situation you find yourself in, simply
because it takes away your childhood, and is way beyond the scope of a forum like this.

And out there in the Kingdom there are fantastic people with lots of love to give, to help meet
the needs you find yourself in and can make a real difference.

What is often missed is love and good heart can change things that look bad into a different place.
Jesus calls us to be open but also be wise. Wisdom in the kind of situation you are in is not to get
overly involved with one individual but share things with a team, so everyone becomes accountable.

God bless you, and may the Lord help light your path.
Prayer is not beyond the scope of 'a forum like this' and the Kingdom is right here. It's ok to speak your mind, but it must be said that you are not speaking for all of us. I don't dislike you as a person and I don't mean to hurt your feelings, but we do think differently on many things.
 
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Prayer is not beyond the scope of 'a forum like this' and the Kingdom is right here. It's ok to speak your mind, but it must be said that you are not speaking for all of us. I don't dislike you as a person and I don't mean to hurt your feelings, but we do think differently on many things.
I agree we are here to share and pray for each other and issues that are brought up.
And I only speak as it occurs to me, or as I see a situation.

Thank you for not wanting to hurt my feelings, but I come to cc largely because we do not
agree. It would be strange if how I express things chimes with everyone or sometimes anyone.

There are some here who certainly would approve of only one type of expression or way of
behaving. And if you do not fall into their camp, you are somewhere else.

I am not sure this forum works on the basis of liking "a person", in a christian sense we are called
to love people, from our hearts. So brother, thankyou for your expressions, God bless you.
 
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He said he's always wiling to take me in and he can take my sins in as well but only until we find out another solution because he already has two kiddos...
So....
Sounds a great support. I hope your guardians will agree.

What type of church is it?
 
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Sounds a great support. I hope your guardians will agree.

What type of church is it?
That's the problem....
I am 99% sure my parents won't agree...
It's a non-denominational church
 
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I've been a stepmom. It isn't easy, but it isn't all ur fault. Her darlings may not do any right but believe it when u r never completely wrong.She may have economic/social pressures or just be totally wrong.But remember this: u only have a few years left b4 driving, higher education and other social options. Try 2 focus on those and leave her 2 wotever games that she may be playing!
 
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You are very mature and respectable for staying in this for your siblings ( mine tried to put sins too??????). You are like those in the roll call of faith at the end of Hebrews 11...they would not accept deliverance, to receive a greater resurrection. Good job, keep abiding in Him. You are bearing fruits that are manifesting that you are.

If we wait on Him for His deliverance it will be complete and better than you thought. Don't get hasty or sick of it. Galatians 6, be not weary in well doing, for we shall reap if, we don't lose heart. ????????????
 
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I've been a stepmom. It isn't easy, but it isn't all ur fault. Her darlings may not do any right but believe it when u r never completely wrong.She may have economic/social pressures or just be totally wrong.But remember this: u only have a few years left b4 driving, higher education and other social options. Try 2 focus on those and leave her 2 wotever games that she may be playing!
I can't imagine it would be easy....
I know..
 
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You are very mature and respectable for staying in this for your siblings ( mine tried to put sins too������). You are like those in the roll call of faith at the end of Hebrews 11...they would not accept deliverance, to receive a greater resurrection. Good job, keep abiding in Him. You are bearing fruits that are manifesting that you are.

If we wait on Him for His deliverance it will be complete and better than you thought. Don't get hasty or sick of it. Galatians 6, be not weary in well doing, for we shall reap if, we don't lose heart. ������������
Really?..thank you!