I live in the south and over the last 20 years, I have seen many prejudiced white families feel at first that their daughter has betrayed them by marrying a black man.
And most of those families have their hearts changed to some degree about black people, once the grand-babies come along.
Sometimes the relationship lasts and sometimes it doesn't, but the white grandparents can still be seen loving their mixed grand-children either way. It seems to almost force the racism out of them.
Granted, they consider the child to be 51% white in order to deal with their own issues. And granted, they think they can affect the mixed child to be "whiter" rather than "blacker"
Still their hearts are softened. Maybe hardened in another way, but racism is the perpetrator's error and they are the ones that answer for it.
I can't speak about the mentalities of the black grandparents, because while I know many white grandparents that have mixed babies, I don't personally know many black grandparents of mixed babies.
My uncle has changed drastically from his years in his 20's where he thought he was a klan member, to now in his 50's, having a friend with a mixed child and watching that boy grow up into a very respectable and fine young man - mixed teenager.
Eventually, your parents will have to force themselves to come around in their heart, or they will have to cut you off at their own loss.
You are not breaking the 5th commandment by marrying a black guy against their wishes.
The word underneath "honor" there means to very heavily consider their opinion, not blindly obey.
They can still be wrong.
I also see a reverse effect in this in my town, white girls marrying black guys because they are "negatively racist"
When a white girl likes a black guy, then they break up, and she continues to only like black guy after black guy, it's because she is in love with "black" not the guy. Same with the black guys that exclusively date white girls.
If it were really about the person on the inside, there would be some "going back" to be witnessed, but I never see that.
Sadly most mixed couples appear to be fads.
But there is nothing wrong with mixing if it's about the person under the skin.
On another level, rampant modern mixed couples, black guy - white girl are symbolic of Christ and His bride.
In this day and age, Christ is "hidden" in "darkness" and His bride is a pure "white" light of the world.
You can have that for some comfort.
Peace sis!
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