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Hey all,
I just recently introduced myself to the forums over here, and one of the reasons I'm here is to hear from other Christians about their thoughts on marital vows and faithfulness relative to separation and divorce. This of course falls under the umbrella of separation / divorced engaged for any reason, whether it is due to a spouse who was unfaithful, unsupportive, abusive, etc. The entire gambit.
What are fellow Christian's takes on the general idea of remaining faithful to traditional marital vows beyond separation? I know that by asking this broad question, I may (and hope) to receive responses from various different backgrounds, experiences, denominations, what-have-you. I'm not looking for anything specific -- most of all, I'm looking for honest responses at whatever level of detail or generality.
My biggest issue hasn't necessarily been remaining faithful to my vows (although I did have an affair of my own post-separation for a few months). My problem has been facing my own issues and emotions. Being in the MFT field, I know a bunch of this, that, and the other thing about how to cope and push forward in life through separation and divorce. But having that objective information doesn’t always help — while it’s there to use, I oftentimes still respond to my emotions (e.g. the affair), even when I know that the means and method are unhealthy at even a logistical level. And that oftentimes can entail a LOT of guilt, which the counseling practice is never supposed to promote. It’s a very conflicting process, and I’m quite alone in my own personal life dealing with it since most of my friends are either single or in healthy marriages some several years old.
I just recently introduced myself to the forums over here, and one of the reasons I'm here is to hear from other Christians about their thoughts on marital vows and faithfulness relative to separation and divorce. This of course falls under the umbrella of separation / divorced engaged for any reason, whether it is due to a spouse who was unfaithful, unsupportive, abusive, etc. The entire gambit.
What are fellow Christian's takes on the general idea of remaining faithful to traditional marital vows beyond separation? I know that by asking this broad question, I may (and hope) to receive responses from various different backgrounds, experiences, denominations, what-have-you. I'm not looking for anything specific -- most of all, I'm looking for honest responses at whatever level of detail or generality.
My biggest issue hasn't necessarily been remaining faithful to my vows (although I did have an affair of my own post-separation for a few months). My problem has been facing my own issues and emotions. Being in the MFT field, I know a bunch of this, that, and the other thing about how to cope and push forward in life through separation and divorce. But having that objective information doesn’t always help — while it’s there to use, I oftentimes still respond to my emotions (e.g. the affair), even when I know that the means and method are unhealthy at even a logistical level. And that oftentimes can entail a LOT of guilt, which the counseling practice is never supposed to promote. It’s a very conflicting process, and I’m quite alone in my own personal life dealing with it since most of my friends are either single or in healthy marriages some several years old.