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My husband and I have been together for almost 10 years, we have 2 children and have divorced and now are trying to work it out again. I struggle at times with feeling like the children and I are not a priority and at time like we get in the way of his life. When he takes time and dedicated it to us he is amazing. We both work a lot and he usually only has one day off. At times after work he hangs out with the guys ( fishing, gym, bating cages, bar). I don't mind once in a while but it seems like almost everyday this week. I am in the military so my work schedule isn't much better but when I get of work I stress about getting the kids on Time, homework, dinner, baths, etc... It would be nice to feel like I had help with these duties when he is here its hard to talk to him because he is always on his phone ( games) I don't know if I am being too needy and I try to be as patient as I can, but I feel very lonely and unimportant. I don't nag at him about it but I notice that to keep from going off on him I avoid talking to him completely, which I know isn't the right answer either. He doesn't see anything wrong with what he's doing and our lack of communication leaves me struggling to make important decisions alone ( reenlistment in the military, possible military schools to attend, what duty station we may go to, etc). I ask for his advice and he says do what's best babe but then when I tell him I made a decision he says its dumb. I go to sleep every night after praying with hope and in the morning I wake up stressed because almost every night I dream about our family and he's always irritable in my dreams. I feel at times like I am walking on eggshells with him, because I don't know how to approach the conversation without him getting mad. I don't know what to do.