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Bluesprucer

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I'm here venting problems since I called some friends and no on even follows up with me. Geez, you'd think if someone calls you crying, says they are being emotionally abused by spouse, that you would call the next day to see if they're okay. Nope. No calls. I'm not a needy person. I'm usually the one who's helping someone else. That's why it's so hard to finally reach out for help and not have anyone respond in kind.

Do I have to check myself into a mental hospital to get any attention?
 
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brokenclay

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Dear Sister, sorry to hear you are suffering this kind of abuse. Its the worst kind. Its good that you would reach out to other believers for support. You said you are usually the one reaching out to help others. Are there any issues others have had that are similar to your's? Was your spouse always like this? There may not be an excuse, but there may be a reason. Otherwise the obvious solution will be to remove yourself out of the situation. Tell him you don't need that in your life. Tell him to leave or go see a counsellor. Don't forget, you have a relationship with God through Jesus. If you only apply the law against your spouse and leave out biblical principles you won't know the power of prayer. Nor will you know that God manifests his patience, kindness, meekness, longsuffering and above all, love in the spirit he gave you. It seems like you need the fellowship of mature Christian woman as well. I pray for God to bless you now with the wisdom you need to bring peace, hope and joy back into your life. In Christ, Larry :)
 
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penknight

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No, it's just most aren't as kind or thoughtful as you. What you're feeling is normal. You can message me anytime if you need someone to just listen.
 
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tenderhearted

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Sorry about that. I've felt that way before and it makes you feel even more discouraged. There are many selfish people out there. Forgive them. Don't let it get you down. God understands how you feel... you can always depend on him :)
 
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presidente

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Is there a pastor at your church who counsels married couples.
 
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skeezer5840

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So sorry to hear your story...I was in a situation like this with my spouse. It took a period of months to finally realize that God is the only one who knows me best. I hope that you can find comfort in knowing that he will never leave or forsake you. I have learned from my experience that hard times are God's way of calling us to Him. Be faithful, and He will take care of you, and protect you. Of the many ways God works is through others, people who He sends to you for kindness and support. I truly believe that He will send these people your direction in His time, like He did for me! I wish you the very best in your situation and will pray for you!
 
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Bluesprucer

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Thanks for all the encouraging words. I cried a lot yesterday and even made some pretty bold statements to God like, "You are Sovereign, so DO something!" Cuz I've been praying about this for about 10 years now. I think perhaps there was a breakthrough yesterday. I'm not gonna get my hopes up quite yet, but I received a few kind words of hope from H.

I realize men have such a large responsibility overall. It's so important they get they're strength from God. It must be so overwhelming otherwise.
 
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Bluesprucer

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He won't go to counseling anymore; says it doesn't work. There's a lot of Narcissistic tendencies and it goes back to when we met but since my dad is pretty Narc. I didn't see it.

It's really hard to work with someone who always thinks they are right. I have been told the problem is always me. Well, of course I am part of the problem...but it takes two.

The emotional abuse has now been confronted, he said it really hurt his feelings so we'll see if it stops.
 
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Bluesprucer

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OH, I forgot to mention H agreed to go through the Marriage Builders site with me!!! PTL!
 
TheAristocat

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Bluesprucer said:
Do I have to check myself into a mental hospital to get any attention?
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Lol I understand in some very small, minute part what you feel. I sent a question off to a professor some months ago and he has yet to respond. It seemed simple enough to me, but initially the lack of a response - coupled with another misfortune in my life - both angered me and affected my faith. But in the end I'm not necessarily angry at him or God - just that he receives so many questions that he cannot readily respond to a real concern that I had and still have.

I'm not going to suggest that you're doing something wrong, not praying hard enough or that you're bothering people too much. Some times we can do everything right and life still sucks. Sometimes it seems that Satan gets the upper hand. But that can only truly be so if we give in to him. If your friends are doing wrong they deserve to be rebuked - not by you but by God. And I feel he will see to it.

Matthew 25:42-43 For I was hungry and you gave me no food, thirsty and you gave me nothing to drink, a stranger and you did not welcome me, needing clothes and you did not give them to me, sick and in prison and you did not visit me.’
 
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peradona

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hey sister,i truly am sorry aswell that you are going thru that situation..i like wot larry has said,spoke about the power of prayer ,that is actually very true.You c GOD sometymes uses foolish thngs to bless,to shame de devil and most importantly to draw us closer to HIM.Whot you need to understand is that GOD is bigger than any situation,HE might have allowed you to go through that so you'd seek HIM more,people will always be supportive and all that though you may never knw whts in their heart,and them being supportive wont eventually take away the problem.MY sister you are a christian and situations that we go through are not like other peoples's..ours are to strengthen and prepare us for the next battle,and again if allowed by GOD,HE will also provide a way out(james1:1-14)...endour,persevere,dnt rely on people,seek GOD more.GOD bless you!!!
 
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