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Just a bit of a warning, this is probably going to be long.
My mom and I used to be close when I was little, but when my dad retired from the army and we moved to their home town our relationship started to crumble. I finally got to spend time with my dad which I didn't get to do much of while he was in the army. It turned out that I was a lot like him and so we got even closer but at the same time I got father a way from my mom. She started to heavily criticize me and say some really hurtful things. Things like she knows that I wish she was dead and stuff like that. I don't feel that way by the way and have NEVER said anything like that to her. She would also compare how my dad treats me and how he treated my older brother. It was really unfair and made me feel bad. See my older brother is my half brother and my dad is not his biological dad. I'm not really suppose to know this because he is afraid that I wouldn't love him or would treat him different. So he doesn't know that I know. The only reason I know is because my mom told me. Anyway my dad and my brother have a bad relationship as well and I think its from misunderstandings, mistakes made, and outside people trying to cause problems. So please pray for them too. I guess my mom didn't really like the fact that my relationship with my dad was getting better but whatever the reason was I am no longer able to talk to my mom about things that matter to me because I've been hurt by her over and over. Also have a hard time respecting her too because of this. Several times I've just gave up trying to have a relationship with her. At one point it time she had me feeling so bad about myself and that our problems with each other were my fault that I started thinking everything would be better if I wasn't around or even born. I've gotten over those thoughts with prayer and talking about my feelings with my dad. I've tried to talk to her about us and every time its ended with her not listening and twisting my words the wrong way she ends up mad and I end up mad, hurt, and crying. My mom has a bad relationship with her mom and her mom has a bad one with her mom. I'm leaving for college in the fall and I'm worried about my sister. I'm afraid that the same things will happen to her because she is a lot like me in some ways so much so that people even call her my mini me. She and my dad get along well with each other too. I'm also afraid that in the future if I have any kid and if I have a girl that our relationship is bound to be bad. We really need some prayer and if anyone has any advice I could really use it! I know I need to respect her because God wants me to but I just don't know how anymore. Also I still love her and I know she loves me we just can't get along very well.
My mom and I used to be close when I was little, but when my dad retired from the army and we moved to their home town our relationship started to crumble. I finally got to spend time with my dad which I didn't get to do much of while he was in the army. It turned out that I was a lot like him and so we got even closer but at the same time I got father a way from my mom. She started to heavily criticize me and say some really hurtful things. Things like she knows that I wish she was dead and stuff like that. I don't feel that way by the way and have NEVER said anything like that to her. She would also compare how my dad treats me and how he treated my older brother. It was really unfair and made me feel bad. See my older brother is my half brother and my dad is not his biological dad. I'm not really suppose to know this because he is afraid that I wouldn't love him or would treat him different. So he doesn't know that I know. The only reason I know is because my mom told me. Anyway my dad and my brother have a bad relationship as well and I think its from misunderstandings, mistakes made, and outside people trying to cause problems. So please pray for them too. I guess my mom didn't really like the fact that my relationship with my dad was getting better but whatever the reason was I am no longer able to talk to my mom about things that matter to me because I've been hurt by her over and over. Also have a hard time respecting her too because of this. Several times I've just gave up trying to have a relationship with her. At one point it time she had me feeling so bad about myself and that our problems with each other were my fault that I started thinking everything would be better if I wasn't around or even born. I've gotten over those thoughts with prayer and talking about my feelings with my dad. I've tried to talk to her about us and every time its ended with her not listening and twisting my words the wrong way she ends up mad and I end up mad, hurt, and crying. My mom has a bad relationship with her mom and her mom has a bad one with her mom. I'm leaving for college in the fall and I'm worried about my sister. I'm afraid that the same things will happen to her because she is a lot like me in some ways so much so that people even call her my mini me. She and my dad get along well with each other too. I'm also afraid that in the future if I have any kid and if I have a girl that our relationship is bound to be bad. We really need some prayer and if anyone has any advice I could really use it! I know I need to respect her because God wants me to but I just don't know how anymore. Also I still love her and I know she loves me we just can't get along very well.