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mylovingangel

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Could someone explain to me why God took my husband so soon. we were together for 31 years and it wasnt enough for me. we have 2 kids together a girl and a boy. now that he is gone they are rebelling very bad. i understand that they just lost their daddy but i lost my husband, lover, confidont, best friend, and every thing under the sun. I know that i told god if he wasnt going to heal him to take him but i really didnt mean it. he had cancer all over his body. when he was diagnosed he weighed 220 when he passed he didnt even weigh 100 pounds. he was diagnosed on 4-6-12 and he passed away on 3-3-13. he didnt live a year. i know that he is better off in the glory of heaven but i miss his touch, his breath, his comfort when i need it. you see i am bi-polar manic/depressive and i really counted on him. he would hold me and tell me that everything was going to be alright. i dont know what i am going to do now without him to hold me and tell me that everything is going to be alright. i luv you all in Christ and may you all be blessed with may things in life.
 
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So sorry about your loss. There are no emotionally satisfying answers to such questions.
 
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danschance

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I am sorry for your loss. Words always seem inadequate at times like these. I doubt if anyone living can say why your husband died. I am certain you are feeling the pain of him being gone from you (especially after so many years) but we always have hope that we will once again embrace in Heaven.

Maybe you could go to a support group that deals with grief. Perhaps it can be a source of strength and support for you. I bet there is even an online group. May God bless you and be near.
 
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hattiebod

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I am sorry for your loss, such a tough time for you. I think the advice given here, in finding a support groups, for your MH and bereavement, is very wise, you need more than an Internet forum at this time. One thing you do have, is your sure and certain hope that you will be re united with your dear husband one day. God loves you, He wants to comfort you, you are not alone. You had such a wonderful marriage, have been so blessed....God hears your prayers. May your faith deepen and you will be comforted as you walk through your valley, may you know His peace and held by almighty God. Bless you, <><
 
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mylovingangel said:
Could someone explain to me why God took my husband so soon. we were together for 31 years and it wasnt enough for me. we have 2 kids together a girl and a boy. now that he is gone they are rebelling very bad. i understand that they just lost their daddy but i lost my husband, lover, confidont, best friend, and every thing under the sun. I know that i told god if he wasnt going to heal him to take him but i really didnt mean it. he had cancer all over his body. when he was diagnosed he weighed 220 when he passed he didnt even weigh 100 pounds. he was diagnosed on 4-6-12 and he passed away on 3-3-13. he didnt live a year. i know that he is better off in the glory of heaven but i miss his touch, his breath, his comfort when i need it. you see i am bi-polar manic/depressive and i really counted on him. he would hold me and tell me that everything was going to be alright. i dont know what i am going to do now without him to hold me and tell me that everything is going to be alright. i luv you all in Christ and may you all be blessed with may things in life.
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I have seen family members lose their loved ones from Cancer. One was a 15 year old child. To watch the person you love slowly waste away is the worst experience a person can go through. Please remember that it's God who is your rock. It's is God who you can ask for the peace that surpasses all understanding.

Please immediately get family counseling. You went through this together and you will come out together. They could be rebellious because they are scared for their own future. I lost a parent at 18 and looking back I should of had the other parent take me to counseling. I was not walking with the lord then, and even if your kids are.....like yourself you need all the help you can get.

My prayers are with you and your children. God Bless you
 
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jerusalem

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one of the easiest things to accept in christianity is that we are not meant to remain in the flesh but become spiritual beings immortal and free......until a loved one dies that is.....many people turn away from God at this serious time of testing but this is the time to draw as close to Him as you can get. hang on to the knowledge that the seperation is temporary. you must count on God to provide for you now and dont isolate yourself. that you have reached out to others here at chat is a sign that you are moving in the right direction. i will pray for you.
 
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hattiebod

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mylovingangel said:
Could someone explain to me why God took my husband so soon. we were together for 31 years and it wasnt enough for me. we have 2 kids together a girl and a boy. now that he is gone they are rebelling very bad. i understand that they just lost their daddy but i lost my husband, lover, confidont, best friend, and every thing under the sun. I know that i told god if he wasnt going to heal him to take him but i really didnt mean it. he had cancer all over his body. when he was diagnosed he weighed 220 when he passed he didnt even weigh 100 pounds. he was diagnosed on 4-6-12 and he passed away on 3-3-13. he didnt live a year. i know that he is better off in the glory of heaven but i miss his touch, his breath, his comfort when i need it. you see i am bi-polar manic/depressive and i really counted on him. he would hold me and tell me that everything was going to be alright. i dont know what i am going to do now without him to hold me and tell me that everything is going to be alright. i luv you all in Christ and may you all be blessed with may things in life.
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I just had another thought about your post sister. 31 years!! wow, you were SO blessed to have your dear husband so long. I know that is not how you view it now, its all too raw, but you are fortunate indeed, so many wonderful memories, a life lived together...so I pray that you will give thanks for your wonderful marriage and know you will see him again one day. For you, you have the loss, the pain, but for your husband, he will see you in the blink of an eye!! These are the promises, no pain, no more tears. So think on all that is good, think of how God has blessed you so mightily and in all things, in all ways give thanks. As you do...He can draw closer to you and you will feel His never ending peace. God Bless you, <><
 
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Ariel82

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I'm sorry for your lost.

I ran across this group and perhaps you could find others who are grieving as well and find comfort in the hope to see your loved ones in Heaven?

http://christianchat.com/group.php?groupid=356

May God keep you and your children.

A thousand years is never enough to spend time with a loved one, but remember after this life God tells us we will be one another for eternity.

If possible reassure your kids that you still love them and remind them of the promised reunion in Heaven.
 
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Graybeard

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Really sorry for your loss, but to be honest we have to be careful what we pray for.
 
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hopesprings

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We have hope, sister....hang onto it for dear life. You will see him again :) I will be praying for you....
 
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agentmom

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I am so sorry for your loss. Hang onto Jesus. Hang onto prayer. I'm going through a lot of difficulty myself, right now, and I can tell you. Jesus can sustain you, when you think you're all alone. And you realize, you are not alone. When you pray, He is there. I will pray for you also. When two agree in prayer, He is there.
 
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iTOREtheSKY

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I have no words. Life is filled with pain & I am deeply sorry for your loss. No one can no suffering so deep except our Lord & Savior Jesus. Continue to give him your pain & sorrow,as he is the only one who can & has bore all that & more for you. In time I pray that you take comfort in knowing that now your husband is pain free & with the Lord. He's still holding you in his arms...just because he is not physically there. I pray that the Lord strengthen you & your children in this,and that God brings so wonderful,loving people along side you to help in the day to day struggles you are going through. I know there are many here on this site 24/7 that will lend an ear or give prayer support if needed. Please consider a grief counselor or someone like a pastor or leader in your church if you have one to speak with & pray with you. 31 years of blessing the Lord gave you with him...Rejoice in this & think of the love you both shared...not on when he was sick. It is hard,but God is faithful...even in the darkest time. God Bless you ,keep you & comfort you now & all the days of your life sister. Peace.
 
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prodigaldaughter

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I am really sorry for your loss and like others I am unable to provide you with the answers you seek. I do hope that in time you will be shown by God what you need or are searching for. I also pray that He gives you the comfort that you seek. You are very blessed to have had such a marriage as many out there long for what you had experienced. I don't think when you said that you wish God to take him away if He wasn't going to heal him that you meant bad. You saw the pain he was going through and you couldn't bear it because you love him very much and still do.

Your children are also grieving they also miss him very much. They are acting out on the pain they are feeling. You both need each other right now. Have you and your children spoken about this? Have you all taken a moment to just hug each other and just cry it out and say that you all miss him??

God is greater than what you are going through He will provide the strength and the comfort you need. It also helps to be in contact with a support group who can provide the assistance you may need.

Once again I am really sorry for your loss. I am sure if everyone here who replied to you could reach out and give you a hug all of us would.
 
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Alysa825

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I know this is hard (and much easier said than done), but you can't focus on why God took him. Trust that God knows what he's doing and he knows what is best. Your husband is in a better place now. He's not sick anymore, he is in his glorified body in heaven with the father. You are very blessed to have seen 31 years with him. I once read about a woman who lost her husband after just 3 months AND she had a newborn baby girl. God will be EVERYTHING you need if you just let him. God will be your confidant, your best friend, your comfort, your strength, your everything under the sun. You need him now more than ever, so run to Him. He loves you so much and He's waiting with open arms.
 
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